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Z0rr0 · 2026-05-25T18:24:47+00:00

My DD was invited to an activity with friends today. She ate a toasted English muffin before she left at 8.15. By the time she came back at 4pm she’d only been offered some crisps to eat. I’m grateful the family took her out (I paid for her ticket which was less than a tenner) and hosted her at their home, but I just can’t fathom not offering her some lunch.

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Z0rr0 · 25/05/2026 19:39

I think none of them ate. It’s not a big deal. She can survive perfectly well without a meal, she took a bottle of water with her. I just would personally be embarrassed to have people here all day and not offer food. From responses I guess that’s unusual with older teens.

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DrFoxtrot · 25/05/2026 19:38

I don’t know what my 17 year old eats most days and I don’t think to ask 😆.

hugasaurus · 25/05/2026 19:37

At 17, I doubt I would be offering food during the day, if I was even in the house! It’s not really a play date at the age of 17 is it? I would expect the 17yos to sort it among themselves and wouldn’t interfere, I would just leave them to it.

tiramisugelato · 25/05/2026 19:37

Z0rr0 · 25/05/2026 19:34

This is a fair point. Although I would have impressed upon her to make her guests food if it was me. She’s a bit autistic so sometimes needs stuff spelled out.

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There's no such thing as "a bit autistic".

VIII · 25/05/2026 19:37

I agree with all the others who think it's bonkers that you think this is on the parents. They were hardly looking after her if she's 17 they were at most acting as a taxi service.

Surely she and her friend are used to getting their own lunches?

ThingsgetbetterwithalittlebitofRazzmatazz · 25/05/2026 19:37

My teenagers sort themselves for food during the day and I would expect them to offer something to friends as well. I wouldn't be doing lunch for 17 year olds and if they chose to just eat crisps then that's up to them.

Trackstar · 25/05/2026 19:36

When my teenagers have friends over I mainly leave them to fend for themselves. The kids know what food is in the house and if they want something else there is a shop a five min walk away. Mostly when my 16yo comes in from friends and I ask her if she has eaten she will say that she made some toast. I don't think that most parents hover olaround offering food when the kids are almost adults.

Octavia64 · 25/05/2026 19:36

Christ at 17 I’d expect her and her friend to sort themselves out.

at that age they are often up all night and have meals at strange times so if I was making a meal I’d offer but mostly in my experience they prefer to get deliveroo or make their own food

ThejoyofNC · 25/05/2026 19:36

Z0rr0 · 25/05/2026 19:34

This is a fair point. Although I would have impressed upon her to make her guests food if it was me. She’s a bit autistic so sometimes needs stuff spelled out.

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What do you mean "she's a bit autistic"?

likelysuspect · 25/05/2026 19:36

17!!!

I thought this was about a 5 year old!!!

tiramisugelato · 25/05/2026 19:36

I thought you were talking about a 6yo

She's 17. Her and her friend should have sorted their own lunch!

watchingthishtread · 25/05/2026 19:36

Favouritefruits · 25/05/2026 19:33

That’s awful! I’ve had my eldest son’s friend with us today I’ve fed him lunch and dinner, two snacks and kept him hydrated with plenty of drinks. I took them to the water park and paid! I think your DDs friends parents are mean! They have made sure she’s drank enough haven’t they?

just seen your update! She’s 17 she’s old enough to nip out and buy food!

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Did you miss the bit that they're 17 and definitely old enough to source their own glass of water?

DarkForces · 25/05/2026 19:35

Dd is 14. She helps herself or nips to the local shops if she fancies something to eat. I'd expect them to sort themselves out

Girlmama · 25/05/2026 19:35

Favouritefruits · 25/05/2026 19:33

That’s awful! I’ve had my eldest son’s friend with us today I’ve fed him lunch and dinner, two snacks and kept him hydrated with plenty of drinks. I took them to the water park and paid! I think your DDs friends parents are mean! They have made sure she’s drank enough haven’t they?

just seen your update! She’s 17 she’s old enough to nip out and buy food!

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They shouldn't have to 'make sure' that a near adult has had enough to drink. Has the world gone mad?

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Z0rr0 · 25/05/2026 19:34

Thistooshallpass. · 25/05/2026 19:32

17 !! I tkought we were talking about a 5 year old or something . I expect the friend couldn’t be bothered to make anything so offered crisps . Teenagers are not worried about the social niceties of offering lunch and the parents went out so probably thought they are old enough to look after themselves !!

This is a fair point. Although I would have impressed upon her to make her guests food if it was me. She’s a bit autistic so sometimes needs stuff spelled out.

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somanychristmaslights · 25/05/2026 19:34

So did DD friend not eat anything all day either?

allthegoldicouldeat · 25/05/2026 19:34

Some people genuinely don’t seem to think about regular meals.
I’m not one of them!

Notmyreality · 25/05/2026 19:34

She’s 17?🤣
I thought she was 7.
At 17 she can advocate for herself don’t you think?

TheBlueKoala · 25/05/2026 19:34

Z0rr0 · 25/05/2026 19:33

They were out for a couple of hours first thing and then back to theirs. She had money to buy stuff so I wasn’t expecting them to pay, but to be at their home and not offer something seems odd to me. They don’t live near shops / food places so no opportunity to pop out and get something. She was fine about it, like I said I just can’t imagine having people here for a whole day and not giving them a meal.

She's 17 though. Why didn't she tell her friend that she was hungry?

watchingthishtread · 25/05/2026 19:34

The 17 year olds should have sorted their own lunch.

Nofrogslegs · 25/05/2026 19:33

She’s 17. It’s a bit weird that the parents would be expected to make lunch for her. Couldn’t she have asked her friend if they were in the house or got herself something if they were out?
Suspect friend is expected just to cater for herself during the day at 17 so probably didn’t even occur to parents

Favouritefruits · 25/05/2026 19:33

That’s awful! I’ve had my eldest son’s friend with us today I’ve fed him lunch and dinner, two snacks and kept him hydrated with plenty of drinks. I took them to the water park and paid! I think your DDs friends parents are mean! They have made sure she’s drank enough haven’t they?

just seen your update! She’s 17 she’s old enough to nip out and buy food!

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Z0rr0 · 25/05/2026 19:33

They were out for a couple of hours first thing and then back to theirs. She had money to buy stuff so I wasn’t expecting them to pay, but to be at their home and not offer something seems odd to me. They don’t live near shops / food places so no opportunity to pop out and get something. She was fine about it, like I said I just can’t imagine having people here for a whole day and not giving them a meal.

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Thistooshallpass. · 25/05/2026 19:32

17 !! I tkought we were talking about a 5 year old or something . I expect the friend couldn’t be bothered to make anything so offered crisps . Teenagers are not worried about the social niceties of offering lunch and the parents went out so probably thought they are old enough to look after themselves !!

5foot5 · 25/05/2026 19:31

Z0rr0 · 25/05/2026 19:28

No one ate lunch although the parents went out for a bit, so maybe ate then? She’s 17 and we gave her a decent early dinner, so it’s not a biggy. I just can’t imagine having guests for a whole day and not offering like at least a sandwich or something.

Oh I thought we were talking about a small child here. Maybe they assumed a 17 year old would have means of payment with her to get her own lunch if she wanted any.