AIBU to think my boyfriend’s views on women’s age are misogynistic?

My closest friend used to complain her husband lacked imagination with gifts, flowers, balloons, teddies, chocolates....when they were dating.

I am so going to tell her that butt plugs are what the utter dregs gift these days🙄

Just read your butt plugs comment. Sex-obsessed creep with no sense of what’s socially appropriate. Plus misogynistic. Is he really good-looking or something?

YABU for dating someone with two ex wives. Huge red flag to me.

And yes he does sound like he thinks youth=attractiveness, but only for women.

This 😂

His age gap relationships havent worked out too well for him have they? 🤭

what an absolute bellend

I think it’s because a 45 year old man could find a women say aged 36-38 and have kids. But yes not everyone wants kids.

I met my chap when I was 54 and he was 47. Still together, 7 years later.

He’s an arsehole

Oh OP, raise your bar.

Well tbh I think he has a fair point.

Most of the men in our social group are 40-45 and no, I don't think most would be interested in a 54 year old woman as a 'new' date. It's different if you've been together 20 years and reach those ages together imo because the age gap can be overcome by shared history etc. But for a dating pool...realistically plenty of men in their 40s will filter out 50+.

I don’t think many 45 years old would be interested in a 54 year old. Male or female.

He's doing the bog standard mick jagger/rod Stewart playbook, "women are like cars, trade her in for the younger model" so watch your back, he will trade you in. Gross
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ah sorry I read it wrong, sorry op!

Very intelligent but can’t perceive of a world where anyone else could have different tastes / preferences than him.
At the very least, he can’t see past the end of his own nose!

Its not at that point, but I have a few friends in their mid fifties who have been recently widowed (some after caring for their elderly husbands since their mid-forties) having married men 10 to 20 years older.

I’m 55 and am thankful that my DH (53) and I are at the same life stage.

Yep. Misogynist. Reminds me of all the old ugly men who comment on pictures of gorgeous celebrity women saying that they’re ’past it’ 🙄

5 - 10 years either side is fine though it’s rarer than a man is interested in a much older woman from experience (5 years max). There’s practical reasons to be of a similar generation but ultimately it’s who you click with. I love to say he’s misogynistic but actually he’s just realistic I’m afraid

Do his balls hang low
Do they wobble to and fro
Can he tie them in a knot
Can he tie them in a bow?

Can he throw them over his shoulder
Like a continental solider
Do his balls hang low?

I think its natural to prefer younger partners so stay with him if you enjoy his company, but don’t marry him. The two much younger previous wives and him telling you you look even younger that the six years between you are a red flag imo.

I don’t think age is ‘just a number’. I’ve never dated anyone older than me (the biggest age gap being four years - I was 23 and he was 19, it lasted a year) and my DH (of 25 years) is eighteen months younger. I like that we had a lot of the same cultural experiences growing up even though we’re different nationalities and that we will stand a reasonable chance of growing old together.

I’m 55 and if I was dating now I wouldn’t date a man over 60, and that would be pushing it.

I went out with one of those.
Absolute arsehole.
He was a bit younger than me. Constant comments on why friends were single and a running narrative in women on TV who’d lost their looks. He said it once about Cat Deeley…
It was over ten years ago.
He was fascinated by a friend whose husband is 15 years younger. They are still together.
I have one friend who is a bit older. She was about 46 then and was going to be at a party and I said, listen, my friend is stunningly beautiful. Liz Hurley type. Please try not to stare at her.
He met her and was really rude and away from my earshot gave her a mouthful about her lowly profession - she ran a hair salon!
She never told me until we’d split up. He clearly was bowled over - you’d have to be blind not to be she’s just as gorgeous now and she’s nearly 60.
A lot of men like older women.
Yes the shallow ones want a much younger model and if that’s their preference, that’s their choice.
Oh and the arsehole who was younger? He was often mistaken as being 10 years older than me. Thank God that ended.

I'd find him and his opinions annoying, but I also think it's true that most men are attracted to and want to date women younger (or younger looking) than they themselves are, whether they admit it or not. Obviously there are exceptions, though, and youth doesn't trump all else.

He didn't need to comment on your friend's profile settings, one way or the other, and I'd think less of him for feeling the need to do so.

Cougars is a word now. Strange but true: it’s not to do with furry felines.

I'm old enough to remember the lonely hearts columns in newspapers.

Men of any age invariably posted they were interested in meeting women aged 18+. For the older man there was usually a cut off at least ten years younger than they were. For example "M55 looking to meet F18-45 for ..."

Women tended to have a more realistic age range five years either side of their given age.

I would say sexist rather than misogynistic

"Two ex wifes"😐