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Really depressed I didn’t just go on Ozempic - only maintained for a year

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Neade · 24/05/2026 15:29

I don’t know I really need a rant.

I feel really angry and upset at myself. To the point i just want to scream/cry.

Last year i lost 55 pounds without glp 1s. I totally cut out carbs (well I’d eat sweet potatoes if absolutely necessary). And just made an effort not to use food as a crutch. It worked fairly well as the weight came off.

I decided I needed more moderation. The no carb thing was just making me have cravings. So I started eating jackets, pasta salads etc. Not ideal as I have pcos but I try to be sensible. Ie having cooled down pasta to make it resistant or whatever. Not smothering pasta in cheese etc.

Its meant my weight loss has completely stalled. I’m happy that I’ve not gained all the weight back. But still. I’ve been eating in moderation for a year and not lost weight! I can’t deny this anger is compounded by the fact I saw my friend for lunch today. She’s lost 5 stone in 5 months using Mounjaro.

I just want to weep. I wish I just started on Ozempic or similar. I’m at my goal weight but to be honest I’d love another stone off. I don’t know why I didn’t go
on a glp 1. I just knew in my heart that my weight was not “inexplicable”. I was eating far too much out of boredom.

Just another sunny day wasted hating myself even though I’ve tried 😢

I’ve been going to the gym too. How pathetic to be this mindful and to not have lost any weight.

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HobGobblynne · 31/05/2026 10:09

Sometimeswinning · 29/05/2026 17:29

I genuinely feel you care a lot about what I think. I’ve not insulted you. Been unkind. Launched some random attack about your person. Please take a look back at what you have said to me.

Maybe it’s Friday night. Maybe it’s bothered you for the last day or so. Kindly, go enjoy tonight.

I think you’re misunderstanding how forums work. People aren’t sitting around thinking about you between posts. When someone logs back into Mumsnet, they see notifications for threads they’ve participated in and respond to them. That’s all that’s happening here.

People are replying because they disagree with what you’re saying and because some of the information you’re repeating isn’t accurate. That’s not the same thing as being personally upset or invested in your opinion.

Sometimeswinning · 29/05/2026 17:29

Wickedlittledancer · 29/05/2026 17:11

Ok, why does it matter to you if some random on line cares about your views. It’s in the similar vein to your other comments, it feels like you desperately need people to think you’re opinion on weight loss injections carries some form of relevance,

do you think people will stop taking them , you have me intrigued as it’s so odd.

im not sure if it helps guide you, but i care about the opinion of my family. About my friends but less so. And I care about the opinions of my doctor and all the global health authorities.

if im honest i read you as someone who is jealous of other women, jealous of women you perceive as attractive, as slim ness is stereotypically seen as conventionally attractive, and i assume you are a woman who struggles with her weight and body image, which leads to that jealousy and your venom on line.

I genuinely feel you care a lot about what I think. I’ve not insulted you. Been unkind. Launched some random attack about your person. Please take a look back at what you have said to me.

Maybe it’s Friday night. Maybe it’s bothered you for the last day or so. Kindly, go enjoy tonight.

Wickedlittledancer · 29/05/2026 17:11

Sometimeswinning · 29/05/2026 16:27

Gently, you may be too invested in my comment, we disagreed, we moved on. I don’t think anyone has reached out over a day later. Shows you do care 🤣😜

I miss the laughing reaction for comments like these!

Ok, why does it matter to you if some random on line cares about your views. It’s in the similar vein to your other comments, it feels like you desperately need people to think you’re opinion on weight loss injections carries some form of relevance,

do you think people will stop taking them , you have me intrigued as it’s so odd.

im not sure if it helps guide you, but i care about the opinion of my family. About my friends but less so. And I care about the opinions of my doctor and all the global health authorities.

if im honest i read you as someone who is jealous of other women, jealous of women you perceive as attractive, as slim ness is stereotypically seen as conventionally attractive, and i assume you are a woman who struggles with her weight and body image, which leads to that jealousy and your venom on line.

Sometimeswinning · 29/05/2026 16:27

Wickedlittledancer · 29/05/2026 15:49

I mean this gently, when people respond on an online forum it’s due to a mixture of things, often boredom, amusement, it is seldom they care about a random anonymous persons opinion. I may care if I knew you in real life. Although some how I doubt it,

Gently, you may be too invested in my comment, we disagreed, we moved on. I don’t think anyone has reached out over a day later. Shows you do care 🤣😜

I miss the laughing reaction for comments like these!

