Partner lying in bed on hottest day of the year …would you be annoyed ?

It sounds like you need to talk to each other. No way in hell would I be going to a car boot sale or a long trip to the beach today, it's too hot. But I also wouldn't leave half way through a gig that's just mean. It sounds like you each want to do what you each want to do and haven't found a way to compromise/settle your differences.

I was going to say yabu until I read the bit about him being fine to go to the football.......what an asshole

DH in bed right now. I don’t bloody blame him!

See I must really not like my partner because I love spending time with myself after spending time with him and our child 😂🤣 he’s gone in a mood with me today because we don’t live together so I dropped our child
off and left them too it!… I’d enjoy your day for what it’s worth and just really soak in the alone time.

Not really. We are just napping here.

Up early for dog/river walk, chores, gardening and then a mid morning nap on the bed and just had another nap on the outdoor sofa under shade.

One day off a week wouldn’t be enough for me to rest, to do the things I really wanted to do and do the things my partner wanted to do as well, so in your shoes, I’d accept that this weekend, he’s probably knackered and just doesn’t want to get up early and tramp around a boot fair, or sit on a crowded beach in this heat.

But, that would very much depend on his pattern of behaviour. If he never wants to do the things you want to do, and is regularly leaving gigs early, or he only wants to watch the football and never do anything with you, then you have to consider that he could just be a fundamentally selfish man who doesn’t want to make the space for you in his life.

He may be a West Ham fan, hence the need to recover!

It's about not making you a priority basically isn't it, rather than the rights and wrongs of lying in bed on a hot day, and I don't blame you for being hurt and disappointed by that. I don't think it's something you can change about a person though so maybe time to weigh up whether there's enough good things about him/your relationship to compensate for it.

I would be pissed that he can make an effort for the football but not other things. If that is how he is, I wouldn’t be with him.

In general though, if he was a good partner and did make effort usually, I wouldn’t be bothered. I’m lying on our bed with the air con on.

Don't listen to people saying what they do and don't like you should be able to do the things you like with a partner who wants to be with you. It's really hot a high bar and I'd be questioning the whole relationship.

Agree with this poster. Leave him to sulk in bed and see if you can organise something with friends or go out by yourself. I wouldn’t be staying at home if I fancied going out - except I don’t, as it’s too hot 😂

Because I feel his pain. I am the main breadwinner now and for a number of years I was the only breadwinner. I adore my family, but was aghast at their lack of consideration at times, when I came home in the evening and they ambushed me by the door with 'let's go out', 'let us play', 'do you want to see my new dance routine'? All I wanted was a shower and bed. Not even eat.

I’m with him tbh. I have a ‘cold’ (thinking possibly covid as can’t taste anything today) and I’ve been up and down. Felt awful on Saturday, ok to work on Sunday but then absolutely collapsed today and the heat isn’t helping. If anyone expected me to do anything other than veg on the sofa today they’d get short shrift.

Leave him in peace to recuperate as he has the day off to do whatever he wants. I get that it’s annoying when plans get changed or cancelled but for you being out in the unbearable heat was more important than spending time with him, so he might also be feeling pissed off?

The gig is slightly unforgivable … (Assuming he was not genuinely feeling dreadful?

But as for today - I wouldn’t be entertaining any suggestion of leaving my house. About 50 million tourists will have descended on my local city - so all my favourite green or watery places will be rammed. And I’m certainly not attempting anywhere further afield. Not sure even the garden will be tolerable this afternoon. Anything other than sofa, book, bowl of cherries and a cold drink would be completely unreasonable.

(But if he regularly spoils your fun … 🤷‍♀️)

Op - he works 6 days of the week- surely you don’t begrudge him a day of rest?

This will sound harsh perhaps OP, but seriously now or inevitably in the future, LTB.
He ruined your gig, ruined today - but was fine for 10 hours of football yesterday? He doesn’t care about you or respect you. You’d be better off on your own.

Wouldn't annoy me at all
Not joined at hip
I've done very little this bank holiday
No doubt the mums net productivity police will be along to call me lazy... sigh

lol you wrote this in the way I was thinking with more swear words but definitely spot on!

Enjoy your book and the park, have a wander and be grateful for this beautiful day. Plan a nice supper for you both this evening. He might feel better later when it's cooled down a bit.
I'm house sitting, with a little dog. We did lots before 9 am!
I'm cooking, relaxing, reading, chilling, can't think of anything worse being on a beach in the UK or car boot sale on a bank holiday monday.
Be happy and hope you are now in a better state of mind.

Yabu for making me sympathise with a man!

Leave him to rest!

I wouldn’t worry about going to the beach because where we are it’s standing room only. I’ll be avoiding until early tomorrow morning .

It does not matter, he does not owe anyone an explanation of why after 6 days' weeks, year in, year out (never had a bank hol off, the OP said) he feels like vegetating and lying in bed. He has earned it. Leave him be. He does not have to fake a sore throat, but the fact that he does, only means his partner is so disrespectful of his needs (need to rest and simply not to go anywhere on the one day off) that he has to lie because he is scared and/or too polite to say 'are you fucking mad? why are you so selfish with your fucking gigs? I am TIRED. Fuck off'

My house is doing a brilliant job of staying cool with the insulation, so this is where I'm staying for the day.
Perhaps he realised he overdid it at the football?

I'd be binning this loser OP. I feel you can do a lot better.