AIBU to stop therapy after learning my therapist’s husband is Reform?

A GP is not a therapist and it's not comparable. A patient does not open up their inner world to a GP. They just need to be medically competent (and some of them are). A therapy relationship is about opening up your inner world and trusting the other person. It's very intimate. Perfectly legitimate to choose not to do that with a Reform voters or someone aligned with a Reform politician.

Exactly this. Get rid of her.

No wonder you're having therapy if this upsets you.

It's an important realisation as an adult that reasonable people support political ideas that seem crazy/bad to you, and that your ideas seem crazy/bad to them.

For example, that they might think that people who support EU membership so they can work anywhere are over-privaledged and selfish.

If the therapist is good, I see no reason to stop . You are only aware of her husband's politics because he is an elected councillor and I say this as a person with fairly left-wing ideals. When I meet people, I try to leave religion and politics out of discussions as it usually doesn't end well.

If the therapist is good, I see no reason to stop . You are only aware of her husband's politics because he is an elected councillor and I day this as a person with fairly left-wing ideals. When I meet people, I try to leave religion and politics out of discussions as it usually doesn't end well.

You have quietly shifted from “Reform voters are not racist or stupid” to repeatedly implying they are gullible idiots voting on emotion because they cannot understand policy. That is exactly why people stop listening to this sort of argument.
Also, your numbers are selective. You originally implied the Greens did not have a serious extremism problem. They plainly do. Multiple Green councillors and candidates have already been suspended or forced out over antisemitism or offensive conduct, including the Makerfield candidate sharing “false flag” conspiracy material about an antisemitic attack. Pretending that is just an unfortunate coincidence while portraying Reform as uniquely toxic is partisan nonsense.
And yes, Reform policy is rough around the edges. They are a relatively new insurgent party, not a machine polished by decades in Westminster. But the core policies are actually very easy to understand:

• Reduce immigration substantially
• Leave the ECHR if necessary to deport foreign criminals and stop illegal entry
• Increase domestic energy production
• Cut bureaucracy and quangos
• Lower taxes where possible
• Challenge DEI and identity politics in public institutions
• Tougher criminal justice and policing

No not in my opinion. Your smears only serve to further the cause of those you claim to want to keep from power. If you can’t have a grown up conversation - and you’ve shown you can’t - then any bastion of defence against the actual far right is gone

it will be the fault of people like you.

There is a high level of defensiveness on this thread . Also some people trying to draw parallels with GP, fire service and teachers which are very different relationships where usually no payment going direct to that person as is the case with a therapist.

Actions have consequences . Therapist has married someone who has views that some people find unacceptable, this won’t be news to her. This quite obviously will have financial consequences as some people will feel they won’t want to use them as a result of their choice of partner whereas others assumably will be more than happy to use them and see the partner as someone who aligns with their views .

I wouldn’t use OP’s therapist but others on here would so ultimately she won’t end up out of pocket as others will step in to fill the gap that the OP leaving will leave. Freedom of choice and all that. The post above me is totally right, you have to feel comfortable with a therapist. The OP no longer does so clearly needs to find another.

You’ve got to be very comfortable with your therapist. You no longer feel comfortable so change therapist

So she's a fascist then?

She's sure alright. What detriment she thinks she is going to suffer I don't know. The therapist is held to a professional code of conduct which the OP seems ignorant of. All her surrounding events sound very contrived. I don't know why the left become so agitated when it's suggested fascism is no longer exclusive to the 'far' right.

Why is it rage bait?

If the therapist is a member of the British Association of Counsellors and Psychotherapists, they are obliged to follow the code of conduct, which centres obligations around tackling bias and discrimination.

So she can't be unsure of whether she feels comfortable in a therapeutic relationship without being described as fascist?

I hope her next therapist isn't married to a Green MP. This is nothing but rage bait anyway.

Judging people because they don't think the way you want them to is intolerance. The hard left demand society conforms to their standards. So yes, fascism and I stand by that.

The therapist is closely associated with someone who is closely connected with a racist political party. It is reasonable to wonder how they ensure their practice remains inclusive and how they address any internal bias. It is also reasonable to ask them if they think that clients from certain backgrounds would feel safe in their hands.

In your shoes I would go to your next session and use it to question how they uphold equality and inclusion in their work. if they engage thoughtfully and non-defensively, that’s a good sign. But ultimately it is whether you still feel comfortable and can continue to benefit.

I liked my former GP. He was kind and reassuring and seemed to understand my mental health issues very well. A few years after meeting him, I was shocked to see on social media that he was into blood sports, but maybe I shouldn't have been, as he was a posh former public schoolboy from a fairly well-known family. I found it hard to reconcile his kind, caring behaviour towards humans with his indifference, some might say callousness, to animal welfare.

Still, I didn't change GPs as he was doing a good job for me. He was my doctor, not my friend. I also didn't want to start all over again with a new GP. When I moved to a different area, I was sad to have to change GPs (even though the surgery itself was a bit crap after Covid, as it was always short-staffed).

If you have a centrist position it is equally challenging to engage with the far left. And I don’t believe they are at all virtuous, their misogyny and racism also shines through.

Depends on how much cognitive dissonance is tolerable...

I would definitely lose respect for someone if I found out they'd recently married a Reform councillor. If they'd been married for years and the spouse's involvement with Reform had been a recent change, then well, that would be more complicated.

If your year of sessions with this counsellor gave you no clue that she was sympathetic to Reform, then she's probably able to keep her work separate from her personal views and do her job professionally. That said, you need to be able to trust your therapist and feel comfortable opening up to her. Only you can decide if you're able to maintain that therapeutic relationship. But there's no need to quit due to a moral principle - you've invested a lot of time in this therapy so please put yourself and your recovery first.

But OP isn’t doing that, she’s choosing her therapist. A few posts back you described that as fascism. Now you say making people feel bad for their voting preference is fascism - it isn’t. I haven’t described anyone as racist, You seem a bit confused.

Is anyone planning to help friends, neighbours, relatives, and colleagues who would be at risk of deportation under a Reform government? Or will it be head down, business as usual, and post-pandemic-practised detachment?

Maybe the therapist will help her clients find resilience and self-respect no matter how complicit they are in persecution or cleansing.

How to Survive the Society my Husband Fucked Up, in 12 £90-pound sessions.

The OP has a choice, to find a new therapist. After all, it defeats the object if she's not relaxed. Likewise, everyone else has choices and they don't have to justify or defend them, unless they want to. It's when people are made to feel like shit for exercising their vote which is fascist like. Just because you say something or someone is racist doesn't necessarily make it so.

You can do whatever you like.