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Really depressed I didn’t just go on Ozempic - only maintained for a year

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Neade · 24/05/2026 15:29

I don’t know I really need a rant.

I feel really angry and upset at myself. To the point i just want to scream/cry.

Last year i lost 55 pounds without glp 1s. I totally cut out carbs (well I’d eat sweet potatoes if absolutely necessary). And just made an effort not to use food as a crutch. It worked fairly well as the weight came off.

I decided I needed more moderation. The no carb thing was just making me have cravings. So I started eating jackets, pasta salads etc. Not ideal as I have pcos but I try to be sensible. Ie having cooled down pasta to make it resistant or whatever. Not smothering pasta in cheese etc.

Its meant my weight loss has completely stalled. I’m happy that I’ve not gained all the weight back. But still. I’ve been eating in moderation for a year and not lost weight! I can’t deny this anger is compounded by the fact I saw my friend for lunch today. She’s lost 5 stone in 5 months using Mounjaro.

I just want to weep. I wish I just started on Ozempic or similar. I’m at my goal weight but to be honest I’d love another stone off. I don’t know why I didn’t go
on a glp 1. I just knew in my heart that my weight was not “inexplicable”. I was eating far too much out of boredom.

Just another sunny day wasted hating myself even though I’ve tried 😢

I’ve been going to the gym too. How pathetic to be this mindful and to not have lost any weight.

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Sometimeswinning · 26/05/2026 08:44

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 26/05/2026 08:41

The majority of people losing weight through 'hard grit' will put back on weight. I think the stats are 90% - 95% will put the weight back on between 3 - 5 years

90-95%? Who and how many people were asked?

Velumental · 26/05/2026 08:43

Neade · 24/05/2026 15:39

Luckily I don’t have loose skin (only 31). I just have a layer of fat that won’t budge. Wish I could be in a skimpy top like everyone else.

I'm a size 14 after losing 2 stone, still overweight and I'll wear the clingy top. Noone can make you love your body no matter how much weight you lose. You need to work on self acceptance

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 26/05/2026 08:41

Sometimeswinning · 26/05/2026 08:39

I have seen interviews where “food noise” returns within days of stopping the injections. Unless you have trained your mindset with food a majority of people will put the weight back on.

Pure grit teaches you good eating habits.

The majority of people losing weight through 'hard grit' will put back on weight. I think the stats are 90% - 95% will put the weight back on between 3 - 5 years

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 26/05/2026 08:39

andfinallyhereweare · 24/05/2026 22:17

PCOS is considered a health condition so you can go on the injections with a healthy bmi and PCOS

Can you? I haven't seen that on any prescribing guidelines

Sometimeswinning · 26/05/2026 08:39

BurnoutGP · 25/05/2026 21:15

Not for every single person and not all the weight! Have you read the studies?? Or just social media and the daily fail?
I have ..this is my area of work.
And I can assure you "pure grit without the drugs" does absolutely no better long term.
Like any chronic disease treatment is long term. Or do you think diabetics, depressed people, asthmatic should manage without " the drugs"??

I have seen interviews where “food noise” returns within days of stopping the injections. Unless you have trained your mindset with food a majority of people will put the weight back on.

Pure grit teaches you good eating habits.

StuntNun · 26/05/2026 08:22

Honestly, you have really achieved a lot especially with having PCOS. Are you taking Metformin? If you’re happy on a slightly higher carb intake then you could give intermittent fasting a try. Dr Mindy Pelz recommends five 16:8 fasts, one 24-hour fast and one day of eating three meals each week. The 24-hour fast is the tricky one at first but you can work your way up to it by gradually increasing your length of fast.

It sounds like you’re more upset about the “wobbly bits” than your overall weight. You can improve your muscle tone with bodyweight workouts like the 30-Day Shred or a kettlebell routine or class. If you’re already using the gym then a proper workout will make a huge amount of difference. I like the Stronglift programme as it’s only five exercises per session, five sets of five reps (apart from deadlift is only one set) so it’s really quick. You could add in an aerobic workout out the same time if you like those.

