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To feel weird about being second woman on sex chair

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TheBloomingDahlia · 24/05/2026 09:31

I don’t think I am BU but interested in whether other people would just get over it.

Been with my boyfriend for two years, we don’t live together yet and he has just got some furniture out of storage after moving house. One item that he has recently mentioned is a curvy foam chair/sofa thing made for sex. I will add a photo of similar. Although he originally bought it new I think it’s fairly likely he has had sex with his ex on it.

I am not usually jealous at all but I feel really weird about this - I guess because it’s specially made for sex? And because it’s foam I feel like if it wasn’t covered it has probably absorbed some juices 🙈. Although surely any bacteria will be dead after two years. I just don’t want to be lying on this thing knowing his ex was in the same positions, thinking maybe she was face down in the same spot and we would be basically cheek to cheek!

These feelings are all new to me as I don’t usually think about exes and I’ve never been confronted with sex furniture/toys/accessories that weren’t my own or bought new. AIBU to feel weird about this? Would you just put a waterproof sheet down and try to get over it, or refuse to use it because you don’t want to feel uncomfortable during sex?

To feel weird about being second woman on sex chair
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ByRealOtter · 24/05/2026 15:55

Just got to say this thread is hilarious! Deffo wouldn’t want to use a 2nd hand chair! Ugh. Loving the comments on here 🤣

Treacletoots · 24/05/2026 15:50

HermioneWeasley · 24/05/2026 10:03

You’re making some assumptions @TheBloomingDahlia , perhaps he likes bending over on it and getting pegged?

Yep. This totally. He likes being bent over and pegged.

TheSpottedZebra · 24/05/2026 15:39

Walnutslooklikebrains · 24/05/2026 15:16

King Edward VII had a sex chair commissioned when he was a fat old bastard who needed some help to have a menage a trois.

The sex chair in the image is gimmicky and off putting, I mean what makes it so different to shoving a pillow under your guts for doggy if needs be.

Anyhow, no, I wouldn't be shagging my man on a specifically designed sex aid he'd rogered someone else on. I wouldn't even have it in the house. Gross.

I maintain that chair was purchased by a secret anti-royalist (or as a joke), as I will never believe that it was sturdy enough to support his great bulk. It would be a heap of splinters.

And the footplates look tiny. Did he have tiny little feet?

LeftieRightsHoarder · 24/05/2026 15:38

HedgehogsOnTheWall · 24/05/2026 09:38

Wow, Big Sex Chair are getting really creative with their marketing tactics!

Be honest, Hedgehog. Are you just jealous because you work for their deadly rivals the Sex Coffee Table Company?

FernFaery · 24/05/2026 15:20

Pineapplewhip · 24/05/2026 14:23

Has he got a disability? Why on earth would anyone need a sex chair like that?! Its not even putting you in a creative position. How random.

😂😂😂😂😂

FernFaery · 24/05/2026 15:18

Error404FucksNotFound · 24/05/2026 10:02

That seems poorly designed. Would it not be better to have a non absorbent surface that would just wipe clean?

So the sort of material they use in soft plays? Wouldn’t that feel… wrong?

Calliopespa · 24/05/2026 15:18

Badbadbunny · 24/05/2026 14:54

Did you never have fun on the back seat of a car? I wasn't talking about driving around nude, I was talking about being intimate.

I'm sorry, I wasn't taking any of this very seriously tbh...

hallenbad · 24/05/2026 15:18

Peterdottir · 24/05/2026 14:45

And OP I just wanted to add that your thread title is fucking hilarious, it has made my day and the responses on here have had me howling with laughter.

I am new to MN and so don't know if this is a thing but if at the end of the year MN do a top 10 of AIBU thread titles you are a strong contender for the winner 😂.

I agree. Definitely a contender for Classics!

Walnutslooklikebrains · 24/05/2026 15:16

King Edward VII had a sex chair commissioned when he was a fat old bastard who needed some help to have a menage a trois.

The sex chair in the image is gimmicky and off putting, I mean what makes it so different to shoving a pillow under your guts for doggy if needs be.

Anyhow, no, I wouldn't be shagging my man on a specifically designed sex aid he'd rogered someone else on. I wouldn't even have it in the house. Gross.

shuggles · 24/05/2026 15:16

@TheBloomingDahlia I think you are unusually fixated on people having a past. Yes, he has had a previous partner. You seem fixated on this chair, but this partner may also have shared his home, his sofa, his bathroom, his bed, etc.

