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British behaviour in holiday hotel

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Scarfitwere · 26/05/2026 10:52

We are staying at a good all inclusive resort (yes, I know all inclusive is not high end, but this is about as good a one as you can get). I am just shocked and ashamed at fellow british people at breakfast time. Letting their kids make a huge mess by allowing them to get their own food. Huge amounts of wasted food. Multiple untouched plates left on tables. Total disregard for others barging round, blocking walkways etc. When did this become ok?? AIBU with expectations? Bear in mind this is not a cheap rubbish tui-blue type place. I dread to think what they are like!

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GreenCandleWax · 26/05/2026 15:19

x2boys · 26/05/2026 11:07

Of course its only british children who dont know how to behave
No doubt every other child from other countries sat there quietly.

They usually do, in fact. Why is it that British parents have badly behaved DC - at home or abroad?

Goldenbear · 26/05/2026 15:18

Goditsmemargaret · 26/05/2026 15:08

You are quite wrong.

It is you who is wrong. Have you ever been skiing, it is most certainly those listed above causing all the obnoxious behaviour. In fact, IME there aren't many Brits that ski compared to other European countries so I know that bad tourist behaviour is not just a Brit thing.

Backedoffhackedoff · 26/05/2026 15:17

PrincessofWells · 26/05/2026 15:07

Well it isn't about me, but my last break this winter was 3 months in Asia. We don't like flying for much less time because we can't justify the environmental impact.

We do travel in France, Spain and Portugal in autumn most years, we use a tent though, not a caravan and stay in quiet areas. Yes we allow other people to dictate our choices to the extent of on the whole avoiding travelling at peak times and avoiding tourist areas. We are lucky in that we are able to do that.

Re the pyramids - I'm sure you are aware they are on the edge of the city and the experience is not what people expect. Again we avoided the worst by arriving at 5am in January, it was pretty quiet.

We don't do boat trips on grockle boats - we had many years on our own yacht and wouldnt enjoy being around people drinking and preferred swimming off our own boat in the ocean, without other people around, which is a privilege for which I'm still grateful.

So there you are. Some of us are very lucky and privileged to be able to do things without relying on being with other people.

I must admit to frequenting Carrefour when I lived in Spain, but I can't vouch for the Brie. We bought our cheeses mostly in the local market.

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Yeah, chinny reckon

Ilovemsrachel · 26/05/2026 15:11

GasPanic · 26/05/2026 14:59

Posh people don't go on AI holidays almost by definition.

Bollocks. I’m surrounded by quite posh people and they almost all go AI. Usually Ikos and Sani in Europe and then upscale places in the Caribbean, Maldives etc.

The poshest of course have second homes but look around any Ikos and you’ll hear a few plums in mouths

Goditsmemargaret · 26/05/2026 15:08

BIossomtoes · 26/05/2026 11:53

Perhaps you’ve never experienced German, French or Italian hotel guests at breakfast. Or increasingly Russians.

You are quite wrong.

Goldenbear · 26/05/2026 15:07

Backedoffhackedoff · 26/05/2026 15:03

French and Spanish people aren’t very big users of holiday resorts. The French tend to holiday in their own country more, and the Spanish sometimes holiday locally more but are also generally poorer than other Europeans to take these big summer hols

I have Danish family stayed at a five star hotel in Spain with them and most of the guests were French or Spanish. The French children were very highly strung, their manners and ability to quietly sit at a table didn't stand out at all!

PrincessofWells · 26/05/2026 15:07

Backedoffhackedoff · 26/05/2026 14:53

This is such a bizarre way to make life choices. How many other things would you allow the other people who attend it to dictate whether you do?

What about when you’re visiting the pyramids standing next to some AI dweller, on a boat trip on a Greek island, seeing the acropolis, Machu Picchu say? Dismiss them all in case you happen to be near a AI dweller in the gift shop?

