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Don’t want in-laws to come on holiday with us

29 replies

snch · 26/05/2026 08:58

They are nice people but in the 15 years I’ve known them they’ve been abroad once so they’re not holiday people.

They have mentioned coming with us in passing before we booked our holiday but I didn’t think they were serious.

It’s our first holiday as a family and I just would like to experience as that with the 3 of us. Were going on another trip which we’ve invited them on but I’m getting the feeling the want to come abroad. Our holiday is in the 6 weeks and they’ve never wanted to be off work then. It’s a bit awkward and I’m not sure how to go around it am

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MinnieMountain · 26/05/2026 09:29

It completely changes the dynamic. DH will happily spend a day and evening with his parents at our home or theirs or for a local day out but after the last holiday with MIL (his parents are divorced), he's agreed no more.

Larrythecatforpm · 26/05/2026 09:23

“Oh sorry ILs the trip is in 6 weeks and it’s all booked up now, to late to change anything. Looking forward to the other trip we’ve booked with you though.”

StormGazing · 26/05/2026 09:07

Is it the sort of holiday they’d like? Personally Ive
had
dreadful experiences with my ILs and holidays, mainly asy
MIL is a
narcissist and makes holidays all about her, grts
huffy all the time, v
makes herself
the victim, always complaining , so never again ! She’s 80 now so isn’t really likely to go thank goodness!
can you just tell them the holiday isnt
going to be fun for them … also if it’s your DH parents get him to sort it out

Silverbirchleaf · 26/05/2026 09:03

If they mention it again, deflect and say how much you’re looking forward to them joining you at Xyz in September (or wherever). . Also, make sure your husband is onboard.

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