Really depressed I didn’t just go on Ozempic - only maintained for a year

Private doctors don't hand out weight loss jabs like sweeties. There are of course prescription criteria!

So you are currently under 10 stone and maintaining? Wow I wish I was 10 stone. I'm 14 stone and constantly trying to lose weight

It sounds to be like you need to do some work on your inner voice and how you speak to yourself. You’re being very hard on yourself. You’ve done really amazingly. Everyone is on their own journey, what your friend did or didn’t do is irrelevant to you. Dwelling on her choices vs yours is ultimately pointless. I understand it’s hard not to but try to move away from comparisons.

You need to be your own best friend and speak to yourself how you would speak to a friend. Maybe take a moment to write down some positive thoughts about yourself that have nothing to do with your weight or body. You are so much more than your body. Sending best wishes.

💯 agree. Or if not a judgey judgey person critiquing other women's bodies, then thinking it's all about them and everyone is looking at them.

Social media has a lot to answer for 😥

This is so accurate. 2kg weights won’t be enough to make the body composition changes you want to see.
Definitely check out this video which explains what to do and why with the weight training!

@Neade pls get a PT to help devise a personalised plan for you to help you target areas you’re unhappy with. I’m no expert but the weights need to be increased as you progress the load - you won’t get results doing the same exercises and weights you did to get you this stage.
Hope you get to a happy place - celebrate your achievements to date!

I'm so sorry you feel this way. It's so hard with PCOS/ insulin resistance. Please ask your GP for Metformin if you have diagnosed PCOS and explain how difficult you're finding it to lose/maintain weight. It doesn't work for everyone with PCOS but it sounds like you know exactly how to eat/keep active so this may be all you need to help. When I started Metformin I was so nauseous as it's a very common side effect so I ended up getting the slow release version which is much better. I really do wish you all the best ❤️
Keep at it with the gym or whatever exercise you enjoy x

You are at your goal weight. You have got there in a sensible sustainable way. This is a TRIUMPH!

Losing 5 stone in 5 month is not a recipe for long term health, how easy will that be too sustain?

You have done brilliantly but still a bit more to do on mindset. Have a look at Slimpod which is great on the psychology for weight loss & maintenance.

Of course you can! "Healthy" BMI is anything between 18.5 and 25, that is quite a range.

You need to work up from 2kg. They might be ok to start for lateral raises but over 2-3 years need to be using much heavier

In terms of weights for upper body i’m currently managing (for arms, all for 10 reps) the weights below are per hand other than tricep extension and kettlebell swing.

6kg - chest supported Y raise. Rotator raise, front raise
8kg - lateral raise
12kg - rear delt flies, skull crushers, chest flies, upright row
16kg - tricep kickback, tricep extension (with both hands together), shoulder press
18kg - incline bench
20kg - bench press, per hand
24kg - dumbbell row (1 hand at a time)
28kg - kettlebell swing (2 hands)
32kg - farmer carry for 1 mins per hand

No it's not??

OP I got to a healthy BMI but knew I would feel much better with another stone off and did so using Fast 800 Keto. I find it so so hard to stick to a moderate calorie deficit for months at a time but for some reason a short burst of 800 Keto feels more manageable. I have now maintained for over a year at my lower weight. Just to manage expectations tho, despite being a size 10 and regularly lifting heavy weights and walking 20k steps daily I still v much have wobbly bits!

Why is it incompatible? I am on HRT and successfully used Mounjaro.

Hit the gym and walk, loads.
I'm on hrt, which is incompatable with wli 😫
I"m trying so hard to drink my Huel and eat 1 decent meal a day. You're only 31, just get yourself moving and lifting

Be thankful to be the weight you are, we are never perfect. I used wli to the extreme and now I look skeletal just stay healthy.

Sorry you're so frustrated OP. Mumsnet feels a bit gaslight-y sometimes: it's perfectly possible that losing a few more pounds might do something about the wobbly bits you don't like - agree toning good alongside. For me toning on its own wasn't nearly as helpful as losing a few lb. Being 137lb isn't some magic figure, people feel they look their best at different weights, we all carry weight so differently.

BUT: what will it cost you though, in terms of energy, head space, the obsessiveness needed to do it? Definitely one to weigh up. Energy hating yourself is energy wasted, and it won't help you to nourish your body with the right things (and sometimes the right thing is cake!) in a loving way. Loving yourself is def more important than any of the weight loss stuff, and that counts double if you can feel your eating becoming disordered, or thought patterns becoming unhealthy.

But you are where you want to be, at your ideal weight … or where you wanted to be anyway! Try and get out of the habit of comparing yourself to others, it’s a lose-lose mentality. Look at your own progress not theirs. You are a healthy weight, which you have maintained for a year, you are physically active so you have achieved a lot. And it’s great that you did it without meds, it may have been harder but you won’t get the backlash of coming off meds - typically as soon as you come off meds your appetite bounces back big time and you put on weight. Now you’ve lost the weight and are down to what was your ideal weight, maybe cut yourself some slack about how you look. Try seeing your body as your friend, not as a commodity that has to fit some ideal standard of beauty. Do exercise that you enjoy that makes you feel alive. Be grateful for everything your body gives you, for every movement it can make, for every feeling it lets you experience. You’ve lost the weight, maybe now you can take the time to appreciate your body for other more soulful reasons as well.

You're doing fine, much better than taking the weight loss jabs if you can do it that way. Recent studies appear to be confirming the fears that roughly 1/3 of the weight loss is bone and muscle, which will cause all kinds of issues for people down the line.

OP I got to a healthy BMI but knew I would feel much better with another stone off and did so using Fast 800 Keto. I find it so so hard to stick to a moderate calorie deficit for months at a time but for some reason a short burst of 800 Keto feels more manageable. I have now maintained for over a year at my lower weight. Just to manage expectations tho, despite being a size 10 and regularly lifting heavy weights and walking 20k steps daily I still v much have wobbly bits!

OP I think you are focusing on the wrong thing here. If you are at your goal weight loosing another stone might not help your stomach or arms.

Switch it up, focus on your protein and exercises for these area. HIT work ours would be perfect, short, quick and target areas.

Taking a weight loss drug won’t help you tone up

You've done brilliantly and you have developed extremely healthy eating habits, giving you a much higher chance of keeping the weight off.

The lack of recent weight loss prob means you have reached a natural, good, weight. If you lost more, especially by using drugs, it may be that you couldn't possibly maintain that additional loss without ongoing chemical support.

A whole year of maintaining a significant weight loss is a huge, HUGE win that people who diet less healthily, or with meds, are less likely to achieve

There’s a lot to be said about accepting yourself as you are. You sound like you’re eating healthily, going to the gym, that sounds like a good balance to me.
its really amazing you have been able to keep the weight off too - that’s the hardest part of any diet - maintaining it, must mean you’re doing something right.

stop comparing yourself to others, we are all different shapes and sizes and you need to start feeling proud of the weight you have lost and get some body confidence!

Generally it’s 19.5 bmi, some 21/22, they dint stop prescribing unless you lose more weight,

Exactly!

You will plateau though any sort of weight loss.
It’s completely normal.

And I know loads of people who didn’t lose/couldn’t maintain weight loss on WLIs because their issues were eating too much (not because they were hungry).

WLIs are great for many people but they’re not good for everyone and they’re definitely not a magic wand.