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Birthday cake for two year old

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imnotgoinghomeyet · 26/05/2026 07:43

I’m the family baker, I love it and love making cakes so it’s not a problem.

I’ve been asked to make a birthday cake for the baby of the family for this weekend. It’s meant to be a nice day and we’re having a BBQ. The problem is I just don’t know what to do? There will be more adults than children there who want the cake, so I’d like to try and balance it between a children’s cake and one adults can enjoy too.

She has asked for chocolate cake along with her sibling (well, I asked her if she wanted chocolate or vanilla and it sounded like she said chocolate 😂) but some of the adults going don’t like chocolate.

What do I make?! AIBU to want the adults to enjoy it too and I should just make it a kid’s cake?!

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sesquipedalian · 27/05/2026 17:54

OP, you say, “I just don’t know how to design it.”. Why do ‘t you hire a number 2 tin? Then the cake rather sorts itself out, especially if you are going to put chocolates and edible glitter on it.

upsofloating · 27/05/2026 17:44

They'll love it

imnotgoinghomeyet · 27/05/2026 12:21

Okay, I’ve come up with a plan.

a chocolate cake with vanilla buttercream on the outside. The buttercream will be a pink to white gradient and then loads of chocolates (maltesers, Lindt balls, magic stars etc.) on top, shaken in pink edible glitter. It sticks to the chocolate and looks amazing

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IVFbabyanyday · 27/05/2026 00:39

drspouse · 26/05/2026 19:36

My message is still under approval! It's an innocent and delicious chocolate cake recipe, honest!

Just in case it's a code 🕵‍♀️

mumumental · 26/05/2026 22:54

A Scottie dog cake? You
make two cakes and the second one is cut up for the head , legs and tail. The body could be chocolate but not the rest?

SnowflakeSmasher86 · 26/05/2026 22:37

Use a Betty Crocker mix as their chocolate cake is never dry, it’s soft and delicious and if anyone asks you for the recipe tell them it’s a family secret!

Personally I’d make one of those old school hedgehog cakes as the birthday child will love it and it will be super nostalgic for the adults.

Eenameenadeeka · 26/05/2026 22:31

Just make a chocolate cake. It's not a children's thing, plenty of adults like chocolate cake. Next time, don't offer a choice if you're unhappy with them taking one of the options. The cake should always be what the person who's birthday it is likes.

FunMustard · 26/05/2026 22:23

OMG @imnotgoinghomeyet I've just made the BEST cake for my husbands birthday (granted, a bit older than 2!) and would recommend it. It's a honey cake, you could tart it up with some sugar bees or Winnie the Pooh if you like.

This honey cake recipe combined with the topping and filling for this Bee Sting cake (although I added the almond topping after the cake was baked). It was divine. The filling I added a lot more cream than was mentioned so it was very filling and stabbed the cakes with a skewer so the syrup soaked in. It was lush. I'm going to make a 3 tier one for a party on Saturday, where like you, we've got a little birthday and lots of grown ups.

I do love chocolate cake but this felt a bit more fancy and not as rich for a hot summer day.

Devonshire honey cake

Honey cake

Our easy Devonshire honey cake recipe is perfect for a cream tea or enjoying with your afternoon cuppa.

https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/devonshire-honey-cake

Oftenaddled · 26/05/2026 22:02

Some of these berry recipes look and sound lovely, but I would check with the parent what foods the child actually likes, at that age. A sponge cake with chocolate icing / buttercream + buttons / smarties might be all she needs anyway. Chocolate sponge can be very rich.

Hotsaucenoketchup · 26/05/2026 21:52

Make a chocolate cake for the KID - it’s their birthday.

if you think others won’t like it and are feeling particularly generous - make some fairy cakes to go alongside.

In all honestly - you are totally overthinking this.

It’s Simple - it’s the kids birthday - the cake is for them. They get what they want . Candles, chocolate - the works .

people can chose to eat it or not.

you’ll never please everyone and it’s pretty pointless trying to.

DedododoDedadada · 26/05/2026 21:07

If the chocolate cake is dry, it's likely the recipe. I use pretty much the same recipe for chocolate cake as vanilla, just substitute about a fifth of flour for cocoa and add a splash of hot water from kettle bake at 160

onetrickrockingpony · 26/05/2026 20:57

Totally unkind not to do a chocolate cake for the birthday girl. Agree with looking at Nigella recipes.

