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British behaviour in holiday hotel

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Scarfitwere · 26/05/2026 10:52

We are staying at a good all inclusive resort (yes, I know all inclusive is not high end, but this is about as good a one as you can get). I am just shocked and ashamed at fellow british people at breakfast time. Letting their kids make a huge mess by allowing them to get their own food. Huge amounts of wasted food. Multiple untouched plates left on tables. Total disregard for others barging round, blocking walkways etc. When did this become ok?? AIBU with expectations? Bear in mind this is not a cheap rubbish tui-blue type place. I dread to think what they are like!

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Goldenbear · 27/05/2026 10:03

Scarlettjune · 27/05/2026 10:00

I'll answer you, when you answer me.

For the fourth time, why did you ask me if I was Russian?

That was a very xenophobic comment that you made about Russians

How's asking if you are Russian xenophobic? Surely your assumption that there is something wrong with being Russian- you have a lot of prejudices don't you.

Goldenbear · 27/05/2026 10:02

Scarlettjune · 27/05/2026 10:00

I'll answer you, when you answer me.

For the fourth time, why did you ask me if I was Russian?

That was a very xenophobic comment that you made about Russians

Which bits are untrue, do you not make xenophobic remarks towards British people?

Goldenbear · 27/05/2026 10:01

Scarlettjune · 27/05/2026 09:58

No I didn't want it removed. Which comment was it, do you remember?

I'll write it word for word again here.

Why would I delete one of my comments and not delete the rest when all my comments say the same thing

Because as well as making xenophobic remarks, you throw around derogatory remarks that don't reflect on you well at all.

Scarlettjune · 27/05/2026 10:00

Goldenbear · 27/05/2026 09:59

Which bits are untrue, I'll ask again?

I'll answer you, when you answer me.

For the fourth time, why did you ask me if I was Russian?

That was a very xenophobic comment that you made about Russians

Scarlettjune · 27/05/2026 09:59

Goldenbear · 27/05/2026 09:56

Don't be ridiculous, you wanted that removed as presumably you realised as well as your xenophobic comments you were flippant in your use of derogatory terms.

What a hypocrite you are .

You call other people xenophobic, and then you ask people if they are Russian.

You are xenophobic against Russians

Goldenbear · 27/05/2026 09:59

Scarlettjune · 27/05/2026 09:39

Well when she is still writing about me and says things that aren't true to other posters, I decided to stand up for myself. She's a right one!

Which bits are untrue, I'll ask again?

cocoromo · 27/05/2026 09:58

Woahtherehoney · 26/05/2026 11:08

Please don’t call TUI blue type places cheap and rubbish. They are still over £3k for a holiday and is the best that people can afford - don’t shit on others!

Indeed - I have just booked a caravan holiday next year in Blackpool! If Tui blue is naff, I dread to think where I come in 🫣😂

Scarlettjune · 27/05/2026 09:58

Goldenbear · 27/05/2026 09:56

Don't be ridiculous, you wanted that removed as presumably you realised as well as your xenophobic comments you were flippant in your use of derogatory terms.

No I didn't want it removed. Which comment was it, do you remember?

I'll write it word for word again here.

Why would I delete one of my comments and not delete the rest when all my comments say the same thing

Goldenbear · 27/05/2026 09:56

Scarlettjune · 27/05/2026 09:46

Of course they did. Why would I stand by every comment that I have made on here, and then ask for my own post to be deleted. I have never withdrawn any comment of mine in my whole time on mumsnet

Don't be ridiculous, you wanted that removed as presumably you realised as well as your xenophobic comments you were flippant in your use of derogatory terms.

TearyEyedStoat · 27/05/2026 09:56

Goldenbear · 27/05/2026 09:48

Goodness me keep up, they did and that is why their posts were withdrawn by Mumsnet and by themselves. All this faux ignorance is getting tedious

You answered this post of mine at 0932 and have now just responded at 0948 to the exact same post of mine again rudely! Do you need a break?!

It is def not me who needs to keep up ;-)

Scarlettjune · 27/05/2026 09:54

Goldenbear · 27/05/2026 09:53

Why are you responding to a post I made to a different poster.

Because we can all respond to any post.

Scarlettjune · 27/05/2026 09:53

@goldenbear why did you ask me if I was Russian?

Goldenbear · 27/05/2026 09:53

Goditsmemargaret · 27/05/2026 09:50

Who is they?! I had no posts deleted. Or are you calling @Scarlettjune 'they' so you're not accused of gender stereotyping?