I bet you’re one of the France caravan site insecure types whose adventure begins and ends at carrefour

Well it isn't about me, but my last break this winter was 3 months in Asia. We don't like flying for much less time because we can't justify the environmental impact.

We do travel in France, Spain and Portugal in autumn most years, we use a tent though, not a caravan and stay in quiet areas. Yes we allow other people to dictate our choices to the extent of on the whole avoiding travelling at peak times and avoiding tourist areas. We are lucky in that we are able to do that.

Re the pyramids - I'm sure you are aware they are on the edge of the city and the experience is not what people expect. Again we avoided the worst by arriving at 5am in January, it was pretty quiet.

We don't do boat trips on grockle boats - we had many years on our own yacht and wouldnt enjoy being around people drinking and preferred swimming off our own boat in the ocean, without other people around, which is a privilege for which I'm still grateful.

So there you are. Some of us are very lucky and privileged to be able to do things without relying on being with other people.

I must admit to frequenting Carrefour when I lived in Spain, but I can't vouch for the Brie. We bought our cheeses mostly in the local market.

Goldenbear · 26/05/2026 15:04

FestivalOfNight · 26/05/2026 12:02

I think OP's point is that it's Brits. It's usually Brits, and it's down to poor parenting. We used to have a holiday chalet in France in a place not generally frequented by Brits. It was lovely and relaxed, civilised and quiet, even with lots of French, Dutch and German families around. I remember one day, at the Centre Nautique in the town, there was a rowdy bunch playing a stereo and trampling the flowers. The behavior was so out of character for the place and drew lots of attention. I was so ashamed when it became obvious they were English. We are, sadly, as a society, shameless and proud.

This is simply untrue, like others have said how much experience do you have of other nationalities.

Backedoffhackedoff · 26/05/2026 15:03

keepswimming38 · 26/05/2026 15:01

It is quite noticeable in some resorts that British kids don’t necessarily know how to sit at a table and eat. Constantly jumping up and down, running back for more food. I do think French and Spanish kids understand the concept of dining tables and table manners much more.

French and Spanish people aren’t very big users of holiday resorts. The French tend to holiday in their own country more, and the Spanish sometimes holiday locally more but are also generally poorer than other Europeans to take these big summer hols

FishersGate · 26/05/2026 15:03

I really disagree with it just bring british people. We have stayed st a very expensive all inclusive with multiple a la cartes too. Plenty of different nationalities allowing pile ups of food, one large table of 8 were collecting the display trays of deserts for the table, being stopped by staff. They were middle Eastern. No queuing ever from other nationalities. I think some brits go wrong with the alcohol but no worse than ither kids with food concerns

keepswimming38 · 26/05/2026 15:01

It is quite noticeable in some resorts that British kids don’t necessarily know how to sit at a table and eat. Constantly jumping up and down, running back for more food. I do think French and Spanish kids understand the concept of dining tables and table manners much more.

StephensLass1977 · 26/05/2026 15:01

Ponoka7 · 26/05/2026 11:15

So no staff members went to clean it up and corrected the behaviour? If not, you're in a shit hotel.

Have you seen what happens when a non-parent tries to correct the behaviour of someone else's kid? I tried it once - in our last house all the neighbourhood kids started using my front garden as a hanging out/meeting point for some reason - I don't even have kids with my partner - they'd literally sit on my grass, climb on our little wall, throw sweet wrappers, bounce the ball against my windows, you name it. It was so odd. I asked them to stop once. I was polite.

OMG the reaction of one of the mothers. Came round all guns blazing, threatened to knock me and my partner out. Then her husband came round later and threatened the exact same. Yes we called the police but we really would rather have avoided that kind of aggro. All she had to do was apologise and tell her kid not to do it again, but of course with some people, their kids can do no wrong. She was a nosy moo who didn't work, and she made sure all her little cronies in the area made our lives there a misery.

Backedoffhackedoff · 26/05/2026 15:01

LeedsLoiner · 26/05/2026 15:00

In my experience the Finns !! Make the Russians/Brits/Irish look like teetotallers !!