Most people have had previous partners and relationships and that's just a part of life. Most people don't have an issue with it. I wouldn't have an issue with it either.

So I'm not really sure why the idea of a man having a previous partner is bothersome. If purity is important, then the only option is that you have relationships with virgins, but that's going to drastically reduce your dating pool.

mydogisthebest · 24/05/2026 15:12

JLou08 · 24/05/2026 09:35

Did he buy a new bed when you met? Or as he had his ex in the same position he has you on it? Ever done it on the couch or dining table? I think you're being silly, after at least 2 years I'm sure none of her 'juices' are on it.

Pretty sure he has changed the sheets in 2 years so hardly the same thing at all is it?

GrimGusset · 24/05/2026 15:06

Damn censorship. I had links in the post.

Search for tantra chair positions or karma sutra chair positions. Lots of variety and not just doggy. Helpful diagrams too.

Cailin66 · 24/05/2026 15:05

Badbadbunny · 24/05/2026 14:55

That's why it's better to get one of those huge bean bags! Just as good for different positions but "innocent" looking for friends and family.

Trust me after this thread, shall never again look at a bean bag in Auntie Bunny’s house in quite the same way. And I think I need to consider bringing a towel with me wherever I go from now on.

BTW I’m even wondering now about your rather wonderful username 😂

GrimGusset · 24/05/2026 15:03

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Moondoggle · 24/05/2026 15:03

Sex chair?! In my day we were lucky if we got a sex stool, and we were happy about it.

Toddlerteaplease · 24/05/2026 15:00

SoScarletItWas · 24/05/2026 10:06

So unlike the home life of our own dear Queen.

I do t know, her great, grandfather had one custom made for him.😂

InterestedDad37 · 24/05/2026 14:59

I was gonna suggest that it's a reverse, but that's possibly not how the chair is meant to be used 🙂

Badbadbunny · 24/05/2026 14:55

Cailin66 · 24/05/2026 14:34

How does one explain a sex chair in the living room to the children?😨 Or the in laws.🤔

That's why it's better to get one of those huge bean bags! Just as good for different positions but "innocent" looking for friends and family.

WiddlinDiddlin · 24/05/2026 14:54

As long as it looks and smells clean... I couldn't get worked up about this.

He's probably shagged people on his sofa, on his mattress and you don't object to sitting on those?

I hate to point this out but... he's had his willy inside her and then inside you, hopefully it's been washed since but... shrugs

Badbadbunny · 24/05/2026 14:54

Calliopespa · 24/05/2026 13:33

But the vast majority of those are protected against by the customary use of pants when sitting on furniture.

If I knew your and your OH drove about in your car in the nude, I probably would be asking someone else for a lift - though admittedly at that point the upholstery might not be the biggest concern looming in my mind ...

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Did you never have fun on the back seat of a car? I wasn't talking about driving around nude, I was talking about being intimate.

FoulBlister · 24/05/2026 14:52

Does it come in other colour or is it just the Heather Shimmer?

Peterdottir · 24/05/2026 14:45

And OP I just wanted to add that your thread title is fucking hilarious, it has made my day and the responses on here have had me howling with laughter.

I am new to MN and so don't know if this is a thing but if at the end of the year MN do a top 10 of AIBU thread titles you are a strong contender for the winner 😂.

Peterdottir · 24/05/2026 14:42

TheBloomingDahlia · 24/05/2026 14:39

What did the other thread say? Was it the one about the woman whose husband bought a chair but then was suspended from work or a different one? I can assure you I’m not a man and the other thread wasn’t me, I think this thread would’ve deleted by now if my posting history seemed off but I’ve been on MN for years

Yes that one where after the OP had confronted her DH about sexual messages on his phone with a colleague he thought ordering her a queening chair was the answer!

Imbusytodaysorry · 24/05/2026 14:41

@TheBloomingDahlia yeah the exes sex chair is one step too far .
Id refuse

TheBloomingDahlia · 24/05/2026 14:39

What did the other thread say? Was it the one about the woman whose husband bought a chair but then was suspended from work or a different one? I can assure you I’m not a man and the other thread wasn’t me, I think this thread would’ve deleted by now if my posting history seemed off but I’ve been on MN for years

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