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To feel weird about being second woman on sex chair

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TheBloomingDahlia · 24/05/2026 09:31

I don’t think I am BU but interested in whether other people would just get over it.

Been with my boyfriend for two years, we don’t live together yet and he has just got some furniture out of storage after moving house. One item that he has recently mentioned is a curvy foam chair/sofa thing made for sex. I will add a photo of similar. Although he originally bought it new I think it’s fairly likely he has had sex with his ex on it.

I am not usually jealous at all but I feel really weird about this - I guess because it’s specially made for sex? And because it’s foam I feel like if it wasn’t covered it has probably absorbed some juices 🙈. Although surely any bacteria will be dead after two years. I just don’t want to be lying on this thing knowing his ex was in the same positions, thinking maybe she was face down in the same spot and we would be basically cheek to cheek!

These feelings are all new to me as I don’t usually think about exes and I’ve never been confronted with sex furniture/toys/accessories that weren’t my own or bought new. AIBU to feel weird about this? Would you just put a waterproof sheet down and try to get over it, or refuse to use it because you don’t want to feel uncomfortable during sex?

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OonaStubbs · 24/05/2026 11:29

Why can't you just have sex in a normal chair like any normal person?

Wickedlittledancer · 24/05/2026 11:29

user3769863490 · 24/05/2026 11:27

I get the ick about hotel beds so it’d be a no from me!
The poster above saying is it for the elderly…just you wait until you are the owner of 40yr old knees! 😂

Mine are older, and I still don’t need a sex chair…😂

LBFseBrom · 24/05/2026 11:28

Greenwitchart · 24/05/2026 09:47

Frankly a man talking about/buying a ''sex chair'' would be an instant turn off for me in the first place.

Yes, it does seem odd.

user3769863490 · 24/05/2026 11:27

I get the ick about hotel beds so it’d be a no from me!
The poster above saying is it for the elderly…just you wait until you are the owner of 40yr old knees! 😂

Flightyflora · 24/05/2026 11:26

Does it come with a penis beaker ?

Shitshowpolitics · 24/05/2026 11:24

TheBloomingDahlia · 24/05/2026 09:58

Buy our fabulous spongy chair, re-use for each girlfriend and absorb up to one litre of sweat, cum and general sex liquids each time ✨💦🥳

There must be tones of that in the mattress. Did he buy new sheets after he met you or is he still using the same ones. You sound gross 🤮

lornad00m · 24/05/2026 11:22

TheBloomingDahlia · 24/05/2026 11:17

But is that because it has been used with someone else, or just because it’s a sex chair full stop?

Both. 🤢

ACR7 · 24/05/2026 11:20

Sweetharmony252 · 24/05/2026 10:03

They're sex people Lynn

😂

ToadRage · 24/05/2026 11:19

catsmother · 24/05/2026 11:07

And then you have the original royal sex chair, a bespoke creation made for Edward VII which provides hours and hours of fun .... just from trying to work out who and/or what goes where!

When I saw the title I honestly thought it would be something like this.

TheBloomingDahlia · 24/05/2026 11:17

Wickedlittledancer · 24/05/2026 11:10

I think folks think you’re unreasonable to even want to do this.

But is that because it has been used with someone else, or just because it’s a sex chair full stop?

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itsgettingweird · 24/05/2026 11:14

Branleuse · 24/05/2026 09:42

I would tell him that you won't be bending over on his and his exes special sex chair thankyou very much, and maybe he could put it up on marketplace?

“I really don’t want to have sex on this chair after someone else has - anyone else want it”

🤔🤣

Morepositivemum · 24/05/2026 11:12

Greenwitchart
Frankly a man talking about/buying a ''sex chair'' would be an instant turn off for me in the first place.

Same here. Ew! And totally different to a bed because they have sheets and aren’t made especially with sex in mind. Ew again😅😅😅

Plsudb · 24/05/2026 11:11

catsmother · 24/05/2026 11:07

And then you have the original royal sex chair, a bespoke creation made for Edward VII which provides hours and hours of fun .... just from trying to work out who and/or what goes where!

I should think the woman’s arse cheeks on those stick out metal latter type bits.

christ, why do people need this paraphernalia?

Wickedlittledancer · 24/05/2026 11:10

TheBloomingDahlia · 24/05/2026 11:04

If he suggested buying a chair new I would tell him not to bother because it seems pointless and a bit weird to have it just hanging around. Might have got the ick with previous partners (I can think of one definitely) but don’t think I would have with him

But seeing as he already has it I thought I would give it a go to try something new. But then I considered it a bit more… and the poll seems to think I’m not BU. Although not sure if that’s based on it being previously used or just the a no to the chair itself

I think folks think you’re unreasonable to even want to do this.

grumpygrape · 24/05/2026 11:08

SoScarletItWas · 24/05/2026 10:06

So unlike the home life of our own dear Queen.

🤣👍

Whatineed · 24/05/2026 11:07

FoulBlister · 24/05/2026 10:08

Instant upgrade for only £7.99 from Screwfix. (apt name).

www.screwfix.com/p/essentials-tarpaulin-sheet-blue-2m-x-3m/891gt

Now you've got me... browsing the screwfix catalogue is the next best thing to a sex sofa seeing to surely!?

catsmother · 24/05/2026 11:07

And then you have the original royal sex chair, a bespoke creation made for Edward VII which provides hours and hours of fun .... just from trying to work out who and/or what goes where!

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FernandoSor · 24/05/2026 11:07

How very unlike the home life of our own dear queen.

LittleRobins · 24/05/2026 11:06

NotAWurstToIt · 24/05/2026 11:03

That might just be enough internet for today . . .

That might just be enough of the world for me today… I think I’ll lock myself away for the rest of the day. Goodness me, people and their ‘problems’ today aren’t half self-made!

BlueMouseMat · 24/05/2026 11:05

Frankly a man talking about/buying a ''sex chair'' would be an instant turn off for me in the first place

It would send me into waves of helpless laughter. And put me off him too.

TheBloomingDahlia · 24/05/2026 11:04

If he suggested buying a chair new I would tell him not to bother because it seems pointless and a bit weird to have it just hanging around. Might have got the ick with previous partners (I can think of one definitely) but don’t think I would have with him

But seeing as he already has it I thought I would give it a go to try something new. But then I considered it a bit more… and the poll seems to think I’m not BU. Although not sure if that’s based on it being previously used or just the a no to the chair itself

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NotAWurstToIt · 24/05/2026 11:03

That might just be enough internet for today . . .

Freda69 · 24/05/2026 11:03

Almost crying with laughter reading these comments- thanks everyone.
I’d send it straight to the council tip!

Wickedlittledancer · 24/05/2026 11:02

TheBloomingDahlia · 24/05/2026 10:44

Yes I think this is how it feels, even though it’s been 2 years. It seems like the chair thing is for specific positions so knowing someone else has been in the exact position in the same place is weird. Whereas on a bed there is no indication of what anyone has done and where. I think if I tell him how I feel he would be very reassuring, but it would probably be me thinking about his ex rather than him.

It’s not the same one as in the photo but I’m now assuming it hopefully has removable covers. So I think I will ask him to wash the cover if he hasn’t already and then see if I feel any different.

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BumpyaDaisyevna · 24/05/2026 10:57

Have to say I was thinking that at my age that could be rather comfy.