My DP and I are getting married. Neither of us want a wedding with professional photography, a sit down meal, speeches etc. DP I think woukd prefer to run off and do it quietly but I want some style of celebration.
It’s been suggested that we go away somewhere with just family. We have quite small families. However, we rarely see my aunt, uncle and cousins despite the claims that we’re close (I see them on Christmas Day, my nieces’ birthdays and otherwise sporadically). If I’m being honest I don’t really like them that much. However, I have close friends, as does DP. I think there nine friends plus their partners I would want to invite, plus whoever DP wanted. But then I couldn’t invite the friends without my family (not without really hurting them, which I wouldn’t want to do).
So now it’s a wedding for 50 people or so, and then when it’s at those numbers, it becomes an insult to the other friends who I know very well and really like, because they haven’t been not invited to a small wedding, but now quite a big one, and it all starts to get out of control.
I’m looking for ideas. What can we do to maintain it being casual and small and informal? I do want some sort of celebrations and do want my friends there.