AIBU to want one child-free weekend after two extra weeks together

I sympathtize, but if you have children , or a partner with children you have given up your rights to child free weekends, especially as your partner doesn't want to be child free.
There is nothing unreasonable about wanting a child free weekend, but that doesn't mean you will get one.

Love this site. Everyone is so angry. So funny

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I disagree. She posted that she wanted a weekend away with her partner and thought they had one set up. But he’s nixed it, when the dss’ mum wanted to have her son. I want a weekend away with my partner and our kids are both our kids! Wanting that and getting that sometimes is perfectly reasonable and if my dh cancelled on one to include kids I’d be pissed. I love my kids. I’d love a weekend away without them (it’s very rare for us)

Just say you're controlling and support controlling behaviour. It's the same thing. Not happy to agree.

I adore my kids, but for one weekend in the year you are not unreasonable. I’d get rid of mine too and be a couple.

Posters saying he's putting his DS first would be the first to tear OP down if she insisted she come along too, as the child needs one on one time with his dad. As it stands, she's happy to do her own thing but that's also unacceptable.

You're not

Yes, that might happen & im sure the OP would cope with that, as she willingly dies having him EVERY weekend but that is NOT the current situation. The current situation is the child's mother wants the child for the weekend (after being away for 2 weeks) & he has said no & insists the OP spends it 'as a 3' when they could have had an unheard of weekend together, as a couple., or HE could take HUS son to the caravan by himself..

He doesn't want his child a lot, he wants to control his ex & the OP.

No, his DS is not his priority. His priority is himself. Upsetting his Ex (who wants her child for the weekend) & OP who would enjoy one (unasked for) weekend together, without a child.

control is his priority.

if it was his child he'd be happy to take his DS to the caravan alone & fir the OP to visit her family & see friends while DS is at theirs, not call her selfish.

Yes, of course he is.

He thinks it's selfish of the OP to go out with friends or to visit her family when they have his DS. Every weekend, some week nights & holidays.

the child's mum wants to have her DS for one weekend when she gets back from being away for 2 weeks. OP was happy to agree to that & enjoy ONE 1/52 weekends with her partner alone. He's told her & the mum no, he wants to keep DS that weekend AND told the OP she's selfish for not wanting to go to the caravan with them. Why? Why can't Daddy spend the weekend with his DS by himself? Because he's too fucking lazy to actually parent hhs child.

why can't you see that?

You’re cute

No one is upset, im just trying to understand your view. The question you were asked by the pervious poster wasn't about if it was ok for him to spend time with his child, it was about controling HER time. Im guessing you misread, maybe you were upset.

I don’t think it’s unreasonable that he wants to spend extra time with his kid. It’s ok, you don’t have to argue with yourself, It’s allllllll good. Try to calm down a bit, it’s not your problem

You were asked
You don't think it's unreasonable that he doesnt want her having time to herself or with her family and that he doesn't want a weekend alone with her?

You said:
No. We’re allowed different opinions tho

So yeah, that seems to be your opinion, is it not?

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Wow, you actually think you have a right to dictate how your partner spends their weekend just because you have a child?! The entitlement of some parents is beyond belief.

Sounds like dad has more custody then mum if has every weekend

which I do find weird if lives with mum other week days so not like she’s a issue to care for DS (where for example dd is with me the whole time as ex isn’t trusthworthy to have dd as an addict)

why doesn’t DS ever spend a weekend with his mum ?

and very controlling of your bf to not allow /want ds to spend a weekend with his mum after being away for 2w - when the mum has offered

how much care do you do for this boy @Claudiaas

It’s nice that your partner wants to spend time with his son but I remember dating someone who had a child when I didn’t and I get where your coming from too, it’s difficult.

Dont date someone who has kids unless you are prepared to have them 100% of the time. Because it may happen.

No. We’re allowed different opinions tho 😃 Happy for you to disagree

You're the nanny with a fanny.

Dump him.

You don't think it's unreasonable that he doesnt want her having time to herself or with her family and that he doesn't want a weekend alone with her?

This. His child is his priority and so it should be. At the same time he will come before everything at your expense. Please read the hundreds of threads on here about how difficult and thankless it is taking on someone else’s child.
and read the countless of threads about women who have kids with someone who already has kids and then decide actually they don’t want to do it anymore.
I personally would never be with anyone who has kids because I never want to take on someone else’s child. So you need to think about how your future is going to pan out