AIBU to stop therapy after learning my therapist’s husband is Reform?

The posting space isn't exclusively inhabited by Reform supporters. Every Reform thread has posters who don't support them. Perhaps that serves as compensation. I know it does to me. The posts of Mrs B and others give me hope.

My friend’s sister’s neighbour’s brother-in-law’s cousin, twice removed, said he saw asylum seekers being booked into The Ritz for afternoon tea.

By the Reform thing, I meant the subject of the thread. The judging of people known to be Reform supporters.
If this was a thread discussing people's reluctance to have therapy from the spouse of a Labour or Conservative politician due to finding the ethos of these parties abhorrent, and it seemed to be a view that resonated, there is every chance I would refer to it as 'the Labour/Conservative thing' if I was feeling lazy and not particularly inspired towards eloquence, yes.

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YANBU.

I can’t believe some people can’t see the difference between your relationship with a cashier and your therapist.

Therapists are trusted with our core values, beliefs, feelings and fears. You share your essence with a therapist. Finding out that the person you’re doing that with is willing to love and commit to someone who openly objects against your way of life and beliefs is obviously going to make you feel uncomfortable and unsafe - things you can’t have with therapy.

I think standing by your beliefs is very important - more so than ever now, so no, you’re not being unreasonable to explain to her why you feel uncomfortable and that you need to feel safe with the person you’re sharing with. If she’s good, she’ll understand.

It’s akin to if you were gay and seeing a therapist who didn’t believe in same sex marriages. Despite how effective they are otherwise, you’re not going to feel accepted as a person, but which literally the core purpose of therapy.

YANBU.

I can’t believe some people can’t see the difference between your relationship with a cashier and your therapist.

Therapists are trusted with our core values, beliefs, feelings and fears. You share your essence with a therapist. Finding out that the person you’re doing that with is willing to love and commit to someone who openly objects against your way of life and beliefs is obviously going to make you feel uncomfortable and unsafe - things you can’t have with therapy.

I think standing by your beliefs is very important - more so than ever now, so no, you’re not being unreasonable to explain to her why you feel uncomfortable and that you need to feel safe with the person you’re sharing with. If she’s good, she’ll understand.

It’s akin to if you were gay and seeing a therapist who didn’t believe in same sex marriages. Despite how effective they are otherwise, you’re not going to feel accepted as a person, but which literally the core purpose of therapy.

A friend of my DC told me his gf and his gf's sister get regularly hissed at by the asylum seekers who were moved into the area.

So you have no knowledge of the electoral system. Why didn't you just say that in the first place.

Funny you should mention the KKK.

Ron Firman, a newly elected Reform councillor, was happy to make jokes about the KKK on the back of the deaths of 72 people.

Proof?
But that would spoil the fun.
How could they organise mass demonstrations outside hotels after had read a posting on Facebook.

That is their definition of proof.

You forgot to mention the Greens.

As you wish.

Yet there's always nuance when it comes to anti-semitism. What do you mean the Reform thing? Do we say the Labour thing or the Tory thing?

You observed a scene which takes place a hundred times every 5 minutes and think its worthy of note

That is the point though. Millions of people in the UK from different heritages largely live alongside each other with no issues. The very opposite of what Reform and Farage and Lowe and Robinson et al attempt to portray.

This is ridiculous. Reform aren’t the KKK.

Baying masses? You mean legitimate voters?

Nobody supports mass illegal immigration. Nobody.
It's a highly complex situation and Reform are interested in playing to the baying, disatisfied masses.

I think it is reasonable to change therapist. I couldn’t be with a reform voter.

😂 fair enough, forgot that. Other important Catholic person then? Member of a more traditional religious following. Point being, in certain circumstances people's world views and what they tolerate or condone or who they marry or mix with is relevant and important to some people.

Actually it isn't called prejudice.
Prejudice (hints in the name) is pre judging a person as having a set of characteristic based on an inate characteristic. What we're referring to with the Reform thing isn't pre judging based on an unknown, but actual judging based on a known.
So just as it would be prejudice to decide that an immigrant would be likely to commit a crime with no other knowledge of them than their immigration status, but not prejudice to decide based on them telling you they intended to commit a crime, so it is with the Reform supporter. They are stating their values and being judged accordingly.

You're right. The vast majority of people are fundamentally decent. We need to hold on to that fact, and remember that, while the racists might now feel empowered to be open about their racism in a way that they couldn't have done previously, they are still a minority. And hopefully always will be.

So because they are a new political party it's okay to hate them?

Yes I think most catholics would be more than a bit upset or mainly confused with the local priest being married.

Yes that's true, anyone can do whatever they want. But all actions have consequences. You are happy for people to lose their livelihood due to political beliefs, I am not. There's no codswallop about it. And op asked for opinions on his actions, which in my view are misogynistic and indicative of someone with black and white thinking (lacks any nuance, people are either good or bad, she can't be a good therapist and have a husband who supports reform).

I don't get this. You observed a scene which takes place a hundred times every 5 minutes and think its worthy of note. I don't think it's Reform voters who are keeping the division going. Why shouldn't those two men be civil to each other and what on earth has it got to do with Reform wanting to tackle illegal immigrants, not everyday Pakistani men. You are the only looking for problems.