Partner lying in bed on hottest day of the year …would you be annoyed ?

Give over, leaving a gig because of a sore throat.

Also loving @BarbaraTiredofMen‘s tour de force!

Fabulous. 😂😂😂

He works 6 days a week, and doesn't feel well, he's back at work tomorrow- leave him alone.

Yes, I’d take offence to this.

I have several thoughts on this.

1. He works 6 days so it's fine he's tired and wants to do what he wants - be that lying in bed or football
2. Simultaneously he shouldn't promise you things and then backtrack. He should just say
3. You can go to the beach/car boot alone (I do)
4. Just because some people don't like the heat doesn't mean everyone hates it. Also this misses the point of OP's issues
5. I think you should just talk to him about this

It’s too hot to be out for a lot of people. I’ve been mostly reading in my North facing front room which is 10 degrees cooler than outside.

He also works 6 days a week usually so give him a break!

Was he playing football or watching? Either way if playing I guess he didn’t want to let people down, and if watching his team, I think it’s last match of the season so I totally understand him prioritising this.

And I do think that a sunny bank holiday can be the worst time to head out to tourist spots, traffic jams, queues for everything - parking, ice creams, drinks etc.

I actually had a nap myself this afternoon, and normally I never sleep in the day unless unwell but it’s just too hot outside to be comfortable and I’m really lethargic.

I get that you were hoping to do something together with your day off, but I think it’s unreasonable to be annoyed at him. Frustrated maybe, but it sounds like things have just come together in a way that isn’t ideal.

This. All of this.

I wouldn't have left the concert. If he rarely gets a day off and wants to spend the day in bed, I wouldn't be fussed about that either. Beach and car boot in this heat doesn't sound great. If he had simply said that he didn't want to do anything apart from stay home - instead of saying he's unwell - would that have been okay?

Why didn’t you go to the car boot? Or beach? Frankly in this heat I don’t want to do anything that active. Enjoy your reading

It's his day off and it's really hot! My DH is in the same boat. I am off all week so don't begrudge him a rest day. I have had a great day. We have spent Saturday and Sunday together, I don't feel the need to also be doing stuff today if he feels like resting.

He works 6 days a week. Give him a break.

Surprised results aren’t more YABU!

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Well played. Wasn't sure till well into reading it. Like all good satire.

It wouldn't bother me, I don't need another person with me to do things. He is tired and wants to rest in his own way, sleep is nice.

The man works 6 days a week and never gets a bank holiday off, also it's far too hot for it to be pleasant or comfortable to go out. Let the man spend his time off how he wants to.

I hate the heat. I'm a redhead and heat and sun is torture for me. My husband works in security and is a door supervisor as well. He's worked friday - sunday 3pm till roughly 4am. He is laid on the bed, blinds shut and his fan on playing on his xbox. I'm in the living room with ac unit with our 2yr old and 19yr old (he's hungover). 22yr old is out at a theme park, 17yr old is at a friends bbq as they have a pool. I've cleaned, prepped chicken & salad for tea, washed & foled 3 loads of washing and refilled my birdbath with cold water. That's about as much as I'm doing.
I'd love to live near the sea though. I think i may venture out if there was a cold sea on offer to nip into.

If he's not well, then he's unwell.

I've been floored with a sore throat, post-nasal drip which has mostly dried up do to a nasal spray and antihisamines but I'm floored with fatigue but look fine to anyone who sees me.

I had to go to bed for a few hours sleep on Saturday afternoon which is unusual for me. I'm struggling to stay awake today despite having had a good night's sleep.

I had to go to something important yesterday for 2 hours but I plied myself in medication and just about got through it but I was shattered.

If he's not well then if he did go along with you he'd probably have ruined it for you.

This is one of the most mental posts I’ve read on here

It is if it's serious!!

Wow...so who was parenting in the evenings? The minor breadwinner?

but I don't get the obsession with having to go out and "do something" when it's hot

More of a stay in and do nothing day for me. I love a stroll on the beach but not on a 30c bank holiday Monday!!

I'd seriously think about dumping him.

seems like the only plans he packs in to rest wre plans you have together but hes still fine to fuck off for 10 hours to do football in the middle of being ill.

All I can say is don't expect better from him because you won't get it and if you have kids you'll be expected to entertain them all the time.

It’s hideous out there. Had to go out for ten mins and made me feel quite poorly - I think a lot of folk are keeping out of the sun inside today. Even worse if he’s already under the weather. There will be other bank holidays :)

Then he shouldn't have made plans with his partner and disappointed her. If he was that bad he could have rested up on Sunday but no that would have meant foregoing what he wanted to do. Still selfish.

Why? If the OP's partner can't be bothered to take time to consider her feelings, bin him