AIBU to stop therapy after learning my therapist’s husband is Reform?

Clearly, as you’re not winning anybody around with your stunning political debate

I think it’s very unfair of you to say my sil is ‘a token’ when absolutely she is not. She is her own person with her own thoughts and beliefs and nobody parades her.

But this type of reaction is exactly what I’ve come to expect, Folks prefer to call us right wing when we are not, and to call us racist when we are not (I’m a volunteer support worker for the local migrants, so don’t see how that’s being racist!).

It could be very easy argued that the greens are for more or authoritarianthan anybody on the right

I’m a member of Reform. I got involved through my brother and at first I felt just like you. At the first meeting I went to support him, but sat by the door ready to make a quick exit if it became right wing just as the press said, I’ve spent my entire life supporting folks on the margins of society and there was no way I would have stayed if anything was at all dodgy.
But it was so different to my expectation, Everything that was said was just so reasonable. No outrageous rhetoric at all - just common sense - in fact most folk there were disillusioned Tories.

Thats how I’ve found it, just folks fed up with political parties not keeping election promises.

But the strongest Reform supporter in the family by far is my sister in law - who is here also on indefinite leave to remain! She has lived in many different countries and her last child qualifies for triple nationality ( if that’s possible!). She couldn’t be a greater supporter if she tried. She has no doubt that she will be fine.

So please don’t believe all you read in the press. There will of course be a few bad apples - it’s a new party after all - but when found out they get kicked out. We have members from pretty much every country and every religion and in my experience the party is actually very tolerant and not a bit like you hear about on tv.
So if you like the guy and he is helping you, then why on earth should his political affiliations make a difference, assuming he’s not spouting them to his clients ( which is unacceptable regardless of whichever party he supports)?

Retired therapist here. I've also had therapy myself with many different therapists. I'd feel exactly as you do. I'd be shocked and dismayed and talk it through with her for a couple of sessions, but the trust would be very rocky with someone who married an active Reform party member.

Of course it would be incredibly easy to find a new therapist. But how to know they’re not Reform? No therapist would reveal political views to a potential client. And what if OP didn’t like them? Or didn’t gel with them? Even if they did like them, it takes sessions and sessions to explain all your issues and history, to build rapport and a therapeutic relationship. OP will be wasting their own time and money starting again. It hurts no one but themselves. The current therapist will easily find a replacement client.

Regarding your SIL you will always get tokens which Reform like to parade.
Like that will.convince the rest they really are not a racist party.

Yes, you're right, I don't think it's possible to vote Reform and be a good person, with the exception of those who are simply not intelligent enough to actually understand what they're voting for - those people are just easily manipulated.

How is it "far right"? How are Nigel Farage, Richard Tice and Zia Yusuf all "racist"?

This makes the assumption if someone votes reform that they aren't a good person. I think the greens are absolutely looney but I don't think green voters are bad people.

Its far right, run by a racist. I was born in a communist country, that was equally shite.
Just own it if you support it, strong nationalism is always far left or right.

You can tell very easily.
Trust.
Avoid Avoid Avoid.

You can tell very easily.
Trust.
Avoid Avoid Avoid.

I’m a member of Reform. I got involved through my brother and at first I felt just like you. At the first meeting I went to support him, but sat by the door ready to make a quick exit if it became right wing just as the press said, I’ve spent my entire life supporting folks on the margins of society and there was no way I would have stayed if anything was at all dodgy.
But it was so different to my expectation, Everything that was said was just so reasonable. No outrageous rhetoric at all - just common sense - in fact most folk there were disillusioned Tories.

Thats how I’ve found it, just folks fed up with political parties not keeping election promises.

But the strongest Reform supporter in the family by far is my sister in law - who is here also on indefinite leave to remain! She has lived in many different countries and her last child qualifies for triple nationality ( if that’s possible!). She couldn’t be a greater supporter if she tried. She has no doubt that she will be fine.

So please don’t believe all you read in the press. There will of course be a few bad apples - it’s a new party after all - but when found out they get kicked out. We have members from pretty much every country and every religion and in my experience the party is actually very tolerant and not a bit like you hear about on tv.
So if you like the guy and he is helping you, then why on earth should his political affiliations make a difference, assuming he’s not spouting them to his clients ( which is unacceptable regardless of whichever party he supports)?

There is a lot that can happen between "secure borders" and "gas chambers", as I'm sure you well know.

If you think that people are objecting to Reform simply on the grounds of them planning to secure our borders, then I suggest that you are actively choosing to look in the other direction and turn a blind eye.

Your conscience, your choice. We will all have to live with our decisions in the end.

Of course it would be incredibly easy to find a new therapist. But how to know they’re not Reform? No therapist would reveal political views to a potential client. And what if OP didn’t like them? Or didn’t gel with them? Even if they did like them, it takes sessions and sessions to explain all your issues and history, to build rapport and a therapeutic relationship. OP will be wasting their own time and money starting again. It hurts no one but themselves. The current therapist will easily find a replacement client.

Please tell us the other manifestations - if one of them is secure borders ..... I think you have a problem of scope creep.