Please don’t mourn after a perceived lost opportunity with GLP1 medications. You don’t know how much muscle loss your friend has had or what side effects she has had to put up with. It’s really common to have weight loss stalls on your way to your ideal weight. Now that you’ve managed maintenance for a year, you’re physically in a good place to make some tweaks and get the figure you want.

Good luck to you.

Runssometimes · 26/05/2026 08:21

Sounds like you’ve done brilliantly and you’re at the ideal weight for you. This is more your perception than anything else, have you tried toning the bits of you that are bothering you? I think perhaps you need to give yourself more credit and be kinder to yourself. I would recommend more strength training, perhaps get a trainer to show you some exercises with heavier weights to target the bits of you you’re unhappy with or Pilates/yoga which help tone up. I’ve been doing reformer Pilates twice a week since January and can see the difference in my arms, legs and waist, I’m still overweight as haven’t made the dietary changes you have but am definitely more toned underneath the fat.

FirstdatesFred · 26/05/2026 08:13

Kindly I think you’re being too perfectionist about your body. You could lose another stone and still not feel great about how your bare arms look.

You’ve done great. Low carbing was very effective for me too at times but I found it very unforgiving and all-or-nothing. Reintroducing a small amount of carbs never worked for me either and I just couldn’t maintain it long term.

HobGobblynne · 26/05/2026 08:09

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Of course people get het up. It’s both frustrating and insulting to people taking (or prescribing) these medications to continually hear from people who have no idea what they’re talking about repeating nonsense about side effects they’ve read from dubious sources - as if the people actually using the medications are too stupid to understand the medication they’ve been prescribed. It doesn’t happen with any other medication - or any other use of this specific medication. Only when it comes to GLP1s for weight loss do totally unqualified people feel they have more insight into the risks.

couple that with people praising someone for cutting out an entire food group as being a healthier way to lose weight based on nothing other than a perception that WLI users are lazy and that weight loss is only worthy if you’ve had to suffer for it and yeah, people will of course get “het up”

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whenitsover · 26/05/2026 07:38

Neade · 24/05/2026 15:34

My goal weight puts me in the healthy range. I still have wobbly bits that are getting me down.

Congrats on your weight loss

you have probably retained more muscle mass than your friend who took glp1

the wobbly bits are what everyone has. They needs to be turned into muscle through strength training if you want to achieve a lean look while being in a calorie deficit

good luck!

WutheringTights · 26/05/2026 06:42

Neade · 24/05/2026 15:35

I’m 137 pounds. I’d love to be 120. My arms and stomach just look awful uncovered

Oh love. How tall are you? I’m 150 pounds and my arms look great. My stomach has seen better days but that’s three kids for you. 137 pounds is slim. Weights will help your arms look better, and Pilates your stomach, but at 137 pounds this hatred of your body feels like there’s something else going on.

BurnoutGP · 26/05/2026 06:29

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I love how on mumsnet when you disagree with someone who you can't argue with, you just resort to character assassination and patronising nonsense . Im "dogmatic" and erm angry because this is an area I am experienced in and care about and get really irritated at the absolute nonsense that people spout with such certainty.

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BambinaCucina · 26/05/2026 00:56

Dazedanddiscombobulated · 24/05/2026 15:34

You can’t have a stone to lose if your BMI is healthy though. You should be really proud of having got to goal weight on your own.

I don't know about OP, but my healthy range goes from 8 stone something to 11 stone. So I could be 10st 7 and still be able to go to 9st 7lb without being underweight.

BurnoutGP · 26/05/2026 00:10

HobGobblynne · 25/05/2026 23:29

80% of people that lose weight without the help of WLIs regain it too. It’s not unique to people using WLIs.

If you stop any weight loss method…you’ll stop losing weight.

