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AIBU to stop therapy after learning my therapist’s husband is Reform?

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CanyonRider · 25/05/2026 18:20

I live in a small town. I started having therapy maybe a year ago. I feel it’s been working for me and I like my therapist. However I realised today that she is (very very recently) married to a man who recently stood and won as a reform councillor in our local election. I detest reform. I’m married to an immigrant (EU citizen) and am delighted that my kids are dual nationals and have the option of travelling, working and living in the EU should they desire. I’m also very pro the transition to green energy. I have solar and drive an EV. Finally I cannot stand Farage and the political grift embodied by people like him and Jenrick and am dismayed by the harms caused by Brexit.

My therapist is also an EU national and is here under indefinite leave to remain - as is my wife.
Read a few interviews with her husband today and he spouts the usual anti EU, anti immigration, anti green transition rhetoric you’d expect from Reform. I don’t feel comfortable continuing therapy with someone who’s married to a reform politician, and am very surprised that she is comfortable with his views and by extension those of Farage.

Am I overreacting?

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MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 25/05/2026 18:29

Trust and feeling comfortable is really important in any therapeutic relationship. If you no longer feel comfortable with her, or if the trust has gone, then it would be perfectly reasonable to stop seeing her. If that's what you want to do.

It would be a deal breaker for me, as I would be questioning the basic morals of someone who had recently chosen to marry a Reform councillor. I wouldn't want my hard-earned money going to support his dodgy household.

I might think about it differently if she had been married for years, as women do sometimes get trapped in relationships with shit men. But it seems that she has knowingly gone into this with eyes wide open, so I guess she has no issue with his obnoxious views.

Blocksfruity · 25/05/2026 18:29

Misnofitness · 25/05/2026 18:23

This has to be the ultimate Mumsnet pearl clutch

clearly you don’t believe women are capable of having their own opinions

People in marriages can have their own opinions but this goes far beyond just having some political ideas. The guy ran in an election, at that point the wife is obviously in full support of her husband because that's a huge public commitment to the bullshit.

SandwichSuperstar · 25/05/2026 18:29

Lol

They're all out today on Mumsnet.

Looneytune253 · 25/05/2026 18:29

To be fair, my husband is a reform
supporter and (apart from this) is the kindest most emotionally intelligent man. I have a job where clients might not like that, but it makes no difference to how I do my job and even how my husband reacts to my clients. They are none the wiser. Genuinely I wouldn’t sack your therapist over this

TheSlantedOwl · 25/05/2026 18:26

I don’t blame you.

Runningswanker · 25/05/2026 18:26

Therapy requires you to be vulnerable, and to trust (unlike buying something in a shop as a pp mentioned) My ability to trust a therapist would be affected by someone who stood with Reform. It's a racist party, no matter what way you look at it.

ByGraptharsHammer · 25/05/2026 18:24

Well you can finish this for any reason. Just find a new therapist.

Misnofitness · 25/05/2026 18:23

This has to be the ultimate Mumsnet pearl clutch

clearly you don’t believe women are capable of having their own opinions

Whyherewego · 25/05/2026 18:23

You can stop seeing a therapist for any reason. It doesn't matter how unreasonable it is to other people. It's an intimate relationship and you have to have total confidence and trust in them. Now of course she is a professional and I am sure her husband's politics don't bring any bearing to her professional practice. But again it doesn't really matter what anyone else thinks, you should do whatever makes you comfortable

DriveVerySlowlyPastNumber23IWantThemToSeeMyHat · 25/05/2026 18:23

YABU. Would you request another cashier at a shop if their partner voted Reform?

Aposterhasnoname · 25/05/2026 18:22

Stark, staring, bonkers.

awfulapril · 25/05/2026 18:21

lol. Yes. Crackers