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To feel weird about being second woman on sex chair

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TheBloomingDahlia · 24/05/2026 09:31

I don’t think I am BU but interested in whether other people would just get over it.

Been with my boyfriend for two years, we don’t live together yet and he has just got some furniture out of storage after moving house. One item that he has recently mentioned is a curvy foam chair/sofa thing made for sex. I will add a photo of similar. Although he originally bought it new I think it’s fairly likely he has had sex with his ex on it.

I am not usually jealous at all but I feel really weird about this - I guess because it’s specially made for sex? And because it’s foam I feel like if it wasn’t covered it has probably absorbed some juices 🙈. Although surely any bacteria will be dead after two years. I just don’t want to be lying on this thing knowing his ex was in the same positions, thinking maybe she was face down in the same spot and we would be basically cheek to cheek!

These feelings are all new to me as I don’t usually think about exes and I’ve never been confronted with sex furniture/toys/accessories that weren’t my own or bought new. AIBU to feel weird about this? Would you just put a waterproof sheet down and try to get over it, or refuse to use it because you don’t want to feel uncomfortable during sex?

To feel weird about being second woman on sex chair
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ghostyslovesheets · 24/05/2026 10:15

FoulBlister · 24/05/2026 10:10

You wouldn't even need to put your knitting down.

You could rate him on the following scale - wordle 1 , + connections 2, AND the mini 3, if you manage strands AND the big crossword he’s a keeper - living the dream !

HelpMeGetThrough · 24/05/2026 10:13

TheBloomingDahlia · 24/05/2026 10:11

It was obviously a joke based on what the PP said - the liquids are one of the main reasons I don’t think I want to use the chair. I know there are weirdos who post on here but I dont want to discuss how it would be used or anything like that.
I just want to know if others would feel the same or if they wouldn’t care because my boyfriend wants to bring it to my house

Most partners bring a toothbrush and change of clothes.

MagpiePi · 24/05/2026 10:12

FoulBlister · 24/05/2026 10:10

You wouldn't even need to put your knitting down.

True.

You could have a glass of wine and some nibbles within easy reach too.

TheBloomingDahlia · 24/05/2026 10:11

maudelovesharold · 24/05/2026 10:00

Yeah, I think the op’s 3rd post is getting to the nitty gritty of why they posted!

It was obviously a joke based on what the PP said - the liquids are one of the main reasons I don’t think I want to use the chair. I know there are weirdos who post on here but I dont want to discuss how it would be used or anything like that.
I just want to know if others would feel the same or if they wouldn’t care because my boyfriend wants to bring it to my house

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Wickedlittledancer · 24/05/2026 10:11

Is it for the elderly? It’s even got a little knee pad like a foot stool for him. 😂

FoulBlister · 24/05/2026 10:10

MagpiePi · 24/05/2026 10:09

…and you could read a book or watch telly at the same time.

You wouldn't even need to put your knitting down.

MagpiePi · 24/05/2026 10:09

weeat · 24/05/2026 09:58

I’m looking at this chair, thinking, ‘wow, how practical…that would really save my knees..,’

…and you could read a book or watch telly at the same time.

HelpMeGetThrough · 24/05/2026 10:09

SoScarletItWas · 24/05/2026 10:06

So unlike the home life of our own dear Queen.

Oh I don’t know, I reckon Camilla has one with her cypher embroidered in to it.

GalaDinner · 24/05/2026 10:09

And they said romance was dead. Eew.

Wickedlittledancer · 24/05/2026 10:09

What am I even reading, what sort of guy buys a sex chair for gods sake.

FoulBlister · 24/05/2026 10:08

Instant upgrade for only £7.99 from Screwfix. (apt name).

www.screwfix.com/p/essentials-tarpaulin-sheet-blue-2m-x-3m/891gt

LarksAscending · 24/05/2026 10:07

I’d ask him to get rid of it. It’s been in storage for years so not like he needs it

SoScarletItWas · 24/05/2026 10:06

So unlike the home life of our own dear Queen.

Sweetharmony252 · 24/05/2026 10:06

HermioneWeasley · 24/05/2026 10:03

You’re making some assumptions @TheBloomingDahlia , perhaps he likes bending over on it and getting pegged?

Brilliant 🤣

TFImBackIn · 24/05/2026 10:06

Twattergy · 24/05/2026 10:01

Hmmm putting down a waterproof sheet.
Really gets me in the mood...

Yes, you know you're in for a really good time when he brings out the sex chair and the waterproof sheet. It's everything a woman could dream of.

FoulBlister · 24/05/2026 10:05

Greenwitchart · 24/05/2026 09:47

Frankly a man talking about/buying a ''sex chair'' would be an instant turn off for me in the first place.

Surely the OP is a man talking about a sex chair.

Bubblebathbefore8 · 24/05/2026 10:04

I quite like it. Get a new one?

I had a guy try to get me to use sex toys that he had collected over the years, (his box of tricks) I couldn’t use 2nd hand/previously used sex toy, for me this is similar. Get him to buy you your own sex chair

HermioneWeasley · 24/05/2026 10:03

You’re making some assumptions @TheBloomingDahlia , perhaps he likes bending over on it and getting pegged?

Sweetharmony252 · 24/05/2026 10:03

They're sex people Lynn

Squirrelchops1 · 24/05/2026 10:02

weeat · 24/05/2026 09:58

I’m looking at this chair, thinking, ‘wow, how practical…that would really save my knees..,’

Lol, I'm thinking how my back would generally like it as a normal chair

Error404FucksNotFound · 24/05/2026 10:02

That seems poorly designed. Would it not be better to have a non absorbent surface that would just wipe clean?

Twattergy · 24/05/2026 10:01

Hmmm putting down a waterproof sheet.
Really gets me in the mood...

PollyBell · 24/05/2026 10:01

What only the second? Tell him to put some more effort in

Or up or on

Shudder gross

maudelovesharold · 24/05/2026 10:00

TheBloomingDahlia · 24/05/2026 09:58

Buy our fabulous spongy chair, re-use for each girlfriend and absorb up to one litre of sweat, cum and general sex liquids each time ✨💦🥳

Yeah, I think the op’s 3rd post is getting to the nitty gritty of why they posted!

weeat · 24/05/2026 09:58

I’m looking at this chair, thinking, ‘wow, how practical…that would really save my knees..,’