Exactly correct. So having a medication that you can take long term to counteract that is a very good thing indeed.
Kinda like when they discovered all the wonderful meds we have for other chronic diseases

BurnoutGP · 26/05/2026 00:08

Pixi365 · 25/05/2026 23:08

I’m having my gallbladder out soon as I have started getting gallstones, do you know the first thing they asked when I was admitted with pain that was what I’d say way worse then labour? Have you took weight loss medication or injections. I haven’t but asked why. She said the influx in people coming in with gallstones and gallbladder problems after taking them is crazy so it’s now a question they first ask. She also said there is little to no point in them as when you stop them you eat normal again and gain the weight back. So loose it naturally or risk watching fats constantly and being on the medication for life if you want to keep the weight off. It’s a risk I would never take.

More uneducated nonsense. The risk of gallstones is related to weight loss not GLP1 per se. Its actually a good thing people are losing weight. The population will overall be healthier.
The risk of obesity and the cost to the health service is immeasurably higher than any risks of the GLP1.
I despair of the ignorance and then parrotting it as if you in your ignorance are the actual font of knowledge

HobGobblynne · 25/05/2026 23:29

Pixi365 · 25/05/2026 23:08

I’m having my gallbladder out soon as I have started getting gallstones, do you know the first thing they asked when I was admitted with pain that was what I’d say way worse then labour? Have you took weight loss medication or injections. I haven’t but asked why. She said the influx in people coming in with gallstones and gallbladder problems after taking them is crazy so it’s now a question they first ask. She also said there is little to no point in them as when you stop them you eat normal again and gain the weight back. So loose it naturally or risk watching fats constantly and being on the medication for life if you want to keep the weight off. It’s a risk I would never take.

80% of people that lose weight without the help of WLIs regain it too. It’s not unique to people using WLIs.

If you stop any weight loss method…you’ll stop losing weight.

Pixi365 · 25/05/2026 23:08

I’m having my gallbladder out soon as I have started getting gallstones, do you know the first thing they asked when I was admitted with pain that was what I’d say way worse then labour? Have you took weight loss medication or injections. I haven’t but asked why. She said the influx in people coming in with gallstones and gallbladder problems after taking them is crazy so it’s now a question they first ask. She also said there is little to no point in them as when you stop them you eat normal again and gain the weight back. So loose it naturally or risk watching fats constantly and being on the medication for life if you want to keep the weight off. It’s a risk I would never take.

AgentJohnson · 25/05/2026 22:59

A GLP1 wouldn’t tone your wobbly bits. So you went from 62kg to 54kg, how tall are you? Spend the money you could have thrown at a GLP1 into a PT, who would help you devise a more effective plan than Tik Tok. Have you been lifting 2kg for the entire year?

BurnoutGP · 25/05/2026 22:41

Liznug · 25/05/2026 21:19

I have bugger all view on it

just clocked your view and thought odd that seemed a bit different to what I’d reads from you on other threads 🤷‍♀️

You clearly do have a view. But I have no idea what you're trying to imply?

wheresthesnowgone · 25/05/2026 21:24

5 stone in 5 months is awfully quick. I'm steadily losing on MJ but only a couple of pounds a month. I think I'd be worried if I was losing 14lbs a month.

Liznug · 25/05/2026 21:19

BurnoutGP · 25/05/2026 21:15

Not for every single person and not all the weight! Have you read the studies?? Or just social media and the daily fail?
I have ..this is my area of work.
And I can assure you "pure grit without the drugs" does absolutely no better long term.
Like any chronic disease treatment is long term. Or do you think diabetics, depressed people, asthmatic should manage without " the drugs"??

I have bugger all view on it

just clocked your view and thought odd that seemed a bit different to what I’d reads from you on other threads 🤷‍♀️

Liznug · 25/05/2026 21:17

BurnoutGP · 25/05/2026 21:15

Not for every single person and not all the weight! Have you read the studies?? Or just social media and the daily fail?
I have ..this is my area of work.
And I can assure you "pure grit without the drugs" does absolutely no better long term.
Like any chronic disease treatment is long term. Or do you think diabetics, depressed people, asthmatic should manage without " the drugs"??

I was quoting you

And quite clearly I wasnt referring to all as i said some