Why are you responding to a post I made to a different poster.

jinglejanglescarecat · 27/05/2026 09:52

You lot are acting liking kids in a school playground 😂.

Goldenbear · 27/05/2026 09:52

Goditsmemargaret · 27/05/2026 09:43

I mean a small part of me is impressed by the delusion.

How is it delusional, you wrote it, it is factual!

You living in lots of places doesn't seem to be reflective of your comments as you don't seem to like other cultures and aren't open to them when you resort to stereotypes like the Irish are heavy drinkers.

Goditsmemargaret · 27/05/2026 09:50

Goldenbear · 27/05/2026 09:48

Goodness me keep up, they did and that is why their posts were withdrawn by Mumsnet and by themselves. All this faux ignorance is getting tedious

Who is they?! I had no posts deleted. Or are you calling @Scarlettjune 'they' so you're not accused of gender stereotyping?

Goldenbear · 27/05/2026 09:48

TearyEyedStoat · 27/05/2026 09:24

Who called whom psychotic? The fact you are now accusing me of xenophobia when I have not mentioned anything about Brits abroad just shows your bizarre mindset!

Goodness me keep up, they did and that is why their posts were withdrawn by Mumsnet and by themselves. All this faux ignorance is getting tedious

Goditsmemargaret · 27/05/2026 09:47

Goldenbear · 27/05/2026 09:46

But they are not British so it does meet with your definition.

We must be Russian.

Scarlettjune · 27/05/2026 09:47

Goldenbear · 27/05/2026 09:46

But they are not British so it does meet with your definition.

Why did you ask me if I was Russian? Do you have prejudice against Russian people?

Scarlettjune · 27/05/2026 09:46

Goldenbear · 27/05/2026 09:44

Oh right of course they did.

Of course they did. Why would I stand by every comment that I have made on here, and then ask for my own post to be deleted. I have never withdrawn any comment of mine in my whole time on mumsnet

Goldenbear · 27/05/2026 09:46

TearyEyedStoat · 27/05/2026 09:44

No I am not a fan of xenophobia.

I don’t know if technically the comments on this thread are actually ‘xenophobic’ if it is British people talking about other British people. Xenophobia is a dislike of people from other countries I think (xeno meaning stranger/foreigner in Greek as you would know from your extensive knowledge of all languages). Stereotyping/discrimination possibly, I don’t know if this counts as xenophobia.

Anyway, from seeing how you debate on ‘London’ threads, and on this thread, I don’t really want to get into a circular and pedantic argument with you so you can have the last word here.

But they are not British so it does meet with your definition.

Goditsmemargaret · 27/05/2026 09:44

Scarlettjune · 27/05/2026 09:43

Why did you ask me if I was Russian?

Maybe it's just something that people in her circles say? Sort of like "are you having a good day"

Goldenbear · 27/05/2026 09:44

Scarlettjune · 27/05/2026 09:39

Well when she is still writing about me and says things that aren't true to other posters, I decided to stand up for myself. She's a right one!

What's not true?

TearyEyedStoat · 27/05/2026 09:44

Goldenbear · 27/05/2026 09:32

The poster you are defending, it got deleted and they asked for their comments to be withdrawn at 22.16.

Do you understand the meaning of the word, 'accusation'? I didn't accuse you of anything, I'm asking whether you think xenophobic comments are acceptable as the poster you are defending so passionately, has littered this thread with xenophobic remarks. Do you think xenophobia is acceptable?

No I am not a fan of xenophobia.

I don’t know if technically the comments on this thread are actually ‘xenophobic’ if it is British people talking about other British people. Xenophobia is a dislike of people from other countries I think (xeno meaning stranger/foreigner in Greek as you would know from your extensive knowledge of all languages). Stereotyping/discrimination possibly, I don’t know if this counts as xenophobia.

Anyway, from seeing how you debate on ‘London’ threads, and on this thread, I don’t really want to get into a circular and pedantic argument with you so you can have the last word here.

Goldenbear · 27/05/2026 09:44

Scarlettjune · 27/05/2026 09:35

I didnt ask for my comments to be withdrawn at 22.16. What are you on about?

Edit: ah I see mumsnet have written on that comment "withdrawn at posters request". I didnt ask for it to be withdrawn. I presume mumset must have clicked the wrong button when deleting it.

Edited

Oh right of course they did.