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Partner lying in bed on hottest day of the year …would you be annoyed ?

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luluxxx · 25/05/2026 12:47

My partner works 6 days of the week
He never gets bank holidays off except today .
Anyway Saturday night we went to a gig that I really wanted to go too ,we left before the main act came on as he had a sore throat.
Yesterdag was a football game,he was up and seemed to be fine ,out for 10 hours.
Today he won’t get out of bed
Says he can’t be bothered because of his sore throat.
Its 29 degrees here
We had plans to go to car boot sale or beach.
Anyway I have left him to it and came out to the park with my book.
Would you be annoyed ?
I feel a bit sad as I’m sat by myself and everyone here with partners etc .

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Bringbackbuffy · 25/05/2026 12:54

Just clicked in this thread to make sure it wasn’t about me 😂

lazyarse123 · 25/05/2026 12:54

He's being a selfish twat. The heat didn't bother him when it came to football did it? I'm glad you have gone out but why didn't you go to the beach or boot sale if that's what you really wanted to do ?

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luluxxx · 25/05/2026 12:54

@Miranda65we never get bank holidays together and we had planned this one for weeks to spend doing something together …if the match was today he would be out no bother

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tiramisugelato · 25/05/2026 12:53

His behaviour over the gig was dickish (why didn’t you stay on your own though?) but I wouldn’t be going anywhere in this heat if I didn’t have to - least of all the beach or a car boot - it sounds like he’ll.

I’m currently in the shade in the garden with a bowl of snacks and a book. I’m only going out later because I need to for work.

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luluxxx · 25/05/2026 12:53

I guess we all like different things

We hardly get any sunshine like this so I like to make the most of it.
It was just annoying as he was fine yesterday at the match but today he’s on deaths door again

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Miranda65 · 25/05/2026 12:52

It's his day off - he can do what he likes.
I usually avoid going out on Bank Holidays, just to dodge the traffic, but what was stopping you from going to the beach or car boot sale on your own? You're not joined at the hip - my husband has been out since 8am today.

Imthefunfriend · 25/05/2026 12:52

He works six days a week, I wouldn’t begrudge him a day in bed.

I would be annoyed about leaving the concert early because he said he wasn’t well but then him managing to stay out for 10 hours the next day.

FelicityShagsWell · 25/05/2026 12:51

luluxxx · 25/05/2026 12:47

My partner works 6 days of the week
He never gets bank holidays off except today .
Anyway Saturday night we went to a gig that I really wanted to go too ,we left before the main act came on as he had a sore throat.
Yesterdag was a football game,he was up and seemed to be fine ,out for 10 hours.
Today he won’t get out of bed
Says he can’t be bothered because of his sore throat.
Its 29 degrees here
We had plans to go to car boot sale or beach.
Anyway I have left him to it and came out to the park with my book.
Would you be annoyed ?
I feel a bit sad as I’m sat by myself and everyone here with partners etc .

No, I would rather be reading by myself in peace than with hordes on a beach on a Bank Holiday Monday. The car boot also sounds hellish on a day like today.

mindutopia · 25/05/2026 12:50

I think it’s madness to go out in this heat. And especially if you’re ill. I went to the garden centre early today because it needed to be done. But I’m planning to lie down for a few hours. We’ll be up and doing things tonight and we’re having a BBQ and kids will be outside playing. But right now everyone in their rooms with curtains drawn.

PurpleNightingale · 25/05/2026 12:50

i think you need to let him rest. He's not 100% and heat this hot can make you feel worse. We had had plans to do some gardening today but its just too hot so I'm laid on my bed. We've agreed to try at 4pm/5pm when its cooler!

If you want to go out can you not do this without him? It's his day off too.

KitKatPitPat · 25/05/2026 12:49

Sounds like he’s feeling well enough to do the things he wants to do, just not the things you want to do. Is that a common pattern? I mean in general does he prioritise himself and not care about what you want? Or do you think he’s genuinely not feeling well?

TimeForTeaAndG · 25/05/2026 12:49

I'd be more pissed off at leaving an event but him being fine for the football!

Leave him to suffer with his man cold, enjoy your day.

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