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British behaviour in holiday hotel

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Scarfitwere · 26/05/2026 10:52

We are staying at a good all inclusive resort (yes, I know all inclusive is not high end, but this is about as good a one as you can get). I am just shocked and ashamed at fellow british people at breakfast time. Letting their kids make a huge mess by allowing them to get their own food. Huge amounts of wasted food. Multiple untouched plates left on tables. Total disregard for others barging round, blocking walkways etc. When did this become ok?? AIBU with expectations? Bear in mind this is not a cheap rubbish tui-blue type place. I dread to think what they are like!

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AgnesMcDoo · 26/05/2026 16:03

Woahtherehoney · 26/05/2026 11:08

Please don’t call TUI blue type places cheap and rubbish. They are still over £3k for a holiday and is the best that people can afford - don’t shit on others!

Indeed. Completely snotty OP

SmashingGemini · 26/05/2026 16:01

Love TUI Blue. Stayed in an adults only one last year and it was fab. Why waste money just so you can say you’ve been somewhere posher? Snob.

JudgeJ · 26/05/2026 16:00

NotTheOrdinary · 26/05/2026 11:02

What's wrong with letting kids get their own food?

Nothing, if they have been taught how to do it without making themselves look like pigs.

I know 'Brit', Briton is the correct term, bashing is an Olympic sport but I have seen poor behaviour from many nationalities, if one is travelling with a British travel company then one is likely to get skewed sample of miscreants.

unicornpower · 26/05/2026 15:58

Bit rude - we went to a Tui blue with our children and it was lovely. I didn’t realise they were ‘cheap’ it cost us 3.5k! You sound very snobby. Posh hotels and rich people can be just as rude and wasteful.

PilatesAndLattes · 26/05/2026 15:57

You sound fun. I bet your children had a joyful upbringing 😬

Metromayhem · 26/05/2026 15:56

RunsABit · 26/05/2026 14:12

I completely agree that often there are excellent meat (and fish) and salad options but wanting people to supervise their children and have an awareness that cross-contamination is a very real hazard is not being 'fussy'*. I have coeliac disease and watch with horror as children and adults use salad tongs to help themselves to pasta and put the tongs back in the salad or help themselves to red snapper with a bread roll in their hand, putting even more limitations on an already incredibly limited diet.

Ant plus one for the 'Russians are mental guests' - in one resort I saw a man ask for a 12-egg omelette, a woman take an entire gateau for herself and nearby tables used by Russian families covered in overflowing plates of uneaten food along with zero conception of allowing people to exit a lift before getting into it!

*Using your term as an opportunity to highlight the above, not have a go at you @Metromayhem 🙂

Oh no I totally agree! This was more aimed at those who’ve said the food is always crap. 😊

Whysnothingsimple · 26/05/2026 15:53

I’ve travelled a lot. There are nationalities with a lot lower hygiene and behavioural standards than British people.

BrownBookshelf · 26/05/2026 15:53

It is genuinely quite funny that anyone thinks British tourists are unlike any others in having a bad reputation when Russian tourists exist.

Backedoffhackedoff · 26/05/2026 15:47

SunnyRedSnail · 26/05/2026 15:39

I'm not generalising on any ethnicity.

Given in many countries "British tourists" have an awful reputation for drunken, unruly behaviour and bad manners, and tourists from other countries generally don't, then this isn't a generalisation from their point of view. It's a fact.

I have in no way said all Brits behave like this. But in many tourist resorts, unfortunately we do have an awful reputation, and this has been all over the news. Spain, France, The Netherlands, Czech Republic, Greece, Croatia etc... most of these now have implicated rules/laws to deter antisocial behaviour. e.g. fines, no drinking in the street, maximum number of drinks per day in all some inclusive resorts, no topless men (or women!) etc... all these are aimed predominantly at the Brits. Just read the local papers!

This is cack. Maybe in the days of Ibiza uncovered when previously improverished med islands made themselves as economy by attracting young people to get drunk, but that was the 90s.

i have never, ever seen a paper talking about how awful Brits are and neither does “everyone” know about it. Believe it or not, the Germans Dutch etc are having their own discussions about how embarrassing their tourists are

SunnyRedSnail · 26/05/2026 15:44

TwoPercentForLookingInTheMirrorTwice · 26/05/2026 14:20

No you didn’t 🤥. You clearly have strong opinions, why don’t you at least stand by your own words? How embarrassing.