Wickedlittledancer · 29/05/2026 15:49

Sometimeswinning · 27/05/2026 18:37

Yeah. Why else would you keep responding? Are you saying you don’t care? I don’t believe it!

I mean this gently, when people respond on an online forum it’s due to a mixture of things, often boredom, amusement, it is seldom they care about a random anonymous persons opinion. I may care if I knew you in real life. Although some how I doubt it,

BIossomtoes · 29/05/2026 14:36

PuppyKeep · 29/05/2026 14:28

Try being perimenopausal :(

I have.

HobGobblynne · 29/05/2026 14:32

alpenguin · 27/05/2026 14:09

Doesn’t the weight go back on with the injections when you stop taking them though? You’re more likely to maintain the loss or put on less again because you did it yourself, if the articles I’ve read are anything to go by. Don’t get envy because someone did it a different way and quicker. If you e a healthy BMI celebrate that rather than be jealous at someone doing it a different way.

I'm not sure what articles you've read but the evidence doesn't show that people are inherently more likely to maintain weight loss simply because they “did it themselves”.

Long term regain rates after weight loss are historically high across the board, including both medicated & non medicated weight loss where the medication is withdrawn.

PuppyKeep · 29/05/2026 14:28

BIossomtoes · 29/05/2026 14:03

It’s not that hard to lose it without WLI. Keeping it off is pretty hard.

Try being perimenopausal :(

BIossomtoes · 29/05/2026 14:03

It’s not that hard to lose it without WLI. Keeping it off is pretty hard.

PuppyKeep · 29/05/2026 13:58

Liznug · 25/05/2026 19:21

There is something very very odd about this thread.

Lost a load of weight. Kept it off for a year. And now spiralling and depressed that in a healthy bmi but still not quite at desired weight. And even told us current weight and the small amount until desired weight. Was it weird stealth boast? Was it fishing for recommendations where she might be able to get black market WLI?

It's hard to lose weight without WLI - it's mentally taxing and often soul destroying.

I don't think OP was boasting. I think she's facing the prospect of mentally suffering for the rest of her life. It's not dramatic - it's how weight is for some people.

TaterTots68 · 28/05/2026 18:53

Neade · 24/05/2026 15:35

I’m 137 pounds. I’d love to be 120. My arms and stomach just look awful uncovered

Oh, I lost around 6 stone (5 dress sizes). I'm now a size 10 (5'7") and I have wobbly bits. Mostly loose skin (I'm nearly 58, collagen is not what it was), but don't be so hard on yourself. You've done a great job, you haven't regained the weight. No matter how much weight you lose, you'll probably always be critical of yourself - we all are.

Sometimeswinning · 27/05/2026 18:37

Wickedlittledancer · 27/05/2026 18:02

Is that what you think, if someone responds to you, they must care about your opinion? That’s genuinely really sad.

Yeah. Why else would you keep responding? Are you saying you don’t care? I don’t believe it!

HobGobblynne · 27/05/2026 18:07

Sometimeswinning · 27/05/2026 17:58

You do care about what I’m saying because you would just not bother commenting. I can judge. I can say whatever I like. You can choose to ignore me.

There are posters on here who are also trying to give me their point of view. I don’t care so I ignore. It’s really simple. They go away in the end.

Ive made my point. It’s not changing because a few people who have chosen skinny jabs don’t like my view.

No one you were responding to has gone away. You were so offended by my mention of chemo that you’ve gone on to write at least six separate comments telling me how upset you were by it. Does that mean you really care what I personally think, or just that you found my comment offensive?

Any joy on that question of why something you don’t need or want is if such interest to you?!

Wickedlittledancer · 27/05/2026 18:02

Sometimeswinning · 27/05/2026 17:58

You do care about what I’m saying because you would just not bother commenting. I can judge. I can say whatever I like. You can choose to ignore me.

There are posters on here who are also trying to give me their point of view. I don’t care so I ignore. It’s really simple. They go away in the end.

Ive made my point. It’s not changing because a few people who have chosen skinny jabs don’t like my view.

Is that what you think, if someone responds to you, they must care about your opinion? That’s genuinely really sad.

Sometimeswinning · 27/05/2026 17:58

Wickedlittledancer · 27/05/2026 12:56

What argument, that you think it’s ok to criticise people who use weight loss injections for vanity. I’m not going to address it as many others have, I said up thread, I’m all good with that, I think mental health is also important. You’re right, I have no argument on this, as I honestly don’t care if you wish to criticise women who use it for vanity, crack on whatever makes you feel better about your own situation.

you really seem to think you thinking less of people or wanting to criticise women for their choices is some big deal that will have people wounded. As much as I admire your sense of self grandiose, for me you can take out a full page ad, shout it from the rooftops, I simply don’t care and I doubt anyone else does, it onky reflects on you, not them.

