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DD with friend’s family for 8 hours only ate crisps

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Z0rr0 · 25/05/2026 19:24

My DD was invited to an activity with friends today. She ate a toasted English muffin before she left at 8.15. By the time she came back at 4pm she’d only been offered some crisps to eat. I’m grateful the family took her out (I paid for her ticket which was less than a tenner) and hosted her at their home, but I just can’t fathom not offering her some lunch.

OP posts:
Viviennemary · 25/05/2026 19:31

She's 17. Old enough to sort out her own lunch. If she'd been 10 or 11 yes I'd expect her to be fed.

Girlmama · 25/05/2026 19:30

She's 17!!!!!!! I would fully expect my 17 year old to either take or source her own lunch while out. I thought you were going to say she was primary age!

fatandfrumpy20 · 25/05/2026 19:30

Z0rr0 · 25/05/2026 19:28

No one ate lunch although the parents went out for a bit, so maybe ate then? She’s 17 and we gave her a decent early dinner, so it’s not a biggy. I just can’t imagine having guests for a whole day and not offering like at least a sandwich or something.

Burying the lead! She’s old enough to get herself something.

ididabigfatsmelly · 25/05/2026 19:29

I thought u meant she was a lot younger. Maybe at 17 they assumed she would say when hungry or she would ask to have something

Arlanymor · 25/05/2026 19:29

Z0rr0 · 25/05/2026 19:28

No one ate lunch although the parents went out for a bit, so maybe ate then? She’s 17 and we gave her a decent early dinner, so it’s not a biggy. I just can’t imagine having guests for a whole day and not offering like at least a sandwich or something.

Well at 17, if she was hungry, she was perfectly capable of asking if they would be eating lunch together wasn't she? Also in the heat, lots of people save their big meal for later on the day. I'm assuming she had enough liquid?

RS1987 · 25/05/2026 19:29

fatandfrumpy20 · 25/05/2026 19:28

Send her with lunch? Did you expect them to pay to feed her?

Of course she’d expect her child to be fed!! Would you take a child out for 8 hours and not give them lunch? Come on!

Original poster
Z0rr0 · 25/05/2026 19:28

No one ate lunch although the parents went out for a bit, so maybe ate then? She’s 17 and we gave her a decent early dinner, so it’s not a biggy. I just can’t imagine having guests for a whole day and not offering like at least a sandwich or something.

OP posts:
ThejoyofNC · 25/05/2026 19:28

Did the others not eat anything?

Did they take a picnic and she didn't like any of it?

Octavia64 · 25/05/2026 19:28

Are you sure she wasn’t offered lunch?

most people do eat lunch.

fatandfrumpy20 · 25/05/2026 19:28

Send her with lunch? Did you expect them to pay to feed her?

Hotsaucenoketchup · 25/05/2026 19:27

Next time send her with some snacks to share?

Arlanymor · 25/05/2026 19:26

Did anyone eat lunch?

PonyPatter44 · 25/05/2026 19:26

Yeah, its a bit odd, but a lot of people are quite weird. Give her a big dinner, she'll be fine.

Anarchy99 · 25/05/2026 19:26

How old is she? And are you sure that’s all she had or wanted?

PoppinjayPolly · 25/05/2026 19:25

Did they have lunch and not offer her anything?

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