AIBU to think parents drinking heavily on a kids rugby tour is inappropriate?

A very poor example to be so drunk amongst children as to render yourself useless in an emergency.

Maybe suggest four parents each night to be under .02 (legal driving) - everyone taking their turn?

That's exactly what I thought as I was reading it.

The "kangaroo court" has always been a feature of adult rugby tours, but they seem to have completely forgotten that they're to make sure the kids are ok, not to act as though it's the adults that are on tour.

I’d say she is a much much better parent and person than them actually, being too drunk to supervise your kids at a team sports trip is bad parenting as well as generally poor adulting, I would never want my kids that age even around drunk adults.

I agree. The pissed up parents don’t care their kids look to the sober ones for safety in these situations. I think a lot of these rugby parent types gravitate towards each other because other people drinking a lot legitimises their behaviour. The worst people I’ve ever had the misfortune to spend time with.

Yes she is better than them because she is able to not only parent her child, but their children too. Parents need to save getting hammered for appropriate times e.g when they have a baby sitter or one parent doesn’t drink. Why should OP be responsible for all their children who are knocking on her caravan door asking for help?! Why can’t people just have a couple of low alcoholic drinks? Why can’t they control how many they have instead of vomiting then collasping?! It’s truly sad to be that selfish. You cannot be wasted and actively parent. Competent parents can see it and absolutely judges them for being “that parent.”

Yes I get what you mean. You end up babysitting everyone else’s children instead of spending time with your own! I think you’ll have to just walk them all back to their parents caravans and tell them to stay with them. The only alternative would be to stop going to these things.

They sound like 18yo's on their first trip away! Seriously! And the replies on here. 'Kids sport is boring so you need a drink' 'lighten up' etc. I'd not want to be around any of them either OP. And the poor kids must be cringing at their parents thinking they're cool, playing drinking games and getting shit-faced.

I really don't like this behaviour. I've had many experiences where I've been out without kids and other parents who are pissed are neglecting there kids so they end up talking to other adults. Safeguarding aside, this really annoys me. I'm out for a night away from my own kids, I don't want to then have to babysit your kids! I have been in the type of world you describe growing up and I really didn't like it as a kid. Yes I was vulnerable and yes it had consequences.

It’s not safe for the kids, it’s a terrible sporting culture and any school my kids went to I’d expect them to express their disappointmet very clearly and shut thetripsdown

Except she absolutely is a better parent than them because of that…

I’m quite honestly sick of British drinking altogether. I Get it, I used to drink too and remember wanting to for any occasion. Since I’ve stopped drinking I’ve realised how bloody obsessed everyone is with alcohol. It seems constant! And so many days out etc structured entirely on alcohol. It’s so empty of meaning.

No wonder the country is overweight, depressed and sick.

I do not miss rugby parents. Biggest load of twats I’ve ever met.

I was wondering this!

I personally wouldn’t have my kids anywhere near all this revolting behaviour!!!

you say this is the 3rd club/tour??? Why are you putting your child and yourself thru this??

TOTALLY inappropriate! Adults should not be drunk in charge of kids.Who is organising this thing?! Are there not professional coaches involved or is it just an informal club run by the parents or something?

What a sad attitude.....would it not be nice for the parents to spend some quality time with their kids at a KIDS event, rather than selfishly sitting around hungover leaving them to fend for themselves!

Can’t stand Pisshead Parents. I’d give them a wide berth if I were you. Grim indeed!

Yanbu OP this is horrendous. No idea why anyone is defending parents being so pissed they can't put their kids to bed, it's neglectful. I can remember finding it mildly frightening when adults were drunk when I was a child. As for that court incident, honestly words fail me

Oh it’s not great that for sure
but not something I’d get too exercised about if a short while later he was sideline and rooting on the team

I wouldn't be impressed either. There's nothing more annoying than being mithered by other people's kids on holiday to do fun things with them because their parents can't be bothered/are sleeping off a hangover. Being completely wasted in front of your kids is ick behaviour too.

@Hassell a parent vomiting due to alcohol in a hedge next to the field where their 11 year old child is playing in a kids rugby tournament is shit parenting, however much you try and pretend it's fun.

Since its May, isnt it more likely to be Rugby League who do kick at U11s?

(May being an Non Contact month)

Kicking conversions is pressured and that's why it doesn't feature in U12 rugby. Also for practical reasons like at that age they play sideways across a half pitch so there aren't even any posts. A team of twelve 11 year olds playing mini rugby are not playing on a full-size adult pitch with kicking of conversions. OP is making that up for effect.

It's truly sad that so many 'grown' people can only enjoy themselves if they get rat-arsed. There is so much more to life!

I wasn't no and we were talking all the way through the day. I got load of text messages off parents where my son had given out my number to the kids to give to there parents and they wanted to confirm that it was ok there kids to be there.
I made it very clear it was hot, they were welcome but I wouldn't be cooking for them and dinner had to be self funded.
There are a couple of rugby teams in my son's division who are really just vile so you do see all sides.

I know someone who works behind the bar at a shared football/rugby ground during matches. The stories they tell me about the rugby fans - drunkenness, violence, kicking off, away fans buying tickets for the home stands so as to cause trouble during games. He almost never sees anything similar happen at the football games.