You do care about what I’m saying because you would just not bother commenting. I can judge. I can say whatever I like. You can choose to ignore me.

There are posters on here who are also trying to give me their point of view. I don’t care so I ignore. It’s really simple. They go away in the end.

Ive made my point. It’s not changing because a few people who have chosen skinny jabs don’t like my view.

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 27/05/2026 15:08

Wickedlittledancer · 26/05/2026 20:14

It’s all life saving meds.

💯

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 27/05/2026 15:06

Sometimeswinning · 26/05/2026 19:48

Do not compare fat jabs to life saving medical interventions. Everyone and his dog has these injections. They are literally paying out hundreds of pounds a month for this quick fix.

Chemo and Insulin are not a quick easy fix.

Plus yes, you can be proud however you lose weight. Just expect those who put in extra
effort see their accomplishments in a better, healthier light.

Obesity is a killer - WLI can help prevent death by obesity related diseases and can be a life saving drug.

Some cancers are obesity related.

Type 2 diabetes can be obesity related.

On one analysis, some cancers could be prevented ted if obesity is treated - so no need for chemo.

On another analysis, type 2 diabetes can be reverse with WLI, both in relation to their original use for Hba1c reduction and weight reduction. Rendering insulin unnecessary.

TLDR: WLIs can be life saving medical interventions. Prejudice/ignorance, compounded by celebrity misuse, means some people don't see them as the life saving medical intervention they can be and casually dismiss them as 'fat jabs' or 'skinny jabs'

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 27/05/2026 14:52

Wickedlittledancer · 26/05/2026 08:50

Shocked at the misinformation on here and the fundamental lack of knowledge about obesity, the impacts, the risks, the drugs, much of it is basic knowledge too,

for example. Gallstones are a risk of weight loss or gain. That’s why they asked the poster if she’d been on them, as if she’d been losing weight the risk heightened. Of course more people are getting tnem, as more lose weight. This doesn’t mean people should stay obese. Dieting without the drugs doesn’t change the risk,

or the poster claiming you’d lose more muscle mass using the drugs, which is completely illogical, you diet on the drugs, you chose whay you eat on or off them, losing muscle is about not eating enough protein and not strength training when dieting, the drugs don’t target your muscle.

are people just not interested enough to actually educate themselves, but feel so resentful over not being able to access them they just post erroneous stuff.

💯

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 27/05/2026 14:50

Sometimeswinning · 26/05/2026 08:44

90-95%? Who and how many people were asked?

Medical literature is your friend - try reading some

Wickedlittledancer · 27/05/2026 14:24

Runningswanker · 27/05/2026 14:16

The stats about weight regain for people on WLI don't always provide the context that all weight loss routes have a high chance of regaining all the weight back in a couple of years. Jabs are only secondary in their effectiveness to gastric surgery.

surgery has a 60 percent regain rate. I can’t imagine going through that then regaining it all back.

Runningswanker · 27/05/2026 14:16

alpenguin · 27/05/2026 14:09

Doesn’t the weight go back on with the injections when you stop taking them though? You’re more likely to maintain the loss or put on less again because you did it yourself, if the articles I’ve read are anything to go by. Don’t get envy because someone did it a different way and quicker. If you e a healthy BMI celebrate that rather than be jealous at someone doing it a different way.

The stats about weight regain for people on WLI don't always provide the context that all weight loss routes have a high chance of regaining all the weight back in a couple of years. Jabs are only secondary in their effectiveness to gastric surgery.

BurnoutGP · 27/05/2026 14:15

HobGobblynne · 27/05/2026 12:57

I can’t believe you genuinely wonder this all the time but if you do, it’s comparing two completely different things. ‘Food noise’ isn’t about choosing to ignore life threatening illness or suddenly finding willpower in extreme medical situations. It’s about a persistent, compulsive drive to eat that (for many people) feels genuinely difficult or impossible to override through willpower alone...including eating when half asleep, in pain, feeling sick or when you know you don’t even really want to.

Before I started Mounjaro, I thought ‘food noise’ was a bit of a nonsense term too. I assumed it wouldn’t work for me because I don’t just eat when I’m hungry, I literally eat all the time, regardless of what else is going on or whether I actually want food.

The fact that GLP1s switch that off instantly for people like me is exactly the point. It shows there’s a biological mechanism driving it, not just a character flaw or lack of discipline (as much as some people would love that to be the case). If you can’t relate to that, that’s understandable, I wouldn’t have been able to either without experiencing it. In the same way, I find it hard to understand compulsions like alcohol addiction as I've not lived it.

