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Daughter broke neighbours bike

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Fortheloveofpizza · 23/05/2026 20:00

Basically as it says. Brand new bike which for some reason she jumped on when walking passed. No idea what she was thinking but it’s snapped something and seems can’t be fixed. I wasn’t aware until this morning when another neighbour mentioned it and gave me recommendations for where to go for a replacement.

Personally if it was me I’d never ask for a replacement and put it down to kids being kids. I have spoke to my daughter but she can’t explain why she did it . It’s totally out of character. AIBU not to buy a new bike?

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Schoolchoicesucks · 24/05/2026 09:41

£140 for an 8 year old's bike is expensive enough to be upset about. If he'd accidentally broken it by "having a turn on it" with your DC's permission and not done anything wrong, I'd be more inclined to mark it down as an unfortunate accident. But if the child stomped on it that is totally that family's to sort a replacement.
Our council runs a bike doctor service where they will do simple checks and services, do you have anything similar? The family owe you a repair or replacement - if they are unable to replace a new £140 bike (understandable) but were apologetic and could offer a suitable 2nd hand one, that would go a long way. But to say "oh yeah my child purposely stomped on your kids brand new bike and that's not my fault" is shitty behaviour of the first degree and goes a long way to explaining why an 8 year old could think it fine to treat other people's nice things with such a lack of respect.

VividPinkTraybake · 24/05/2026 09:38

CaesarAugusta · 24/05/2026 09:23

Do read the OP's posts, people. It wasn't her kid who broke the bike, it was a reverse.

Tbh if the o.p is doing a reverse they don't deserve people taking the time to give genuine answers.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 24/05/2026 09:38

CaesarAugusta · 24/05/2026 09:23

Do read the OP's posts, people. It wasn't her kid who broke the bike, it was a reverse.

No, OP shouldn’t have been childish by posting a reverse. They’re not fun or interesting to anyone.

Superhansrantowindsor · 24/05/2026 09:27

Why on earth do you think you need to do a reverse?
Honestly- reverse threads are infuriating.

G5000 · 24/05/2026 09:25

We had it recently, friend jumped on bike and snapped a part - total accident. We didn't tell the parents and got it fixed ourselves.
BUT if we would have told them, they would absolutely offred to pay. And if DS breaks anything at theirs, they would also not charge us.
In your situation, of course they need to pay! Or at least offer and you can decide if you accept it.

Whammyammy · 24/05/2026 09:24

CaesarAugusta · 24/05/2026 09:23

Do read the OP's posts, people. It wasn't her kid who broke the bike, it was a reverse.

Just read that. I went from the original post, not trawled every response on every page but edited it anyway.

But thanks so much for pointing out

CaesarAugusta · 24/05/2026 09:23

Do read the OP's posts, people. It wasn't her kid who broke the bike, it was a reverse.

Whammyammy · 24/05/2026 09:22

Gosh. Who'd want you for a neighbour. Your child intentionally jumped on neighbours chijds bike, causing it to be unrepairable and you think you shouldn't replace it as kids would be kids.i would jump all over your car and say "adults will be adults, but have a dominoes on me"....

Edit. Just seen a reverse post. Your neighbours are shitty. If they don't replace bike, do as above

Laurmolonlabe · 24/05/2026 09:14

You have to have it repaired or replace it, and your daughter has to pay it off with pocket money or work- that it is out of character is irrelevant, she did it , she has to live with the consequences.
It is not believable that you would not expect a replacement yourself.
This child is your neighbour if you want to stay living there you have to replace it, why do you want to focus on why your daughter did it? that is not relevant.

