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AIBU to think sex and gender need different terms if distinct?

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sabreslot · 24/05/2026 15:31

We have been told that sex and gender are not the same thing. So, as the words woman and man describe someone's sex, why are we using the same words to describe someone’s gender identity.

For example, if a man (sex) has a gender identity that is ‘woman’ they are effectively using a word that describes the opposite sex, which they are not.

Surely, if we had a different word to describe people’s genders and indeed if there was a clear definition, as there are with the words that describe sex, many of the arguments around this subject would be put to bed.

With this in mind, could someone please explain to me what gender is if sex and gender are different things.

AIBU - If sex and gender are separate things then we should not use the same words to describe both.

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Talkinpeace · 24/05/2026 15:57

Sex is real

Gender is a religion

Flipflopsandsunhat · 24/05/2026 15:52

We could just get rid of gender. That would solve the whole nonsense.

plantcomplex · 24/05/2026 15:50

You mean like "personality"?

InfoSecInTheCity · 24/05/2026 15:49

Why bother, those words would be co-opted within 1 minutes. We were quite clear on what woman meant, then men started using it to describe themselves. When they were called out on this they decided that ‘woman ‘ is attached to gender not sex so they are right to use it, so we started using ‘female’ more often to be abundantly clear that we meant ‘sex’ as in XX/larger gamete/ uterus etc and now all the men are claiming to be female, so we started tagging it ‘biological female’ and now they’re claiming that they are biological female because they’ve forced their bodies to develop some of the secondary sex characteristics associated with being female and they’re biological entities therefore biologically female. We could ascribe the word ‘exabites’ or ‘schwatsamacallits’ to mean ‘an adult human being who developed along the pathway designed to create large gametes’ and all of a sudden they would all be calling themselves ‘exabites’ or ‘schwatsamacallits’ and coming up with some ridiculous word-salad to explain why they are real ‘exabites’ or ‘schwatsamacallits’.

So no. No. No. No.

I am a woman, a woman is an adult human female, female is a sex class defined as someone who developed along the pathway designed to create large gametes. No more re-naming stuff to try to accommodate the fantasists.

sabreslot · 24/05/2026 15:48

ToffeeCrabApple · 24/05/2026 15:38

Easy option would be words like feminine/masculine which cover this and the stereotyping inherent in the concept of gender

Effeminate?

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ToffeeCrabApple · 24/05/2026 15:38

Easy option would be words like feminine/masculine which cover this and the stereotyping inherent in the concept of gender

sabreslot · 24/05/2026 15:35

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 24/05/2026 15:32

Well - as far as I am concerned, sex and gender ARE two different, distinct terms - people need to use them properly.

But we use the same words, man and woman to describe gender when those words are taken and they refer to sex.

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SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 24/05/2026 15:32

Well - as far as I am concerned, sex and gender ARE two different, distinct terms - people need to use them properly.