My manager has banned all vests, skirts and shorts

Try working in a private nursing home!
full covered shoes, long thick uniform trousers and thick nurses tunic 🥵🥵🥵

@itsjustthepricewepay
perfume policies on medical buildings aren’t for fun. They are because some patients are so sensitive that just walking past another person wearing perfume can trigger a reaction.

I have to get medical care. I also am actually allergic to some of the components in many perfumes. I won’t have an anaphylactic reaction to every single perfume. Yours might be fine for me. Or it could just be the one that means instead of having a calm conversation either my doctor, I struggle because of the serious asthma attack I had from passing you on the way into the building. A longer exposure might mean my lips and tongue started to swell.

I rarely leave my house, but I still have to see the doctor.

Please follow policy and don’t wear perfume in medical buildings.

Check your contract to see quite what the ts & cs are around dress code, so you can have a sensible conversation, in the meantime, a button up waistcoat top & mid length culottes are inline with her views.

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@itsjustthepricewepay, come on, your attitude is hilarious.
’It’s not worn, it’s brand fucking new. Handmade by me.’
i make my own clothes and I know when I’ve done a half arsed job, I might still wear it if I’ve gone to trouble or I love the fabric, maybe until I could be arsed to redo it ,
but I wouldn’t flip out if someone pointed out about the neckline or the binding.
in your pictures your top genuinely looks half done, and you’ve pretty much admitted as much with the puckered neck etc so why are you losing your temper and dropping f bombs everywhere?
your writing style is very similar to someone I know, I’m not friends with her anymore because she’s got such a stinking attitude and I realise now why other friends warned me off her when I first started getting friendly with her.
i know you’re not her because your clothes taste is different…
I don’t understand why you’re so furious if you ‘understand about strappy tops’ , if you’re only wearing trousers and this sleeveless top, then why are you taking it so personally ?
it doesn’t sound like the dress code is explicitly aimed at you, unless there’s something else you’re not saying here?

Get together with your co workers and find out how many are not happy. If you have a majority make a pact to not shower for a week. If she complains then tell her she's brought it on herself. I've been in several management positions and I would rather have a happy, productive workforce rather than enforce outdated and ridiculous ideals. Was the same with tattoos for me - I would rather employ someone with tattoos that was a conscientious worker because tattoos carry a level of commitment and I knew they would be with the company for many years. If your customers don't like it then they aren't the type of customer you need.

It might be the difference in Clinical and Support - at the same time as being told it was unacceptable for somebody to be seen wearing trainers (and no visible ID) on the offchance that a patient or visitor might have seen them walking into a staff only area whilst wearing ID at some undetermined point in the past and recognised them as staff that were shockingly wearing footwear that was specifically recommended by OH, we pointed out that x, y, z wore trainers, polo shirts, etc, to be told 'They're clinical/in that clinic/it's different for them'.

I suspect OP may have been embellishing the truth for a reaction.

I’ve just bought a beautiful cotton top on Vinted for a tenner.

Why? I just bought a cotton vest in H&M for £7 and a cotton dress in Next for £32. I’m wearing a cotton New Look top which cost £10. Nothing elite about my clothing. But I don’t want to be sweaty in non breathable polyester.

Exactly. You can get natural fibres from Primark.

It doesn't "reek of elitism", it happens to be true.

Whilst it's cooler weather over this side of the globe, just this week I had to take some stronger pain killers for a temporary problem. I was at day 2 of a conference with a sleeveless top under a jacket. Should have been fine as conferences are usually freezing. Nope. Turns out a side effect of the pain killers is over heating and sweating. It was awful. A couple of days off winter and I'm there with no sleeves feeling like I've spent hours in a sauna.

Sleeveless workwear is acceptable over here, but in the ilk of the tailored top posted earlier, not the pic OP has posted. Fabric also plays a part. T-shirt fabric is casual vs dressier fabrics. Drape, cut and fall all go together to elevate.

One place I worked years ago, the dress code was terrible. People would have had to dress up to go to a BBQ.

The OP has also said that she would see nothing wrong with wearing those shorts to work ...

Fucking hell - we all wear trainers in my team (although we're community and trusted to get on with it) - I take my lead from what my Clinical Leads wear - which is usually smartish (not distressed look) jeans, trainers and something on top (which isn't meant to be a hoodie but I do often ignore that bit and still wear one).

We work with a lot of clients who've had previous trauma with healthcare professionals (learning disability) and will go into fight or flight mode if someone in a suit starts looming over them - so dressing down is also a reasonable adjustment to help them access what we're trying to do with them.

Also most care homes have their heating set to sauna so we'd bloody die - guy I saw in 33 degree heat earlier this week who was insisting he was "bloody freezing" while his support staff were wilting!

The OP said that men have not been banned from wearing shorts whereas women have. Challenging sexism is hardly a “feminist outcry”.

Men don't wear tank tops, shorts or anything sleeveless to work, otherwise we'd say the same too. No need to try and create a feminist outcry when it's not necessary.

I’m sure some people will try it.

Used to work in the NHS. Sleeveless and strappy tops were specifically banned, along with T-shirts and the 'knee length' skirts sold in Marks and the like that invariably were nearer the wearer's arse than their kneecaps under the banner of not wearing clothing that patients might find inappropriate, even if the only contact with them was walking along the same corridor.

I was also informed that I had to walk completely off site before changing into trainers, which I was less happy about.

Yes, I think she already posted it upthread.

Thank god OP didn’t (and won’t) wear shorts to work then.

When I worked in the NHS anyone who turned up in shorts and a vest would have been advised it was unacceptable by their manager.

My brother is an NHS manager. I'm going to ask him about this. He's always in shirt and suit for work.

What's that got to do with it? OP hasn't suggested anything that was likely to show her bum, and neither has anyone else
Wearing shorts isnt the sane as getting your bum out. Having bare knees or upper arms isn't in anyway comparable to having a builders bum!

She said she wasn't wearing the shorts for work and then asked what was wrong with them. I have seen an entire accounts team in hotpants and vests so yes, in some places it's considered acceptable but there were circumstances (not only 35 degree heat).