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AIBU to refuse removing lilies because next door’s cats keep coming in?

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TooHotToCloseThem · 25/05/2026 16:35

Next door neighbours cats frequently cause a nuisance to me. Pooing in my garden , getting in the house if back door or windows open etc. I shoo them out or pick up the poo it annoys me but I tolerate it.

She has messaged me today (she can see directly into my conservatory from her garden and she is always staring ) asking me to shut my windows / door or to get rid of my flowers as they are poisonous to cats! They are 2 bunches of Lillies that family got me for my birthday yesterday! I also have some in a pot in the garden and various other flowers. I’ve messaged back and said maybe she needs to make her cats indoor cats as I’m not changing anything and that the cats will be fine as I’ve had the same flowers in the garden for a month and they’ve not gone near that pot (dig up my other ones though to use as litter trays!) so I’m not getting rid of my ones in vases in my own home just in case her cats come in !!!!!

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Tryingtobenormal124 · 25/05/2026 17:08

Totally bat shit and id be throwing the cat shit over into her garden too. Stupid woman. Happy birthday 🎂

Fluffybuns88 · 25/05/2026 17:07

Absolutely not, we transitioned our cats to indoor cats last year because one of the neighbours mentioned he sets his aggressive dog on cats that go in his garden and they it had already killed two.

I am not responsible for my neighbours gardens, I am however responsible for my cats.

I would also keep them in if they were becoming a nuisance.

PonyPatter44 · 25/05/2026 17:07

I have lilies in the garden, I also have cats. Your neighbour is ridiculous, just ignore her. I hope you had a lovely birthday!

staceyflack · 25/05/2026 17:04

🤣... your neighbour is ridiculous!

MyArtfulGreySloth · 25/05/2026 17:01

wtf 🤣 I’m a cat owner, but my god she’s unhinged!

Catwalking · 25/05/2026 17:00

I’m more concerned for your beautiful lilies, will they survive in a hot conservatory 😳?

JulietteHasAGun · 25/05/2026 16:59

If I wanted to be nice I’d pull the stamens out which are the poisonous bits. But obviously you don’t have to.

Ooodelally · 25/05/2026 16:50

Happy birthday! Please buy yourself a MASSIVE bunch of birthday Lillie’s from me! Your neighbour is a fucking lunatic.

OttersOnAPlane · 25/05/2026 16:48

Oh, and happy birthday for yesterday!

ParadiseIsNoBunker · 25/05/2026 16:46

I’d have sent this 😂 and gone out to buy more lillies. All the colours. All the varieties. Planted, cut, potted.

I’d have spent a fucking fortune on them.

Iusedtobefun95 · 25/05/2026 16:44

Outdoor cats can also be hit by cars is the owner expecting the whole town to walk. Iv cats and never in a million years if I let them out would ask anyone anything like that

GrumpyCommuter · 25/05/2026 16:41

I am fully committed to Team Cat - you are absolutely not unreasonable. If someone allows their cat to roam, they are allowing the risk of the cat being exposed to whatever hazards it encounters. Happy birthday, and enjoy your flowers 😊

Error404FucksNotFound · 25/05/2026 16:39

She is massively unreasonable.

modgepodge · 25/05/2026 16:38

Totally unreasonable. I never had lilies in the house when I had my own cat as was worried about poisoning. But when she went out 🤷‍♀️ I couldn’t control what she did. Even if you get rid of yours, there’s nothing to stop another neighbour who’s garden she can’t see having lilies.

WallaceinAnderland · 25/05/2026 16:37

Get more lilies

OttersOnAPlane · 25/05/2026 16:36

She's batshit.

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