AIBU to stop therapy after learning my therapist’s husband is Reform?

I don’t know what high tax paying has to do with it, but I think if you look at the data the ‘professional high tax paying Reform voter’ is vanishingly rare.

The therapist won't be 'fired'. She is not the OPs employee. She is a service provider that the OP is at liberty to patronise with her custom or not.
I know it sounds more dramatic and frames the therapist as a victim if you use 'fired', and gives you the opportunity to frame us as heading for a dystopia where women's employment is at risk, but its not an accurate description of the situation.
The therapist is no more 'fired' than your hairdresser would be if you decided to go elsewhere for whatever reason you chose.

3 cases, vs 15 plus the multiple from the prior elections doesn’t really compare. But you will choose your own evidence.

I haven’t shifted on anything - I pointed out the implication of your words, and you seem not to like them when they come from someone else. If people are voting for a party because they think people don’t like them, that’s irrational. I don’t believe that’s what people are voting for Reform, but clearly you do as you’ve repeated it throughout the thread.

Those are not policies, they are statements. How do reform plan to increase domestic energy production? What does tougher on crime mean - more police, longer sentences, different sentences, make more things a crime? Lower taxes ‘where possible’? What are the possible conditions that will need to be met to lower taxes?

For me, rough around the edges isn’t something I’d vote for. People are welcome to, but it’s a bit embarrassing to have no clarity after so long and if people are comfortable with that it does say something about their expectations and understanding of government.

Anyway, the point of the thread is about choice. OP has made the choice that this therapist is not for her. Would you choose a therapist with different values to you? Say, if the partner of the school you’ve complained about was a therapist, you’d continue to see them? I’d guess not and that would be reasonable.

But the therapist married this man recently, this ain’t a couple who’ve been married 20+ years and he’s drifted rightward or fallen down internet rabbit holes etc, this is someone who was a member of the reform party and active enough in the reform party to be a potential candidate for election for them and while that was going on, the therapist married him.

id have sympathy with someone who’d married someone who’d changed, but to marry someone knowing their politics means that even if you don’t completely share all their views, you don’t find them abhorrent.

it’s a reasonable conclusion the therapist shares the views of the company she chooses to keep.

Yes, I think most Reform voters are racist. And those who aren't racist are just too stupid to understand what they're voting for. Oh, and I guess there might be a few cr*pto billionaires wanting to exploit other people's racism for their own financial gain.

If Reform voters find that insulting...well, perhaps they should think about why so many non-Reform voters perceive them that way.

Is your fiancé a Reform councillor? And are you self-employed?

So you haven't seen the posts on here from women worried that their husbands went on the reform marches and what to do? It really doesn't matter what the content is of judging a woman for her husband's choices, it is the process of speculating and making up all sorts of stories about her and then judging and firing her that is highly problematic. Also everyone is assuming op is a woman for some reason but op could be a man. So you are happy for a man to fire a woman on the basis of her husband's choices because you think you know the circumstances of their marriage and divorce.

Do you agree with things like limiting women's rights and selling off the NHS? If your husband agrees with these things, he's clearly not left-leaning.

The point is, surely, that the therapy may well stop working in these circumstances. Therapy involves allowing a therapist to know an awful lot about you and influence your life, and requires a high degree of trust In the therapist. If that trust is damaged, then the therapy won't work anyway, and I would struggle to trust someone who has shown such poor judgment as to align herself with a Reform politician.

Some things are crossing a line. Being a Reform Councillor crosses a very big one for me.
I would not choose to associate with that person, nor their family. Let alone pay for their expertise. Views which a few years ago were held by a tiny minority are now to be lauded and praised. It's disgusting.

If they and their supporters are having to argue vociferously that it isn't a party by and for bigots and ignorant fools, there's a kind of inevitability to everyone's growing realisation that that's exactly what they are 😂😂

No. It would not be lawful to dismiss you from your job because your partner flies flags. If this happened to you, you could fight your case at ET if you're in the UK, and you would win. And rightfully so.
However, it entirely lawful for a person to choose not to purchase the services of a therapist who's husband is a Reform Councillor.

