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My manager has banned all vests, skirts and shorts

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itsjustthepricewepay · 26/05/2026 13:32

I could cry right now.

I understand banning thin strapped vests but surely thick straps are fine? She’s also banned all shorts (including knee length) and skirts that sit at the knee. Basically we have to go down to ankle length trousers.

AIBU to genuinely consider quitting my job? Her office is air conditioned but we’re in a horrible hot sun trap!

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BlackCat14 · 26/05/2026 19:59

I think sleeveless tops are fine. I wear a lot for work in the summer. I’m not talking stringy, strappy vests but so many sleeveless tops are fine and professional looking. I think it’s a shame she’s banned those, I’d hate to wear sleeves in hot weather.

DollopOfFun · 26/05/2026 19:58

I'm another one genuinely confused as to why bare shoulders and arms are now deemed inappropriate?

Corporate power dressing and all that jazz has always included sleeveless blouses and dresses, weren't we all supposed to go all Michelle Obama arms at one point?

Pigtailsandall · 26/05/2026 19:55

JulietteHasAGun · 26/05/2026 18:15

No, I’m a senior lecturer. 😀

Same, HE and we can wear what we want. Everyone is wearing birkenstocks, few are in crocs. I don't wear straps tops because we bave aircon, but in the winter I wear hoodies and jeans. As long as we rank well in student surveys and bring in research grants, nothing else matters. People see past clothes.

Myskyscolour · 26/05/2026 19:52

itsjustthepricewepay · 26/05/2026 14:21

Again I don’t see anything wrong with this top myself, I think it would be fine for work?

It looks like an old tshirt, not work attire. I wouldn’t even go outside wearing it - just my opinion though

Greenandyellowday · 26/05/2026 19:51

I might be wrong, but I think legally there is a minimum temperature people can be expected to work in, but no legal maximum 😧

Greenandyellowday · 26/05/2026 19:46

Hippee · 26/05/2026 13:54

If it's "unbearably hot" can you get the temperature taken? I am sure that there are rules about workplace temperatures. Perhaps everyone should work from home until tne temperature reduces - or they rethink the dress code.

I might be wrong, but I think legally there is a minimum temperature people can be expected to work in, but no legal maximum 😧

JJWT · 26/05/2026 19:42

I think you need to go to HR. From your policy I don't think she's entitled to do what she's trying to do. Contentious question, but is she trying to stick to her own cultural norms? When she said ankle length for skirts I wondered if she'd had a strict upbringing?

likeafishneedsabike · 26/05/2026 19:41

ThisOneLife · 26/05/2026 17:04

If it’s suitable for beachwear it’s not sufficiently professional for work.

We seem to have returned to Victorian times. It’s an ARM, not an arse or a tit. And anyway, different work places have different levels of formality.

AfraidToRun · 26/05/2026 19:41

placemats · 26/05/2026 16:49

So why don't you just go in wearing a bikini with a sarong?

If it gets to 40 plus in the office I might, I'd also point out I have a medical condition that is worse with heat so please get some air con that works for our giant glass box so I can concentrate on work and not how unbearably uncomfortable I am.

diddl · 26/05/2026 19:36

So no shorts, no vests & skirts longer than knee length?

Doesn't seem too bad?

BIossomtoes · 26/05/2026 19:30

You can wear weather appropriate clothing that isn’t shorts and a vest top. I’m wearing a voluminous linen mid calf dress with elbow length sleeves, it’s the coolest thing I own. Tight clothes that expose flesh are way hotter.

ChampagneLassie · 26/05/2026 19:30

SherbetDipDap · 26/05/2026 13:45

What are these jobs that you need to look so smart for?

I’m in an NHS role and I’m wearing a floaty above the knee smock dress (with shorts for sweaty leg chafing , not modesty), my boss is wearing long shorts and a cap sleeved blouse, our admin assistant is in a loose kaftan style top and 3/4 lengths, and my other colleagues out on visits/clinics are in a selection of dresses/skirts/shorts with and without sleeves. To my knowledge, none of our clients have complained or died of shock.

would you honestly care if your doctor/lawyer/bank manager/whoever was dressed practically and comfortably but was doing a good job?

Agree I used to have a very smart job in the city, and my workwear uniform was mainly on the knee dresses many of which were sleeveless. I had a jacket for meetings but not just for day to day sitting at my desk. I assume there are some people who are dressing inappropriately and this is the best way she can think to word it to stop them?

