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To feel weird about being second woman on sex chair

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TheBloomingDahlia · 24/05/2026 09:31

I don’t think I am BU but interested in whether other people would just get over it.

Been with my boyfriend for two years, we don’t live together yet and he has just got some furniture out of storage after moving house. One item that he has recently mentioned is a curvy foam chair/sofa thing made for sex. I will add a photo of similar. Although he originally bought it new I think it’s fairly likely he has had sex with his ex on it.

I am not usually jealous at all but I feel really weird about this - I guess because it’s specially made for sex? And because it’s foam I feel like if it wasn’t covered it has probably absorbed some juices 🙈. Although surely any bacteria will be dead after two years. I just don’t want to be lying on this thing knowing his ex was in the same positions, thinking maybe she was face down in the same spot and we would be basically cheek to cheek!

These feelings are all new to me as I don’t usually think about exes and I’ve never been confronted with sex furniture/toys/accessories that weren’t my own or bought new. AIBU to feel weird about this? Would you just put a waterproof sheet down and try to get over it, or refuse to use it because you don’t want to feel uncomfortable during sex?

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Esmeraldathe3rd · 24/05/2026 18:34

Calliopespa · 24/05/2026 17:57

I'd somehow feel objectified like a spit roast or rotisserie chicken splayed out on that device.

I guess there is a model with a flip the bird option.

They're mainly for comfort tbh, getting the good angle without all the bending and awkward positions.

Pennysworth · 24/05/2026 18:32

I suspect this was invented by a man with a man’s pleasure in mind so possibly there’s a feeling of being objectified around it? Whatever, my gut reaction is definitely a big ew!’

Esmeraldathe3rd · 24/05/2026 18:31

Mate I've had sex with other women, used toys that other women have used. Been given used toys off friends (glass so sterilised but still) I've gone to clubs where they have sex furniture. So alot of people would consider me a bit sexually manky.

Ain't no chance on gods green earth I'm having sex with my partner on sex furniture bought for his ex. TBF I've never slept in anyones bed that their ex slept in. Coincidentally, new partners have always involved new houses. So it's not something I've got used to, I've never been in a space someone had shared with their ex. I imagine that can be really uncomfortable tbh.

YANBU id rather sell it and buy a second hand one strangers have used than use one he used with his ex.

Just say that makes you feel uncomfortable, end of, no one should do anything in sex in anyway that makes them uncomfortable.

CaptainMyCaptain · 24/05/2026 18:28

I haven't read the whole thread, it's very long, but I would feel very weird about a man who even owned a chair like that. It would be a definite No from me.

FernFaery · 24/05/2026 18:23

Whatineed · 24/05/2026 17:54

Heather Shimmer would be a great Onlyfans name though!

😂 primarily a 30-40 something audience, I’m guessing

FernFaery · 24/05/2026 18:22

Calliopespa · 24/05/2026 17:57

I'd somehow feel objectified like a spit roast or rotisserie chicken splayed out on that device.

I guess there is a model with a flip the bird option.

Isn’t a large part of sex just objectification though? Not in a disrespectful way but primarily it’s about visually and sensually appealing actions/imagery. There’s very little conversation, if I’m doing it correctly?

JayJayj · 24/05/2026 18:16

OtterlyAstounding · 24/05/2026 14:18

I can't figure for the life of me what different positions you'd be able to get in on that chair, and I don't want to Google it 🫣 What can one do on that, which one can't do better with a mound of cushions and a bed?

I've tried the full gamut of positions in my lifetime, and I honestly still can't work out what one could do on that chair. It seems much too narrow and low to the ground for most things, including comfortable doggy, and the shape looks limiting.

Ha ha I might have a Google for the both of us 😂

Calliopespa · 24/05/2026 17:57

I'd somehow feel objectified like a spit roast or rotisserie chicken splayed out on that device.

I guess there is a model with a flip the bird option.