As for whether I’d eat if I had advanced colon cancer, I honestly don’t know, I’ll make a note to come back and update you if it ever happens. But in real life, people don’t behave in neat, logical ways when they’re seriously ill. You’ll see examples all the time of people continuing habits even during severe illness, like smoking during lung cancer treatment. Human behaviour under illness or distress simply isn’t that consistent or rational.

As awful as your diagnosis is, I'm not sure why it links to a scathing attack on people using weight loss medicine? Even if they were just lazy and could lose weight without the meds but chose not to, it doesn't relate to your illness, or deny you anything, in any way. And so again, I'm left wondering why people that don't need/want the meds are so vitriolic about them.

I also thought "food noise" was nonsense until I started MJ.
And then I could have cried at the absolute relief when it was gone. I couldn't quite believe it. The realisation that this is how other brains work.
I think its akin to ADHD meds.
But my god its a relief.
55 years I've been alive and feel like its been a fight against myself. I've been some degree of fat my whole adult life.
The actually being able to control what I ate was life altering and not just my weight.
I dont intend to ever stop. And again not just because of my weight.
Though I have reduced my BMI from 46 to 31 and improved my health immeasurably.

alpenguin · 27/05/2026 14:09

Doesn’t the weight go back on with the injections when you stop taking them though? You’re more likely to maintain the loss or put on less again because you did it yourself, if the articles I’ve read are anything to go by. Don’t get envy because someone did it a different way and quicker. If you e a healthy BMI celebrate that rather than be jealous at someone doing it a different way.

HobGobblynne · 27/05/2026 14:01

T1Dmama · 27/05/2026 13:58

You’re at your goal weight and maintaining!… THAT IS AMAZING!!
If you want to loose another stone then remember that last stone comes off VERY slowly! Download an app like fatsecret (free app) which helps you calculate calories and has a barcode scanner… and count calories.
Please don’t be envious of your friends weight loss, 5 stone in 5 months is extrememly unhealthy! Some of her weight loss will be muscle, we women need to keep our muscle as we age and oestrogen falls…
My friend lost a LOT of weight on monjaro and her appetite has now returned despite still being on it .. she’s now back up to her starting weight!
loosing weight fast isn’t the answer. Be proud of your lifestyle changes - your method is not only MUCH healthier for you but is also sustainable!

Back to the question why cutting out an entire food group for a year is healthier than using a GLP1?

T1Dmama · 27/05/2026 13:58

Neade · 24/05/2026 15:29

I don’t know I really need a rant.

I feel really angry and upset at myself. To the point i just want to scream/cry.

Last year i lost 55 pounds without glp 1s. I totally cut out carbs (well I’d eat sweet potatoes if absolutely necessary). And just made an effort not to use food as a crutch. It worked fairly well as the weight came off.

I decided I needed more moderation. The no carb thing was just making me have cravings. So I started eating jackets, pasta salads etc. Not ideal as I have pcos but I try to be sensible. Ie having cooled down pasta to make it resistant or whatever. Not smothering pasta in cheese etc.

Its meant my weight loss has completely stalled. I’m happy that I’ve not gained all the weight back. But still. I’ve been eating in moderation for a year and not lost weight! I can’t deny this anger is compounded by the fact I saw my friend for lunch today. She’s lost 5 stone in 5 months using Mounjaro.

I just want to weep. I wish I just started on Ozempic or similar. I’m at my goal weight but to be honest I’d love another stone off. I don’t know why I didn’t go
on a glp 1. I just knew in my heart that my weight was not “inexplicable”. I was eating far too much out of boredom.

Just another sunny day wasted hating myself even though I’ve tried 😢

I’ve been going to the gym too. How pathetic to be this mindful and to not have lost any weight.

You’re at your goal weight and maintaining!… THAT IS AMAZING!!
If you want to loose another stone then remember that last stone comes off VERY slowly! Download an app like fatsecret (free app) which helps you calculate calories and has a barcode scanner… and count calories.
Please don’t be envious of your friends weight loss, 5 stone in 5 months is extrememly unhealthy! Some of her weight loss will be muscle, we women need to keep our muscle as we age and oestrogen falls…
My friend lost a LOT of weight on monjaro and her appetite has now returned despite still being on it .. she’s now back up to her starting weight!
loosing weight fast isn’t the answer. Be proud of your lifestyle changes - your method is not only MUCH healthier for you but is also sustainable!