AIBU to stop therapy after learning my therapist’s husband is Reform?

How is she behaving like a fascist if she chooses to go to a different therapist?

You can make exactly the same argument about the Greens if we are going to judge an entire voter base by the worst activists and councillors attached to a party.

Since 7 May alone, around 10 Green councillors/candidates have already been suspended, disowned, resigned or stood down. Several cases involved antisemitism allegations or offensive posts.

The Makerfield Green candidate, Chris Kennedy, had to stand down after sharing “false flag” conspiracy material about an antisemitic attack in Golders Green.

Other Green councillors and candidates have been suspended over antisemitic posts or comments too, including cases in Croydon, Newcastle and Lambeth.

So clearly there are plenty of awful people in the Green Party as well. Antisemitism, conspiracy theories and extremism are not unique to Reform.

But equally, it would obviously be stupid and dishonest to say “therefore all Green voters are antisemites”. Most Green voters are just normal people worried about the environment, housing or public services.

The same logic applies to Reform voters. You may dislike Reform policies, rhetoric or tone, but millions of ordinary people are voting for them because they are angry about immigration, housing pressure, crime, cost of living, social cohesion and distrust in Westminster. You do not have to agree with them to understand that.

And immigration has not “massively decreased”. Net migration is down from the historic peak, but remains extremely high by historic UK standards. Pretending people are irrational for caring about it is exactly why support for Reform keeps growing.

I third that. Pitiful, but explains a lot about why we are where we are.

Standards are subjective. The OP has every right to behave like a fascist and take her business elsewhere.

Yep I think you should stop therapy with this particular therapist. She has obviously done nothing to stop you making bat shit irrational decisions. Go for it. Find a new one. But do check their voting history and that of their family, before you start afresh. Make sure they think the same as you.

How many Green councillors have had to stand down since May 7? I genuinely don’t know, but I’m aware that a few Reform ones have. It’s fair to say Reform policy isn’t racist (though also fair to see it’s not much of anything, I don’t think a single policy is more than 5 lines.) But the pronouncements of many of its members, representatives (including the leader) and acolytes are indeed racist. Reform voters are not all racist or stupid, but they are often unable to articulate what it is that they like about Reform, bar banging on about immigration. Which has massively decreased, despite them not being in power. So where else is there to go? They have to further stoke division because they don’t have any ideas. Anyone who supports that is not someone I’d want to hang around with (or spend money with) and anyone who can tolerate that to the point of marriage is not likely to impress either. It’s just a question of standards.

Reform is run by Farage.
Over 20 of his school contemporaries said they remember him saying racist things. Im the same age. I can guarantee not one of my school contemporaries would say the same.

He has also linked HIV and immigration, saidnhe wouldnt want to live next door to Romanian men (I actually live two doors down from a lovely Romanian man), his awful poster of immigrants in around 2015/6 was awfully racist (as agreed by just about everyone but racists).

Tice is much better at hiding his views but his lack of commendation of some horrendous racism in his party shows his beliefs.
Yusuf is just plain stupid and after power over anything. He will soon leave.

Reform rattling cages yet again. 🥱

Therapy is incredibly personal. You can stop seeing a therapist for any reason that makes you uncomfortable or breaks your trust in them. You’re no longer comfortable, so you can stop.

Therapy is for you not for the therapist. If it’s not going to work for you then continuing is pointless.

There are lots of people who would not want a racist in their home, for fairly obvious reasons. Why is that controversial? Would you hire a tradesman who was openly misogynistic while in your home?

Then what exactly are people objecting to? Specifically?

and secure borders is far right still yes?

and for forbid me for saying this but gas chambers are what, ultra extra super far right?

it’s pathetic. You can’t call everyone far right for basic things most people agree with - like secure borders because you run out of things to call real far right people. Good lord can’t you have any nuance in your life or is everything to the right of Zack Polanski actual Hitler?

You’re vociferously arguing that the OP should be able to cope with viewpoints different than her own, whilst also demonstrating your inability to do the same.

OP is allowed to spend her money and time with whichever professional she feels comfortable with. I suspect that you would be less inclined to choose a therapist who supported the transitioning of children, or mixed sex spaces in schools. As is your perfect right.

I second that. Embarrassing.

Is this kind of reaction perhaps why you needed therapy in the first place?

YABU

You cant shun ppl simply because you disagree with them.

Nigel Farage is married to an EU citizen.

Several major reform personalities are of immigrant stock.

What do you think about the survey of Reform members which found that more than half of them want non-white naturalised British citizens to be forcibly removed or encouraged to leave the UK? And what about the 22% of members who want the same thing to happen to non-white British citizens who were born in the UK to UK-born parents? Is that not racist either?

They've already said that they want to get rid of indefinite leave to remain. More than half of their members want naturalised non-white citizens to leave. Nearly a quarter basically want all non-white people to leave. If they get into power, who knows what policies they will seek to implement.

Poland is extremely anti non EU migration. Extremely anti asylum seekers.

Reform's policies are strict and tough but I don't think anything about racism at all really.

Would you care to elaborate?

Would you employ, for example, a Polish tradesman if they were anti-immigration?

https://www.theguardian.com/world/2015/jul/02/poles-dont-want-immigrants-they-dont-understand-them-dont-like-them

Good for all of us. Splits the vote nicely.

No, that's not what I said at all, and you know it. I'm not sure if you have a reading comprehension problem or if you are deliberately trying to misrepresent what I said.

There is indeed a vast distance between "secure borders" and "gas chambers". That was precisely my point. Far right does only refer to the very end of the spectrum which is genocide.

Most political parties in the UK (except the Greens) advocate for secure borders. Relatively few people in the UK will argue against that, and nobody is objecting to Reform simply because they are proposing "secure borders". As you well know.

Good for you

I’m a therapist and I would also find another therapist. The knowledge of this would really put me off.

In an ideal world you would not know anything about her. Are you sure she’s the same person married to the Reform guy? Most therapists are not right-wing, in my experience.

I know people who hate reform vehemently for being too soft and are members of restore.