Oh god yes so true- I forgot about our northern friends- the Swedish are mad too 😂🙈

Flinderskleepers · 26/05/2026 15:00

British behaviour? Have you never encountered people from other countries abroad? Trust me, it's not just Brits that are rude/entitled/messy.

Backedoffhackedoff · 26/05/2026 15:00

GasPanic · 26/05/2026 14:59

Posh people don't go on AI holidays almost by definition.

I do 😁

Sunloungerhogger · 26/05/2026 15:00

Meadowfinch · 26/05/2026 11:15

Don't choose an all inclusive next time. When something is labelled as free, people will treat it as if it has no value.

I think unfortunately this is true. I do also think people in general have just got really entitled and inconsiderate lately, particularly when it comes to lazy / gentle parenting (puts hard hat on…..).

LeedsLoiner · 26/05/2026 15:00

Backedoffhackedoff · 26/05/2026 13:56

“Although the getting drunk as early as possible does seem to be British”

really not. See Russians, Dutch, Irish

In my experience the Finns !! Make the Russians/Brits/Irish look like teetotallers !!

GasPanic · 26/05/2026 14:59

LauritaEvita · 26/05/2026 14:06

Seeing as you’re so keen to point out that you’ve paid a lot (and so imagined you’d be safe from the hoi polloi), I must comment that it’s always the poshos who have the worst behaved kids in my experience. We stayed at a very expensive resort last year with a load of ‘baby led weaning’ crunchy mamas who were letting their incapable kids make a mess all over the tables and floor for the staff to clean up, much to the disgust of me and my beautifully non messy common family.

Posh people don't go on AI holidays almost by definition.

Floppyearedlab · 26/05/2026 14:58

IAMFLUFF · 26/05/2026 11:19

Fine unless they are ferrel

This.
They should be supervised until they can be trusted so they aren't spilling things, putting spoons back in the wrong place, taking things and leaving them, reaching ups too high and pulling things over or touching things and then not eating them.

Hlglu56 · 26/05/2026 14:53

Last time I went to Menorca I had a similar experience. The parents were as bad as the children, eating off their plates whilst walking around the buffet loading their plates up. Children running riot. Throwing rubbish all over the floor. The British were kept in a separate block from other nationalities where there was a different restaurant. There’s loads of complaints on Tripadvisor about it but I can totally understand why other nationalities would not want to dine with us.

TwoPercentForLookingInTheMirrorTwice · 26/05/2026 14:53

SwatTheTwit · 26/05/2026 14:38

Damn I bet you were itching to slide in some racism, I hope that made you feel better

Hmm very interesting that you interpreted that post in that way without even an ounce of self awareness. I think you are overdue a little reflection time. Damn.

Backedoffhackedoff · 26/05/2026 14:53

PrincessofWells · 26/05/2026 14:45

I've said in my post pretty much. People who don't give a shit about the environment or financial consequences for the area. Ecologically they are disastrous.

This is such a bizarre way to make life choices. How many other things would you allow the other people who attend it to dictate whether you do?

What about when you’re visiting the pyramids standing next to some AI dweller, on a boat trip on a Greek island, seeing the acropolis, Machu Picchu say? Dismiss them all in case you happen to be near a AI dweller in the gift shop?

I bet you’re one of the France caravan site insecure types whose adventure begins and ends at carrefour

Ineedtoseetobelieve32 · 26/05/2026 14:49

@Scarfitwere Is this Sani or an Ikos?

Ilovemsrachel · 26/05/2026 14:47

PrincessofWells · 26/05/2026 14:45

I've said in my post pretty much. People who don't give a shit about the environment or financial consequences for the area. Ecologically they are disastrous.

I say the same about people with second homes. Not the sort of people I’d ever want to fraternise with.

Ilovemsrachel · 26/05/2026 14:46

Backedoffhackedoff · 26/05/2026 14:40

What sort of people book an AI holiday?

Common people like me probably

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