AIBU to stop therapy after learning my therapist’s husband is Reform?

The cognitive dissonance some wives of Reform councillor might suggest you have a point OP. Apparently this chap had a serious interest in Buddhism, which explains the Swastika tattoo

www.mirror.co.uk/news/politics/reform-councillor-with-swastika-tattoo-37200813.amp

OP as someone who's had quite a bit of therapy, I would say that if the political views of your therapist are likely to affect your feelings of safety and ability to be open in therapy it would be appropriate to leave. You could bring it for discussion to help your decision but may prefer not to. It's clearly not the same as another paid relationship such as your dentist or shop cashier. Personally in your situation I think it would depend upon what I'm discussing but I would be likely to leave if I felt the therapist didn't respect me or members of my family.

I don't trust reform research.
Always were in bottom sets.

What happens if you need a doctor and the same thing comes up? A fireman? The police!? There are so many areas of life where someone completely clashes with your political views. Are you turning them all away?

Absolutely!

Honestly this.

I think it’s reasonable to feel uncomfortable sharing your inner life with someone who has demonstrated that they are comfortable being married to someone with views you find abhorrent.

Huge difference between someone scanning your shopping with whom you exchange basic pleasantries and whose last name I doubt you would ever get to know let alone find how their partner votes and a therapist with whom you spend an hour every week exploring personal issues in a private one to one setting.

Maybe she’s on mn, will recognise this and you can both say at the same time let’s end the service.

But we won't have a nice planet. Net Zero does not reduce carbon emissions, it makes them go up .

I’d switch therapists personally. I make a mental note of vocal Reform supporters on our local Facebook page and when I need work doing on house etc I won’t use anyone who is.

I figure there are Reform voters who will actively prefer to use them so it all evens out in the end but I’m not giving any money to them and I would feel the same with your therapist even if she has different views to her DH.

Can’t see how people think you are unreasonable to use your freedom of choice.

You muppet

Other peoples teeth they have forcefully redistributed under the latest five-year-teeth-for-all plan.

Rather have a nice planet than be governed by racists who destroy the planet.

This. You are clearly affected by your therapist''s marriage to a Reform councillor which will inevitably affect the therapeutic relationship.

I'm not going to tell other people where to go on holiday, but personally, I would certainly think twice before spending my money in certain regimes.

I'm far more concerned about what is happening in the UK though, and I wouldn't knowingly or willingly purchase goods or services from anyone who was actively supporting or promoting the far right. I can't control their views or their behaviour, but I can at least control how I spend my own money.

Hope you enjoyed the last two hugely successful years of milk and honey under Labour :D

If it affects your ability to work with her then find a new therapist. The reason doesn’t matter.

That is not really an argument, is it?

You are saying: “Brexit may have made us poorer, so why object if net zero makes us poorer too?” That is not a defence of net zero.If anything more reason not to as we are a bit poorer.

And “at least it has a nice aim” does not solve any problem. Lots of bad policy has a nice aim. I'd say they all mean to do somethign good. The question is whether the policy is affordable, deliverable and timed properly.

If the result is higher bills, weaker industry, more imported goods, more reliance on China, and carbon emissions simply being moved abroad (and therefore higher), then we have not saved the planet. We have just made ourselves poorer while pretending to be virtuous. And made things worse.

Build the infrastructure. Build nuclear, grid capacity, storage, and renewables where they work. But do not cripple the country before the replacement system exists. Cos thats mental.

Same thing I was doing for 14 years of the Tories, Brexit and fucking moronic responses to the pandemic.

Sure you are.🙄

Finding a good therapist, let alone one who is the right one for you, isn't easy, particularly in a small town. In your shoes, that's the relationship I'd be focused on and not her relationship with her husband. But if your opinions about him (and I would share them tbh) are undermining your trust in her, then of course you should make the choice that's right for you. The odd bit is why you care what we think, which I find really baffling. If we said YABU, would you stick with her after all? And if so, why?

What will you do if Reform win the next election (very likely) and you are faced with the reality that a third of the people you see on the street voted for Farage?

Serious question.

I'm voting Monster Raving Loony party BTW.

I wouldn’t continue to go to her. No way would I be putting any of my money into a house that supports Reform.

And, hand on heart, if DH said to me he was voting for them I’d tell him to think very hard about it because if he did that would be us done.

At least they have their own teeth.

Ah, the There Were Many Ordinary Germans argument