”I’d be mortified to be English” — “I mEaNt pEOpLe wHo sPeAk tHe EnGLiSh lAnGUaGe” yeah right 🤣

Yes, I have strong opinions about people being respectful and kind.

I really don't see the issue with that.

If those values aren't important to you then that's your choice.

Backedoffhackedoff · 26/05/2026 15:39

I often book AI but will eat dinner out and usually lunch as we will be out for the day.

It’s a misconception that people who book AI stay in the hotel 24/7 eating a drinking. A few will, I’m sure- I’ve done it myself diving in sharm as there is nothing else in the desert- but in southern Europe or the Caribbean we are out and about most days

eta- neither H or I drink alcohol either

PrincessofWells · 26/05/2026 15:39

BIossomtoes · 26/05/2026 15:31

I think you created a misleading impression with “private yacht” as most people envision something like Abronavich’s that cost tens of millions. We know people who own ocean going boats that cost considerably less than that.

Oh God yes, ours was only 40 feet, two heads and two double berths. We had Abramovitch rock up next to us once in the med, nr Gibraltar. They opened the garage door and our peace and quiet was gone. Jet skis buzzing around, then the crew put up the inflatables, we moved 😂

SunnyRedSnail · 26/05/2026 15:39

TwoPercentForLookingInTheMirrorTwice · 26/05/2026 14:32

That’s a real rib tickler that. And totally explains away the generalisations you made. Pointing out those quotation marks around “well trained” really changes the tone of your post, and the contempt you show towards English people magically disintegrates.

And just to reassure you, nobody thinks there’s an issue with wanting to be around kind considerate people with good manners. The issue is when you attempt to equate poor behaviour to a particular ethnicity, rather than understanding that it’s a sad fact that humans from all walks of life have the capacity to be rude, inconsiderate, ignorant and display all manner of negative behaviours. I hope that clears things up for you.

And just FYI, making generalisations based upon ethnicity is impolite.

I'm not generalising on any ethnicity.

Given in many countries "British tourists" have an awful reputation for drunken, unruly behaviour and bad manners, and tourists from other countries generally don't, then this isn't a generalisation from their point of view. It's a fact.

I have in no way said all Brits behave like this. But in many tourist resorts, unfortunately we do have an awful reputation, and this has been all over the news. Spain, France, The Netherlands, Czech Republic, Greece, Croatia etc... most of these now have implicated rules/laws to deter antisocial behaviour. e.g. fines, no drinking in the street, maximum number of drinks per day in all some inclusive resorts, no topless men (or women!) etc... all these are aimed predominantly at the Brits. Just read the local papers!

Mistymagic77 · 26/05/2026 15:37

I want to know where you are 😂! I love a short (week-ish) AI for ease and not having to think re restaurants (so long as it’s not just buffet at hotel) but yes the British sadly let the side down.

PrincessofWells · 26/05/2026 15:35

takealettermsjones · 26/05/2026 15:22

It sounds amazing, and I would not judge you for it - but I assume having a private yacht also has an environmental impact? As does flying (albeit I know you said you go long haul to minimise this).

People choose their own priorities/red lines around this stuff. Maybe those going to AI resorts are meticulous recyclers or volunteer at hedgehog sanctuaries or eschew cars in favour of rollerblading everywhere. 😁

Yes that's true. But my point is also about the financial impact. Generally people on AI are not using local bars and restaurants so the money is not being spent in the local environment, it's usually going to large holiday corporations. It's true that they are sometimes employing local people but often these are brought in from other countries. So there is the environmental impact without the financial gain.

Re the yachts environmental impact, it was a sailing boat and our diesel bill for the year was about 100 euros, so not an impact much. Other than the build had an environmental impact I guess, but she's still going strong with our buyer so is doing well.

I couldn't get on with the rollerblading but the electric bikes are quite good 😏
I just bought some fold up ones made by Pedibal. A great little company - if anyone needs an electric bike - check them out.

bookmarket · 26/05/2026 15:32

Rocknrollstar · 26/05/2026 11:50

We go to a ‘Tui blue place’ that is adults only and really quite lovely. But we go adults only because we can and because when we didn’t we were on the receiving end of badly behaved children and parents who paid no attention to their children.