CaesarAugusta · 26/05/2026 19:30

itsjustthepricewepay · 26/05/2026 13:48

It’s unclear. She’s suggested ankle length is “most appropriate”

That's ridiculous. Ask her if she seriously claims you should be reverting to the Victorian age. Or would she be happier if you opted for the full nun's robe and wimple?

Marmalademorning · 26/05/2026 19:27

If they want people to return to the office then they should at least allow people to wear weather appropriate clothing.

RitaIncognita · 26/05/2026 19:27

AnnaQuayRules · 26/05/2026 16:50

I think bare shoulders are completely unprofessional in an office setting, so I agree with banning vests, sleeveless dresses etc.

Knee length skirts and shorts, if smart, should be fine.

Don't come to my neck of the woods, then. One of the standard work wear items in a professional setting for women is a sleeveless sheath dress, usually in linen or a linen blend, solid color, knee length or slightly above. Bare shoulders aplenty.

Lievre · 26/05/2026 19:26

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 26/05/2026 19:00

When I was a student nurse, @Lievre - way back in the last century, our uniforms were grass green, thick cotton A-line dresses that zipped up the front, with starched collars that buttoned on - they looked atrocious - and I felt cheated because, in my mind, nurses wore blue. 😂

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Ah I was ‘lucky’ to wear pale blue nylon J cloth uniforms then 😂
With poppers! And so be it if your poppers caught on a door handle when exiting a milk kitchen with your hands full of baby milk on a maternity ward and opened the entire top of uniform (in front of a seating area for new fathers) 🙈

OP does need to count her blessings imho

StrictlyCoffee · 26/05/2026 19:21

itsjustthepricewepay · 26/05/2026 15:57

Why would I be doing that?

im sat here fucking boiling. It’s hot, all I want tomorrow is to wear a skirt and maybe some sandals, and my manager has said no. I’m fuming

Just wear it, what’s she going to do, send you home?’ Make you strip off?

PigglyWigglyOhYeah · 26/05/2026 19:20

Rules exist to protect 99% of people from the 1% who want to do their own thing.

I think we can see from this thread that this data needs updating, as an awful lot of people seem to want to do their own thing and wear their own thing on company time. I am old fashioned, but I agree with the ‘heads, shoulders, knees and toes…but heads are ok’ line posted up thread. I also think that your employer can decide what you should wear, within reason, because they are paying you (which is often overlooked - you’re not doing them a favour by popping into the office, they are paying you). If you don’t like it, go and work somewhere else.

FreeeeeeeeFreeFalling · 26/05/2026 19:18

OP, your manager's decision sounds bizarre.
And I like your modified t-shirt and wouldn't bat an eyelid about anyone wearing it in office context.

So what to do... personally, I think we have to take these things with a pinch of salt. It's f*ing boiling, and to dictate what you wear in the heat while swanning around in her aircon is just poor practice IMO. Wear something YOU would be prepared to stand up in court and defend as reasonable to wear in your context (obviously you're not going to end up in court - I just mean in theory). If she complains, tell her it's hot and you are dressed perfectly reasonably. Bet she won't, though....
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Clearinguptheclutter · 26/05/2026 19:16

Banning skirts (and presumably dresses) is just bizarre
I’m ok with the rest of it
our office is now mega casual. At the moment shorts and flip flops are the order of the day. Though we do tend to cover shoulders for (virtual) client meetings

shuggles · 26/05/2026 19:14

@itsjustthepricewepay Your post really puts my issues into perspective. I thought I had it bad because of occupational illness, but I am horified that there are people who actually can't wear skirts and vests to work.

I definitely agree that you need to quit your job.

FireBreathingDragon · 26/05/2026 19:11

itsjustthepricewepay · 26/05/2026 13:32

I could cry right now.

I understand banning thin strapped vests but surely thick straps are fine? She’s also banned all shorts (including knee length) and skirts that sit at the knee. Basically we have to go down to ankle length trousers.

AIBU to genuinely consider quitting my job? Her office is air conditioned but we’re in a horrible hot sun trap!

Go in nude and say you need a bonus to afford a new wardrobe of office attire.

DaffodilLill · 26/05/2026 19:03

Iris2020 · 26/05/2026 18:59

She's bonkers. Who cares what you wear in an office ?

Other people who also work in the office ? 😂

GaIadriel · 26/05/2026 19:03

There’s no enforceable maximum (so you can’t refuse to work if over 24)

You're within your legal rights to refuse to work if you feel the environment poses an imminent risk though. I would've been well within my rights today with it being 37°C in the truck I was driving and the company mandating that I wear heavy safety trousers, long sleeves, and heavy boots.