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Sister organised engagement party for same week as wedding

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ellie09 · 26/05/2026 12:31

Hi all,

Am I right to be slightly miffed (not hugely, though)?

My sister recently got engaged last month, and we received an invite yesterday to her engagement party.

The engagement party is 4 days before our wedding, so in the same week.

Obviously, I know it wont overshadow a wedding, but it did leave a bit of a sour taste in my mouth.

I obviously havent said anything to family etc.

OP posts:
pteromum · 26/05/2026 12:36

Well it seems strange.

are you close? Do you live nearby? Why has she sent an invite without some discussion? My sister would say I’m thinking x, and I would say eh wedding that week!
My parents would never manage both in a week.

Auroraloves · 26/05/2026 12:36

Look at it as a prequel and warm up to the main event.

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ellie09 · 26/05/2026 12:35

Lightslit · 26/05/2026 12:33

Hmm. You know your sister and her likely intentions I guess, but I agree that's an odd thing to do.

No, she's not usually an attention seeking type etc. Quite quiet etc. She is young though - 19, so it may be some immaturity there (not thinking etc)

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FuckoffeeBeforeCoffee · 26/05/2026 12:35

Yeah, that seems intentional…

user9764325677 · 26/05/2026 12:35

My sister announced her wedding after mine, and booked it in for just before mine. I was engaged under a year, so she organised hers in about a month flat. I ignored everyone who said it felt off at the time, and decades later, realise it was a horrible thing to do. It was a pattern of behaviour I was so used to, I couldn’t see it at the time, but now I realise it was awful.
I am sorry OP.

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ellie09 · 26/05/2026 12:34

CRbear · 26/05/2026 12:32

is it because lots of family are in town for your wedding so they will be able to join in?

I can see why you’re miffed but 4 days before is a fair bit - no one is going to be hungover form it and ruin their enjoyment of your wedding for example.

No, its happening local to our family and we all live relatively close to each other (within 3 miles).

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Lightslit · 26/05/2026 12:33

Hmm. You know your sister and her likely intentions I guess, but I agree that's an odd thing to do.

CRbear · 26/05/2026 12:32

is it because lots of family are in town for your wedding so they will be able to join in?

I can see why you’re miffed but 4 days before is a fair bit - no one is going to be hungover form it and ruin their enjoyment of your wedding for example.

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