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British behaviour in holiday hotel

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Scarfitwere · 26/05/2026 10:52

We are staying at a good all inclusive resort (yes, I know all inclusive is not high end, but this is about as good a one as you can get). I am just shocked and ashamed at fellow british people at breakfast time. Letting their kids make a huge mess by allowing them to get their own food. Huge amounts of wasted food. Multiple untouched plates left on tables. Total disregard for others barging round, blocking walkways etc. When did this become ok?? AIBU with expectations? Bear in mind this is not a cheap rubbish tui-blue type place. I dread to think what they are like!

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Funiculus · 26/05/2026 12:05

@Dollymylove

Funny isnt it how people are only allowed to criticise the British, well specifically English. Call out any other nationality and you are immediately slammed as being racist. I find the French particularly obnoxious but just give them a wide berth.
Despite the fact everyone seems to hate British people, including our current government, every fucker and his dog wants to be here!!

Literally took the words out of my mouth

Funiculus · 26/05/2026 12:05

@Dollymylove

Funny isnt it how people are only allowed to criticise the British, well specifically English. Call out any other nationality and you are immediately slammed as being racist. I find the French particularly obnoxious but just give them a wide berth.
Despite the fact everyone seems to hate British people, including our current government, every fucker and his dog wants to be here!!

Literally took the words out of my mouth

Tessasanderson · 26/05/2026 12:04

NotTheOrdinary · 26/05/2026 11:02

What's wrong with letting kids get their own food?

Unreasonable waste is wrong.

There is nothing wrong with a child getting their own food. There is something very wrong if a parent fails to parent them IF they get so much as too waste.

I think we all know the difference

Luckystar67 · 26/05/2026 12:03

nobodysdaughter · 26/05/2026 11:41

Honestly I don’t think it’s the price of the resort that’s the problem. I’ve stayed in AI hotels in Benidorm and the mams (and dads) are on it helping their kids. You sound like a frightful snob.

I assume that was not the Flamingo Oasis then, I stayed there around 15 years ago and still grimace when I think about the place!

FestivalOfNight · 26/05/2026 12:02

Urgentbiscuitrequired · 26/05/2026 11:03

If you are going to go on holiday somewhere where there are lots of people, you will always encounter undesirable behaviour to some extent. It sounds like you need to go somewhere more isolated, where this sort of thing can't get to you and ruin your holiday.

I usually do UK breaks (disabled son) in a cottage for this reason. I need people to tolerate my son (who can't help his disabilities) as much I need to tolerate other people being people.

You have to work out what you value more - a convenient package holiday in the sun, or somewhere more isolated away from behaviour you don't like. Sadly you can't have it all.

I think OP's point is that it's Brits. It's usually Brits, and it's down to poor parenting. We used to have a holiday chalet in France in a place not generally frequented by Brits. It was lovely and relaxed, civilised and quiet, even with lots of French, Dutch and German families around. I remember one day, at the Centre Nautique in the town, there was a rowdy bunch playing a stereo and trampling the flowers. The behavior was so out of character for the place and drew lots of attention. I was so ashamed when it became obvious they were English. We are, sadly, as a society, shameless and proud.

Sidebeforeself · 26/05/2026 11:59

SunnyRedSnail · 26/05/2026 11:28

@Scarfitwere YANBU!! I'd be mortified to be English!

This is why I stay in a half board hotel that will be mostly foreign people there and just a handful of "well trained" English! The uncouth don't tend to bother with places where they don't speak English and serve "foreign stuff" to eat! My kids are well trained and polite!

I'm a teacher in a state secondary school and I really think we need to go back to basics with parenting, and give parents a guide book on how to raise a child!! We took a Y7 residential trip with 100 kids, and the amount of kids who can't use a knife and fork, don't sit at a table to eat, take more food than they intend to eat etc... is shocking. We also banned phones, and the kids didn't know how to socialise. By the end of the week, they were finally having a laugh about the stuff they'd done all week rather than talking about what someone else had done on TikTok.

“Foreign’ and ‘English”?..please ,please just stay at home for the sake of us oiks.

Lomonald · 26/05/2026 11:59

Scarfitwere · 26/05/2026 11:55

Maybe i'm wrong about tui blue. What i mean is the places with big film characters dressed up, people drinking to excess, feral kids etc. If valuing polite, decent and considerate behaviour makes me a snob then I guess I am.

You were either in a tui.hotel or not surely you know who you booked with?

GasPanic · 26/05/2026 11:59

The whole point of going AI is to be lazy. No thinking. No effort. Just trooping backwards and forwards between the pool and the dining hall.

So probably not surprising that a load of slackers turn up.

SeriaMau · 26/05/2026 11:58

NotTheOrdinary · 26/05/2026 11:02

What's wrong with letting kids get their own food?

How long have you got?

TearyEyedStoat · 26/05/2026 11:57

Scarfitwere · 26/05/2026 11:55

Maybe i'm wrong about tui blue. What i mean is the places with big film characters dressed up, people drinking to excess, feral kids etc. If valuing polite, decent and considerate behaviour makes me a snob then I guess I am.

I am an even bigger snob. Wouldn’t go AI if it was free. Genuinely.

