Is it unreasonable to be frustrated by a guest who says they eat anything when they actually don’t?

Granola isn't healthy.
Yogurt is obviously, but it's a normal food that most people eat and not a 'health food'.

But if you were asked what you’d want to eat, @sittingonabeach, presumably you’d tell the m that you couldn’t eat nuts and didn’t like dried fruit, and would prefer weetabix, so they’d know to have some in the house. You wouldnt say “Oh I eat anything” and then refuse cereal containing nuts and dried fruit.

I have an intolerance to some nuts and don’t like dried fruit so would struggle if I was offered granola for breakfast. My breakfast cereal of choice would be something like shredded wheat or weetabix

Spicy, unfamiliar and eaten with hands.

Wholegrains found in some cereals like weetabix are good for bowel health

www.cancerresearchuk.org/about-cancer/causes-of-cancer/diet-and-cancer/wholegrains-fibre-and-cancer-risk

I don't think I know anyone who still eats boxed breakfast cereals as opposed to porridge/granola but the fact that they're still advertised and still have a whole supermarket section to themselves suggests that a lot of adults do eat them. IMO they either think they're healthy, don't care if they're healthy or not (more likely) or just, old habits die hard sort of attitude.

Me too, @Crikeyalmighty - I still shudder when I think of having to force down liver casserole, at my mum’s friend's house. Mum had told her dsis and I hated liver, but she gave it to us anyway. Dsis couldn’t eat hers, but I felt compelled (by fear of what my mum would say if she was told I’d refused) to eat it. 🤢🤮

I must admit I’ve eaten some really crap stuff at peoples houses to remain polite- this includes a friends really revolting ‘chilli ‘ with zero flavour at all and fatty mince and my FIL giving me a cheap ( and tiny) Iceland ready meal that wasn’t nice in the tray that I could eat in 4 forkfuls. I’m the kind of person who then says ‘that was lovely thanks’ ! Lol -I’ve mentioned on this thread already I don’t much like corn, stuff on skewers, tabbouleh , halloumi etc - I would certainly have eaten it though

But that's exactly the principle of eating tacos - which she didn't want!

It sounds as if she avoids things that are 'complicated', mixes of foods, particularly in sauces. My DH always does meals for his tricky family that have different simple elements - like grilled chicken, rice, green salad, different salad bits, all with the dressing separate. Easier to start simple and build on what she likes.

Yes, adults do eat cereal.

Oh fuck off’ 😂

Why is cereal a staple? Adults dont eat that stuff do they? Everyone knows it’s unhealthy/ processed rubbish and yoghurt/ eggs/fruit is a breakfast staple

She should have just eaten the chickpeas
and the salad dressing. That’s what adults do.
fhey eat stuff that they dont love to be polite when staying in someone’s home

You've posted over and over again, clearly you're not that short on time yourself.

And think of all the time you could have saved if you'd done a 'See All' of the OP's posts and/or looked at the posts quoting you and pointing out the toast thing - your last few posts would have been completely unnecessary.

I didn't realise chickpeas were so controversial, this thread has been enlightening😁

Can you not read? The OP offered toast and cereal.

I think that people are reading the OP's interesting posts and tbf she said a few posts in that, 'Our cereal section is centred around the baby so just Ready Brek and Weetabix at the moment.'

She also said that 'we tend not to eat processed foods' so that would seem to rule out a lot of things to put on the toast, which a lot of poeple would take for granted as normal I guess, like regular marmalade. (I wouldn't be expecting my relatives to necessarily share in my desire for organic minimally-processed goosegog jam on ancient grains seeded sourdough - I'd ask them in advance what they preferred, even and possibly especially the younger ones.)

Anyway, the OP got it all sorted in the end and came up with some good ideas, so it seems like all's well that ended well.

And there is clearly no one individual thing that would be everyone's 'normal' breakfast - including toast and cereal.

I do eat yoghurt, l have it for breakfast most days, I just don't like plain yoghurt. I don't like berries for breakfast but I do eat berries. I do eat eggs, but can't face them for breakfast. I love granola, but I eat it dry or with milk, not with plain yoghurt. I also eat instant porridge... but I don't believe anyone could mistake Readybrek for instant porridge.

If anything that makes you sound more fussy, not less!

When you're at someone else's house, you don't always get the breakfast options you would make yourself. The analogy someone used upthread of not drinking instant coffee at home but drinking it in a house where that's what coffee is is a good one. If you can't get past not having your preferred yoghurt flavour or preferred dairy product with your granola then that's fine, but you are very much not someone who 'eats anything', as the MiL described herself!

Oh FFS! What an absolute delight you are! I missed a comment on a 22 page thread that wasn’t part of the OP. You might have nothing better to do than read every single post but the rest of us have lives and other things to do! 😆

There is having a different opinion and there is being wrong. Incorrect information is not an opinion - it is just wrong.

@EnterQueene
Fucking hell, how rude! Clearly I didn’t see that as it was not in the original post. You
seem just like the sort of person I imagine eats granola and yoghurt most mornings… 😂
It is possible and perfectly acceptable for people to have a different opinion to you!

Can you not read? OP offered toast and cereal.

A propos of nothing, I have granola & yoghurt for breakfast most mornings if that was vaguely relevant to the thread. Which it isn't. The point of the thread is that MIL claimed to eat everything. Wouldn't eat anything. was taken to a shop to buy food she liked. And wouldn't buy anything. How anyone can defend that behaviour is beyond me.

@funinthesun22
I don’t think anyone thought you were saying that. I would say that granola and plain yoghurt are unusual breakfast items and if that was all that was on offer for me at someone’s house I would be surprised too. Hopefully you can see from the comments that I’m definitely not alone. Just offer her some toast next time! There’s no rule saying that you have to eat the same thing. I know people with some pretty awful mother in laws, if her worst crime is being a bit of a fussy eater I would say you’re getting off pretty lightly.