One easy charming cake for small children is a cat. Use matchstick chocolates or fingers as whiskers, and use two square After Eights in half for the ears (or any other way of doing the ears). Buttercream icing with a fork through it to look like fur, etc etc. really super easy and so cute.

DedododoDedadada · 26/05/2026 20:54

TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis · 26/05/2026 20:40

By all means OP can make as many cakes as she likes, but it would be nonsense if a child expected a different extra cake made to their taste, let alone an adult.

The birthday child always gets to pick as far as I'm concerned. No one else has ever expected an extra cake to their own taste when I've hosted but if you are the "family baker" it normally means seeing others appreciate your baking makes you happy and people generally do appreciate a choice.

ANiceCuppaTeaandBiscuit · 26/05/2026 20:49

If you do some green coloured buttercream and fork it, and some little mounds of crushed Oreo’s on top, then buy some cheap plastic animals from Amazon and make tiny party hats for them out of coloured card and topped with mini Pom poms (sounds a faff but actually 10 mins work in front of the tv in the eve and randomly therapeutic) it looks very cute, and they have the bonus of little toys to play with.

Do88byisfree · 26/05/2026 20:43

https://www.recipetineats.com/chocolate-cake/#recipe

This is a really easy, delicious chocolate cake recipe I have recently discovered. Beautifully moist and sp easy to make.

TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis · 26/05/2026 20:40

DedododoDedadada · 26/05/2026 19:40

I'm the baker in the family too. I would make the birthday cake for the kids, adults will eat it too but also do a victoria sponge or cupcakes for those who don't like chocolate cake

By all means OP can make as many cakes as she likes, but it would be nonsense if a child expected a different extra cake made to their taste, let alone an adult.

Merryoldgoat · 26/05/2026 20:33

Use a good moist chocolate cake recipe - there is a lovely one on Glorious Treats. I use vanilla buttercream with it and it’s always a big hit.

ProudMamaBear92 · 26/05/2026 20:29

Definitely chocolate! It’s her special day so she decides! If you need help with ideas you can buy cute cake toppers in her favourite animals and decorate with favourite sweetie? I did sea creatures and with jelly sweet fish for my two year olds cake and he still plays with the cake toppers like toys. Dinosaurs on the next birthday cake ☺️

SquigglePigs · 26/05/2026 19:42

She's 2, you asked her what cake she wanted and she said chocolate. Make the chocolate cake.

Don't ask a child to choose something if you aren't prepared to honour their answer.

DedododoDedadada · 26/05/2026 19:40

I'm the baker in the family too. I would make the birthday cake for the kids, adults will eat it too but also do a victoria sponge or cupcakes for those who don't like chocolate cake

drspouse · 26/05/2026 19:36

My message is still under approval! It's an innocent and delicious chocolate cake recipe, honest!

MiddleAgedDread · 26/05/2026 19:26

Chocolate buttercream, some smarties round the top and bottom edge, throw some glittery sprinkles over it and cut her name and age out in fondant to stick on. She’s 2, it doesn’t need to be a work of art!

SophiaLaBe · 26/05/2026 19:23

Chocolate cake slab with a bit of buttercream and fresh raspberries in between the layers with chocolate fingers around the edges, buttercream covered in green coloured coconut as grass with little decorations, maybe fairies, butterflies and flowers. I did similar for my sons 2nd with tractors and farm animals on the top. Kids loved it.

imnotgoinghomeyet · 26/05/2026 18:21

pimplebum · 26/05/2026 11:02

Make the cake vanilla for adults put sweets and chocolate on too for 2 year old buy toy characters to stick on top

I’m not spending £££ on it 😂

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imnotgoinghomeyet · 26/05/2026 18:21

Elspeth7 · 26/05/2026 18:17

Why did you ask her if she wanted chocolate or vanilla if you didnt want to make chocolate? Now she's told you what she wants so yes, you have to make it chocolate. Either make extra cupcakes for the others or they can just make do.

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To be fair she won’t remember but her sister probably will 😩

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