AIBU to stop therapy after learning my therapist’s husband is Reform?

Absolutely YANBU! I couldn't share thoughts with someone who could partner a Reform idiot - no matter how professional the therapist or the idiot bigot partner is

Yet you’d be none the wiser in most cases anyway. Unless you vet the political leanings of the husband of every person you ever obtain a service from.

‘I’m also very pro the transition to green energy. I have solar and drive an EV.’

I think this was my favourite bit of your post.

Also, just choose another therapist. Hopefully the next one will help you develop tolerance and emotional stability in the face of something that conflicts with your values.

Part of becoming an emotionally mature person is understanding that people have different beliefs and opinions to yourself and learning to find the humanity in them.

Admittedly I'm finding this challenging in the case of some individuals who espouse their political beliefs, but no-one is perfect

Don't stop going - because you definitely need a therapist!

Okay fine I'll bite. No I don't think they are just "wrong, crude, populist or unrealistic or unpleasant)" as evidenced by the many horrific things Reform politicians have said including a candidate in Sunderland stating that Nigerians should be melted down to ‘fill in the pot holes.’ This is racial supremacy and is already leading to increases in hate crimes. They are being very successful previously because people are ignoring their horrific views and policies.

All this nonsense over reform. Why is wanting controlled immigration racist? It’s nonsense and you need to realise that people are allowed to hold different opinions to yourself. I used to live in a multi ethnic inner city area mostly populated by Pakistanis and African and West Indians. When the Polish influx came in they hated it and many I spoke to voted leave in the referendum as they thought that would stop it.

Clearly the Reform voters are out in force today.

I would bin this therapist. No way would I ever trust her judgement again!

lol

But Reform are not Nazis.

Calling ordinary political disagreement “Nazi views” is ridiculous and cheapens the word to the point of meaninglessness. Nazis committed industrialised mass murder. Disagreeing about immigration, the EU, borders, or net zero is not that.

It is not moral seriousness. It is just embarrassing hyperbole.

No, that is not something the therapist “said”. That is something the OP discovered about the therapist’s husband and then inferred from.

You are making several leaps here: husband supports Reform, therefore husband is racist, therefore therapist shares those views, therefore paying the therapist “funds racism”.

That is guilt by association, mind-reading, and a massive overextension from very limited evidence.

Reform’s stated policies are not “racist”. You can dislike them, disagree with them, or think they are harsh, but wanting lower immigration, stronger borders, or different net zero policy is not the same thing as racism. Racism is racism and it's abhorrent. But it's not this.

If the therapist herself has been unprofessional, fine, leave. But “I dislike your husband’s politics, therefore you are morally contaminated” is not a serious standard for choosing a therapist.

So, given he has married an immigrant, why do you think he's going to be against your husband and children?

I dunno I'm intolerant of Nazi views.
I do have vitriol for those beliefs.

Thats quite quite different.

Unless the OP has had a few racist comments during therapy? Which I am sure she would have mentioned.

I think Reform are loathsome but I think this is definitely overreacting.

Find another therapist, tell your current one why you are moving.

She’s a therapist. She’s not putting up with her. It’s her job.

This attitude is exactly why people vote Reform.

You are calling millions of ordinary voters “dreadful people” and saying they should be shunned, rather than asking why they feel ignored, angry, or let down by the main parties.

You do not have to agree with them. But dismissing them as morally repugnant is not going to make them disappear. It just proves their point.

I have already left two hairdressers over this. I don’t need to hear racist chatter over my foils.

She did say something that made her feel uneasy.

She is married to a REFORM supporter.
Someone with divisive racist views.
Pay someone else OP.
Don't fund a reform household.

Yes, please do. Why should she have to put up with you.

You can dislike Reform. You can think their policies are wrong, crude, populist, unrealistic, or unpleasant. Fine (they are many of those things). But “far right” used to mean something far more serious than “has different views on the EU, immigration levels, border control, or net zero”.

Actual far-right extremism is horrific. It is authoritarianism, racial supremacy, political violence, persecution, camps, and mass murder. Throwing that label around for mainstream voters and elected councillors because they want lower immigration or do not like the EU cheapens the term and is, frankly, insulting to people who have actually suffered and died under real extremism. Lets also remember - polling at the very top of the UK voting intentions.

It also shuts down any possibility of discussion. If everyone to your right is “far right”, then you never have to engage with what they actually believe. You just write them off as evil.

I am concerned quote what the country will do to itself if Reform are elected if this is what people have been throwing about.

Your therapist is not her husband.
How embarrassing for her.

Politics and religion really do divide people, hence why I refuse to discuss them in the workplace or with friends.

What I hate more than anything is those completely intolerant of anyone else’s view and the belief that their opinion is right, with complete vitriol for anyone whose beliefs differ.

And no one is responsible for the sins of their father.

😂😂😂

Absolutely. We should be actively shunning these dreadful people, not just shrugging their repugnant opinions off as if they are simply a difference of opinion.