Whatineed · 24/05/2026 17:54

FoulBlister · 24/05/2026 14:52

Does it come in other colour or is it just the Heather Shimmer?

Heather Shimmer would be a great Onlyfans name though!

RaininSummer · 24/05/2026 17:46

Wingedharpy · 24/05/2026 17:26

Quite. And if you turned round and sat on it you could gaze at the stars as well - plus relieve your puffy ankles (not that I'm suggesting your ankles are puffy @RaininSummer ).😉

I do love to multitask!

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 24/05/2026 17:43

Pedallleur · 24/05/2026 17:16

One careful owner? I'm not going to look. Can you imagine your partner telling you he's nipping out to collect the sex chair he's bought at a bargain price.

Well it doesn’t say one careful owner. But either it’s being sold for similar reasons as to the OP or it’s just not that good.

Greenscreennightmare · 24/05/2026 17:31

And they say romance is dead.

Wingedharpy · 24/05/2026 17:26

RaininSummer · 24/05/2026 17:21

Wow I have lived a sheltered life. Though I do like the idea of knitting and reading simultaneously.

Quite. And if you turned round and sat on it you could gaze at the stars as well - plus relieve your puffy ankles (not that I'm suggesting your ankles are puffy @RaininSummer ).😉

RaininSummer · 24/05/2026 17:21

Wow I have lived a sheltered life. Though I do like the idea of knitting and reading simultaneously.

Pedallleur · 24/05/2026 17:16

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 24/05/2026 17:02

I just checked EBay. As well as some flimsy cheap things there is a used one. Boak.

One careful owner? I'm not going to look. Can you imagine your partner telling you he's nipping out to collect the sex chair he's bought at a bargain price.

Sooveritall · 24/05/2026 17:16

I watched Abby Clancey visit Caprice's house . Sex swing and f*nny steamer ( I'm sorry can't say it on God's day!). I know she's beautiful but if I looked like that I'd be doing Jack all to move things along. What temperature do you need? was my question because my brain works like that
The DH is quite amused after a 'busy' morning with dodgy knees.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 24/05/2026 17:02

Pedallleur · 24/05/2026 16:59

Prob some on eBay. Almost new, lightly used, easy wipe.

I just checked EBay. As well as some flimsy cheap things there is a used one. Boak.

Pedallleur · 24/05/2026 16:59

SandrenaIsMyBloodType · 24/05/2026 12:08

Put it on marketplace 😱
Really? Who are the people buying second-hand sex equipment on Facebook? I really need this not to be a thing

Prob some on eBay. Almost new, lightly used, easy wipe.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 24/05/2026 16:58

The one I think is listed here is £500. What a waste of money.

Pedallleur · 24/05/2026 16:57

Mimosaandonwards · 24/05/2026 12:48

Definitely best not to get these two mixed up. That's much more of a niche fetish. 😂

Bet there is an OnlyFans for it.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 24/05/2026 16:57

I’d probably burn it. Yeah I know it’s not great to burn plastics/synthetics.

Pedallleur · 24/05/2026 16:56

mydogisthebest · 24/05/2026 15:12

Pretty sure he has changed the sheets in 2 years so hardly the same thing at all is it?

Woah! This is a man and bedroom hygiene may not be on a list of priorities. A UV light would reveal more!!!

Pedallleur · 24/05/2026 16:54

Scoose · 24/05/2026 09:49

What's with the posts about sex chairs lately I saw another one yesterday

There was a thread where a sex chair was being bought by a man when his partner found out about sexy goings on at his work. Somehow it was the partners fault (poster on MN) for neglecting him so a sex chair was clearly needed to get the marriage back on track.

Papster · 24/05/2026 16:36

Suddenly it all makes sense.

DialSquare · 24/05/2026 16:06

Overtheatlantic · 24/05/2026 13:22

What ever happened to a bottle of wine and a negligée?

The bottle of wine was never enough to stop me being turned off by my partner in his negligée.