AIBU to think parents drinking heavily on a kids rugby tour is inappropriate?

Wow. Boring to spend the odd weekend doing something for and with your kids. That’s basically just being a parent, not every second has to be full of excitement for the parent when it’s a kid based activity. Shame you can’t put your own feelings of boredom aside when it’s a weekend your kid is swimming, even if they are only swimming for 5 minutes, but hey, we’re all different!

Agree.

I have done a few rugby tours with kids in my time. I haven't seen it as bad as you mention. It's typically fun activity in the day, some sort of organised event or challenge like sing a team song in the evening alongside a party where a few adults do overindulge. Not my scene really but the kids love running around with their mates. More of a big party/ wedding vibe. Then a tournament. I do think the kids bond well on these things. They like silly challenges and gentle forfeits. Don't miss it now I don't have to go.

Try reading a book - it helps when bored.

The OP - helping upset little kids because their parent is so drunk they can't even find their way back to the caravan or get in the door.
Supervising other people's kids and entertaining them because their parents are too pissed/hungover to do it.

VS

Selfish, pissed up parents who can't find their caravan so their exhausted, upset kids have to go looking for someone to help.
Ignoring their kids because they are too hungover while the responsible parents supervise them and entertain them.
Parents throwing up while their supposed to be supporting their kid's when they are playing in a match after being kept up half the night.

Yeah I'd say she's better than those people.

This is awful for those poor children! We had a BBQ with friends over yesterday. Everyone enjoyed drinks and had a great time while the kids played but we were all aware of the time and making sure the kids were fed and happy. I called time by 9 pm to make sure the kids went to bed. I'm actually appalled that she was trying to get them to go back to the bar with her. Outrageous.

Its so totally inappropriate. I cant see why anyone could argue differently.

Yeah no...there's a time and place and if parents want to get absolutely shit faced then they need to arrange an adult only night out or drink responsibly. Nobody is boring it's just common sense to not over do it in front of kids, I've had many traumatic experiences watching my parents get out of their faces that i can't stand being around drunk irresponsible people.

Have to say having a few drinks of an evening was the saving grace after lengthy Irish dancing competitions, and also the gossip when a couple of parents had one too many and had a barney. We did our own thing in the daytime when they were not competing.

You worry about your kids, and being there for them. Don't concern yourself with what others do.

I am shocked at what is being described. Recently I have been noticing a reduction in the drinking behavior of young adults. Maybe I am wrong.

What I can say though (from my perspective as a Granny who has had a good few hangovers but only when the kids are not around) that those children whose parents are getting drunk will notice. They will notice that alcohol is being prioritized over them. You have to think that there are so many other weekends of the year that they can imbibe. Not nice.

Sadly OP a lot of people don’t grow out of the teenage “drink till you’re incoherent and vomiting” phase.

Unfortunately rugby culture is very alcohol orientated too.

I avoid all the social stuff associated with kids sport. Not my scene. And I think it’s rather sad that some parents can’t survive a few hours watching their child play sport without becoming so drunk they can barely function.

I also hate the implication that people are boring if they don’t want to lose their faculties. Baffles me. But I expect plenty of MNers will tell me I’m tedious 🤷‍♀️. In reality there’s nothing more boring than a drunk person waffling on about nothing, and then throwing up!

FYI your posts are making you look like a fool.

If you had said it was parenys on a council estate pub getting too paralytic to get their children home, people would call it neglect.

Naice, middle class rugby tour? Its fine...

There is a massive gulf between a few beers to relax, and not being able to function.

My DDs rugby club has Mums Nights and Dads Nights where they leave the children at home. Then the focus is having fun without responsibility

@FernFaery the kids are 11, so quite young. And the parents aren’t a bit tipsy. They’re wasted.

Does the team have a welfare officer? My kids' football team does.
I don't know how much use they would be though if this is the culture at the club and the coaches and parents are like this.

The club should have a Child Safeguarding Officer.
Email the committee and copy in the CSO.

Defending poor behaviour because they thinks it’s acceptable to act like this and probably have.

Clearly you are doing an awesome job if your kid sees what you are doing for his team.

Ignore the haters and hold your head high.

I love a kids rugby tour, DS's was a few weeks ago, and nobody is forced to attend or to drink if they do. The kids are all hanging out together (presumably the whole point of it) so who cares if the parents drink? Some on ours got wasted at the site bar, others didn't drink at all. I mainly sat in the sun on our decking, bbqing all day, drinking cider, and chatting to people as they walked past. DS popped back for 30 mins here and there.

Just enjoy the weather and do your own thing.

Wow what presumption to prove a point.

I’ll move to football. My son has played for three teams. Oooo clearly a problem so I’ll explain it.

One was grassroots and won a national title. Got scouted and now plays for a category 1 academy (Premier League and it’s his second team). Third team - oh yeah plays internationally for his country (including World Cup qualifiers in the age group above).

So maybe it isn’t always a bad thing to have been on more than one team.

What volumes does this speak?

Honestly, you're clearly one of those who like to drink like this. Fine, but it's pretty crappy to make the OP feel like she's a pariah or the one in the wrong here. Have you heard of agreeing to disagree?

I'll be honest, if it was me I'd judge, absolutely I would. I wouldn't say a thing, but I'd think it was crap parenting/ people I don't want to be around & wouldn't be back. I'm also a pretty strong person who would just take myself & my child off to bed.

That seriously sucks and those parents owe you a nightly big thank you.

What do they think is happening to their children when they are too drunk to look after them.

Your kid will remember you being that parent who sacrificed, made it awesome and really made it about them. Amazing job mama!