I said yabu because of your TUI Blue comment. I've been to a TUI Blue hotel which was adults only and it was delightful. They cater well for allergies so needs must. The food was really good and the hotel relaxing.

In the past I've self catered when I had young children and gravitated to places where there are fewer Brits.

Money doesn't buy you manners.

BIossomtoes · 26/05/2026 15:31

PrincessofWells · 26/05/2026 15:23

You can't envisage people living my lifestyle, but there it is. And I vote Labour.

I think you created a misleading impression with “private yacht” as most people envision something like Abronavich’s that cost tens of millions. We know people who own ocean going boats that cost considerably less than that.

angelos02 · 26/05/2026 15:29

It's not just AI. I was at a B&B adults only hotel. Quite an expensive one. There was always prosecco out for breakfast - I think the idea was to make mimosas. Anyway, one youngish lad had a row with his girlfriend, she stormed off and he proceeded to get a whole bottle, take it to his table, rang his mate and spent the next hour effing and blinding about what a b*tch she was at the top of his voice.

JJMama · 26/05/2026 15:28

The ’brits Abroad’ are notoriously vile and poorly behaved; this is nothing new. All Europeans know it and despise it.

Yes it’s embarrassing if you’re a decent British person.

Backedoffhackedoff · 26/05/2026 15:27

PrincessofWells · 26/05/2026 15:23

You can't envisage people living my lifestyle, but there it is. And I vote Labour.

I know people who live such a lifestyle.

Madformaltesers · 26/05/2026 15:26

Cheap rubbish TUI Blue?? We paid over 10k for the one in the Maldives and have been to most of them, none of which have been under 3k.
I am assuming you only book via high end bespoke travel agents, well unfortunately for you even some people with feral children have money to spend. Maybe a villa or self catering would be a better fit?

PrincessofWells · 26/05/2026 15:23

Backedoffhackedoff · 26/05/2026 15:17

Yeah, chinny reckon

You can't envisage people living my lifestyle, but there it is. And I vote Labour.

takealettermsjones · 26/05/2026 15:22

PrincessofWells · 26/05/2026 15:07

Well it isn't about me, but my last break this winter was 3 months in Asia. We don't like flying for much less time because we can't justify the environmental impact.

We do travel in France, Spain and Portugal in autumn most years, we use a tent though, not a caravan and stay in quiet areas. Yes we allow other people to dictate our choices to the extent of on the whole avoiding travelling at peak times and avoiding tourist areas. We are lucky in that we are able to do that.

Re the pyramids - I'm sure you are aware they are on the edge of the city and the experience is not what people expect. Again we avoided the worst by arriving at 5am in January, it was pretty quiet.

We don't do boat trips on grockle boats - we had many years on our own yacht and wouldnt enjoy being around people drinking and preferred swimming off our own boat in the ocean, without other people around, which is a privilege for which I'm still grateful.

So there you are. Some of us are very lucky and privileged to be able to do things without relying on being with other people.

I must admit to frequenting Carrefour when I lived in Spain, but I can't vouch for the Brie. We bought our cheeses mostly in the local market.

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It sounds amazing, and I would not judge you for it - but I assume having a private yacht also has an environmental impact? As does flying (albeit I know you said you go long haul to minimise this).

People choose their own priorities/red lines around this stuff. Maybe those going to AI resorts are meticulous recyclers or volunteer at hedgehog sanctuaries or eschew cars in favour of rollerblading everywhere. 😁

Backedoffhackedoff · 26/05/2026 15:22

GreenCandleWax · 26/05/2026 15:19

They usually do, in fact. Why is it that British parents have badly behaved DC - at home or abroad?

They don't, they have a nation of self hating self obsessed citizens who think anything forrin is exotic superior and perfect (o)

it’s a unique trait from a life time of class rule, imperialism and boot licking

Goldenbear · 26/05/2026 15:21

GreenCandleWax · 26/05/2026 15:19

They usually do, in fact. Why is it that British parents have badly behaved DC - at home or abroad?

Again, you don't sound well travelled or much experience of children outside of the UK