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Is 51 too old to change career?

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jmh740 · 25/05/2026 18:54

Ive been a TA since 2014. 18 months ago I applied for a job at my school that was temp for 12 month possibly becoming permanent. After 12 months they extended it 6 more months to 31st August and said they would let me know if it was being made a permanent role by end of May.
Friday I was told it wasn't cost effective and I would go back to being a TA.
It's a 6k wage drop I know I've only been doing it 18 months but I'm used to the extra money.
DH had to medically retire 4 years ago. Only has a really small pension and PIP.

I'm so worried about money I've seen a job as a trainee education mental health practitioner. Its 26k for the first year training and working. It sounds really good but I believe its really competitive no guarantee of a job after the training.

Its 20 years since I did my degree not sure if I can study at that level. I'm a carer for dh and Dad. But youngest leaves school in a few weeks so I definitely dont need to be off school holidays any more.

I feel too old for change but have another 16 years to work. I love being a TA but the pay is shocking.

Need some words of wisdom please mumsnetters.

OP posts:
VivaciousCurrentBun · 25/05/2026 19:42

If you’re happy enough to commute then go for it.

Panicmode1 · 25/05/2026 19:40

I've just gone back to my previous profession after a 15 year break via a 'returnship'. I'm older than you (just!) so I say absolutely not too old. Go for it!

(When I did my first degree, there was a lady in her 50s on the course).

compactmotif · 25/05/2026 19:39

You don't really have anything to lose by applying?

jmh740 · 25/05/2026 19:34

VivaciousCurrentBun · 25/05/2026 19:18

When does your DH get his state pension?

You can but the one thing I will say is having worked with mature students I do not see an issue with studying. They tend to be very studious and do well. But circumstances means they cannot or are unwilling to relocate. I relocated when I was in my late twenties, it was easy at that stage of life.

He turned 59 yesterday so 8 years. I couldn't relocate while my dad is still alive. I'm prepared to travel for work im in Lancashire so manchester Liverpool are both options

OP posts:
Besidemyselfwithworry · 25/05/2026 19:31

CranberryCandyCane · 25/05/2026 19:17

Definitely not too old! Go for it!

This
16-18 years of working life left, that’s quite a lot when you think of it.

Screensh0t285 · 25/05/2026 19:29

You have roughly 17 more years to work before state pension

Change jobs

madosaurus · 25/05/2026 19:26

It’s never too old to change careers. I changed careers from being a TA to data analyst. At the age of 56.

Go for it!

HaveYouFedTheFish · 25/05/2026 19:21

Apply - if you don't apply you definitely won't get it. If you do apply you might.

Good luck! 🤞🍀

Evaka · 25/05/2026 19:19

51 isn't too old at all, good luck!

VivaciousCurrentBun · 25/05/2026 19:18

When does your DH get his state pension?

You can but the one thing I will say is having worked with mature students I do not see an issue with studying. They tend to be very studious and do well. But circumstances means they cannot or are unwilling to relocate. I relocated when I was in my late twenties, it was easy at that stage of life.

16HamstersCalledThemAllDave · 25/05/2026 19:17

It’s an area of employment that needs suitably experienced people and being a TA will have given you so many transferable skills. If you think you will enjoy it then go for it!

CranberryCandyCane · 25/05/2026 19:17

Definitely not too old! Go for it!

MummyWillow1 · 25/05/2026 19:16

Go for it! Good luck.

AmayaBuzzbee · 25/05/2026 19:14

If you think you would enjoy it, then go for it! As you say, plenty of working life still left. Might as well earn more and learn something new whilst doing it.

Papyrophile · 25/05/2026 19:14

Good luck!

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