Clearly OP knows quite a lot about at least the public face of the therapist's husband, and the fact that the therapist is apparently so comfortable with that that she has married him is significant. Why would she be divorcing him if she has only just got married?

The OP doesn't know how the therapist votes herself (that is between her and the ballot box) only that she chose to marry someone who is openly Reform. That would certainly put me off as it's a choice she made to align herself with someone whose views I find totally repugnant.

I was recently in a coastal town where there was a chip shop with Restore Britain posters in the window. I wouldn't give them my custom if they were the best chips in the world, I wouldn't even feel welcome in there. I would assume they hated me as much as I hate them so they are not having my money. Years ago we had a decorator who expressed racist views. I let him finish the job but stopped chatting with him and would never employ him again. There was a pub near me where the landlord expressed his political views on a blackboard outside - once they were so offensive someone threw the blackboard in the canal (it wasn't me). He got a new board and nailed it to a tree but went bust not long after, presumably because he was alienating potential customers.

Racists have never been edgy. They've always just be sad bastards
I'm the same age as Farage if my friends wanted to be edgy, the wore out there clothes, went raving, listened to different music. They didn't say racist and antisemitic things.

I am literally on Mumsnet every day reading from posters who are married to or with men who are arses. Usually there is a lot of sympathy for the poster. But it still seems like you think those women should be punished for having 'poor judgement'. And therapy is no different from any other job. If you want to judge a woman for the company she keeps then it seems like feminism still has quite a way to go.

I don't think anyone is saying that. I think people are saying they don't want to purchase services that will benefit Reform politicians, indirectly through adding to their household income.
And that they question the values of someone who would marry a Reform politician, and that it would be important to them in therapy not to have to question the values of their therapist.

Oh I forgot abused young girls. Wasn't he terribly worried about them at one point. Along with his chum Musk? The latter was very worried indeed.

You’re entitled to be as wrong as you like. The only thing that ‘demands’ you to conform is the law.

Good post. I wouldn't choose a Christian Therapist probably.

Absolutely we should.
The Makerfield example is of particular concern, because of Farage's reaction. Its one thing an individual revealing themselves as a misogynist, another when the leader of their party defends their misogyny as 'banter'.
We can pick up on it, but when it's an accepted norm from top down, I'm not optimistic it would do any good.

Why is it misogynistic to judge her based on the company she keeps? And the person you choose to marry is really the main company you choose to keep!

Also therapy isn’t like other jobs, your personal judgement and morals are part of it, someone racist is unlikely to be a good therapist. Certainly it would be hard for someone like the OP who has a non-British partner to trust a therapist she has reason to believe is racist, hardly idiotic to not waste any more money with her.

im sure there are some reform supporters who aren’t racist, I just haven’t met them. I will however, assume anyone who does support reform is racist and has poor judgment. Therefore any service that they offer that needed good judgement would be immediately one to avoid.

The OP is completely correct to take her money elsewhere.

It's very telling that you chose mixed race couples as a comparison. It tells us all that we need to know about you as a human being.

Why don't you come back and elaborate exactly why you think that is a suitable comparison to the situation described by the OP?

She’s recently married him and he has been vocal about his views. It’s just personal choice isn’t it. You would clearly stay with therapist, I wouldn’t and neither would some others on this thread, that can’t be a surprise.

It’s just the consequence of taking a certain action ie. Being vocal about your beliefs is putting that info into the public domain and whatever your view is there will be some who judge you negatively for it and it may well have repercussions. It’s just the way things are, personal freedom and all that which we now have given we are no longer ruled by the EU.

Nigel's worry was about Romanian crime gangs and free movement

What a lot of worries he has. Romanians, Farmers, the so called " boat people" women who want to work and have children.

Must be worried sick.