Scarfitwere · 26/05/2026 11:55

Maybe i'm wrong about tui blue. What i mean is the places with big film characters dressed up, people drinking to excess, feral kids etc. If valuing polite, decent and considerate behaviour makes me a snob then I guess I am.

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InOverMyHead84 · 26/05/2026 11:54

BIossomtoes · 26/05/2026 11:53

Perhaps you’ve never experienced German, French or Italian hotel guests at breakfast. Or increasingly Russians.

In Malta, Russians were increasingly getting that reputation a few years ago.

70Cats · 26/05/2026 11:53

Would never again go on AI. It was full of drunks.

BIossomtoes · 26/05/2026 11:53

Goditsmemargaret · 26/05/2026 11:45

In my experience British people are not as you describe.

Perhaps you’ve never experienced German, French or Italian hotel guests at breakfast. Or increasingly Russians.

VivienneDelacroix · 26/05/2026 11:53

Money doesn't buy class, OP.
Read into that what you will.

Rocknrollstar · 26/05/2026 11:50

Scarfitwere · 26/05/2026 10:52

We are staying at a good all inclusive resort (yes, I know all inclusive is not high end, but this is about as good a one as you can get). I am just shocked and ashamed at fellow british people at breakfast time. Letting their kids make a huge mess by allowing them to get their own food. Huge amounts of wasted food. Multiple untouched plates left on tables. Total disregard for others barging round, blocking walkways etc. When did this become ok?? AIBU with expectations? Bear in mind this is not a cheap rubbish tui-blue type place. I dread to think what they are like!

We go to a ‘Tui blue place’ that is adults only and really quite lovely. But we go adults only because we can and because when we didn’t we were on the receiving end of badly behaved children and parents who paid no attention to their children.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 26/05/2026 11:50

I can’t help remembering a very nice hotel in Prague, where two well dressed and affluent looking couples at a nearby table were taking a mass of food from the extensive breakfast buffet, and surreptitiously slipping it into bags - while looking around to make sure no staff were watching. Fruit, yogurts, rolls that they’d just filled with ham or cheese, croissants, you name it.

And no, they weren’t Brits! I couldn’t definitely make out the language, but it certainly wasn’t English or French.

And shortly before the Brexit referendum, we were staying with dd, SiL, and baby Gdd at a very nice, family-friendly beach hotel in Crete. The manager told us he was very concerned that if we voted to leave the EU, his British guests would stop coming, since in his opinion they were usually the best behaved - and gave staff the least trouble.

And I’ve certainly heard of at least one hotel in Greece where they stopped providing buffet meals, because guests of a certain nationality (not Brits) were routinely taking a mass of food that they then left uneaten - to be thrown away.

TearyEyedStoat · 26/05/2026 11:48

Never done AI and never will. We have done cheaper holidays but never all-inclusive because of this uncivilised behaviour. No thanks.

UninitendedShark · 26/05/2026 11:47

Woahtherehoney · 26/05/2026 11:08

Please don’t call TUI blue type places cheap and rubbish. They are still over £3k for a holiday and is the best that people can afford - don’t shit on others!

This^ I’ve saved for 2 years to take my kids away and this is what we are going to.

Having money doesn’t mean you have good manners and vice versa.

InOverMyHead84 · 26/05/2026 11:46

I agree with the sentiment here, there is a perception amongst some families that if it's all been paid for then it doesn't need treating with respect.

The food uneaten/touched could have been enjoyed by someone else, any mess made makes life more difficult for the workers at the hotel. It's just common courtesy.

It's not the type of holiday that's the issue, it's the mindset of what you hope would be the minority which makes things worse for the majority.

Goditsmemargaret · 26/05/2026 11:45

BIossomtoes · 26/05/2026 11:07

It happens in 5* hotels and in my experience British people are quite high in the politeness stakes, at least they understand the concept of queuing.

In my experience British people are not as you describe.

Lomonald · 26/05/2026 11:45

WonderingWanda · 26/05/2026 11:37

Not all hotels are like this and it's not always Brits. But I have stayed in a cheap AI in Lanzarote once where I did see the behaviour you've described and it was all Brits too. Basically, the adults getting drunk already at breakfast, kids running feral eating pick and mix and running around the hotel complex discarding hot dogs all over the place. It was grim. Most other AI's I've been to have been much nicer. I tend to read the trip advisor reviews very carefully and avoid anywhere with a hint of Brits abroad .....people moaning about watered down AI cocktails etc is often a clue.

Oh you might have been in the same Lanzarote hotel as me! ! We are not English so didn't realise it was English half term it was an eye opener 😳

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 26/05/2026 11:44

NotTheOrdinary · 26/05/2026 11:02

What's wrong with letting kids get their own food?

Nothing, as long as they only take what they’re going to eat, and don’t make a mess with it!

BIossomtoes · 26/05/2026 11:43

This behaviour is universal. I’ve never had an AI holiday in my life but I’ve seen plenty of it.

Dollymylove · 26/05/2026 11:43

Funny isnt it how people are only allowed to criticise the British, well specifically English. Call out any other nationality and you are immediately slammed as being racist. I find the French particularly obnoxious but just give them a wide berth.
Despite the fact everyone seems to hate British people, including our current government, every fucker and his dog wants to be here!!