Monty36 · 24/05/2026 09:11

Kids being kids or not. That is not an excuse not to pay your neighbour for their damaged property. Damaged by your daughter who had no grasp she had no business leaping onto it. It wasn’t there for her entertainment.
Your daughter broke someone else’s property.
I suspect if someone broke yours you would expect them to pay up for a replacement.
Yes, you pay up.

buymeaboaanddrivemetoreno · 24/05/2026 09:06

Fortheloveofpizza · 23/05/2026 21:27

Thanks all. I honestly don’t know what’s broke. The front wheel is seized and won’t move when he peddles. When I walk it on back wheel it’s fine so seems it’s front. Wheel looks fine, can’t see anything bent etc.
It was a handy man that looked at it as I don’t think it would be worth paying a proper repairer. The bike was £140 . I’ll check and see what a repair would cost at a bike shop

Is the brake seized at the top? If it is it shouldn’t be too bad a repair. Take it to halfords or a bike shop and see, quite often repairs aren’t as expensive as you think. But definitely ask the other parents to pay for it! What a shame!

Swimmingteacher21 · 24/05/2026 08:56

Firstly to get it out the way, I hate reverse posts. Urgh.

Secondly, obviously they should pay for it.

Lastly, for all future bike purchases, please don’t buy your child cheap bikes new. They are NEVER worth the money and often cannot be repaired because the components are rubbish and they’re weirdly sized and you can’t find replacements. You would spend the same or less on a second hand bike that is a decent brand and if it’s a really decent brand it’ll hold its value and you can sell it for a good price when your child needs to size up. But cheap bikes end up being grown out of and then end up at the tip because they can’t be repaired/maintained to be sold on.

Linzloopy · 24/05/2026 08:53

Has the child who did it admitted to their parents that they stomped on it? Are there witnesses? Maybe he’s told them he just got on it and it broke "by accident".

Since he did it on purpose, they should pay. But I doubt if it’s anything too serious - surely a bike, even a cheapish one, must be strong enough to withstand a child stamping on it. I suspect it can be easily repaired - but it should still be the boy's parents who pay, not you.

Steeleydan · 24/05/2026 08:40

Fortheloveofpizza · 23/05/2026 20:25

It was a kids bike and not expensive so maybe that was part of the reason it broke easy? I don’t know much about bikes but he outgrew his last one so fast I couldn’t justify an expensive one

Can u post a pic of the broken bit someone on mn may know how to fix it or get a part.
Alternatively I'd take the parents to small claims court, they need to learn a lesson that it's no OK for their precious golden balls yo go around wrecking other children's things, no wonder child is so badly behaved with a parents attitude like that

Harriet36 · 24/05/2026 08:14

Return the bike as faulty and encourage your little girl to play with other friends and not the bike stomping one.

Polkadotpompom · 24/05/2026 08:07

OP I've had this happen to me too.

I made a point of letting the parents know it had happened, what was damaged and how unhappy I was.

For us it was part of a wider picture of my child's toys always being shared and damaged by kids who didn't value toys and treated them roughly. It wasn't the first toy of my child's they'd damaged but like you it was brand new and a big spend for me so I made it very very clear I was unhappy.

Yes it was awkward. The mum didn't initially take it well but then did come back later with apologies and offer to replace the damaged part.

I then also made a rule that my child's bike was only for them as it was new and a special buy for them. They still shared all their other toys just not their bike. All neighbour kids were told it was off limits.

I agree with the advice of asking a local bike repair shop to have a look at it. Hopefully you can get it fixed.

ThriveAT · 24/05/2026 07:41

Why should the other person pay for your child's choices? Kids being kids doesn't get you off the hook.

Phonicshaskilledmeoff · 24/05/2026 07:16

Completely agree that the other parents should be very apologetic and pay for anything that leaves you out of pocket.

BUT ill also say that I don’t think any of our bikes would break after a normal sized 7 year old jumped on them. Maybe it is worth pursuing Argos?

CuntOfTheLitter · 24/05/2026 06:15

I hate reverses, it just makes a dick of
people who pay attention to a seemingly ludicrous post.

anyway this was my original answer

Well OP what would YOU want to happen if it was your daughter’s bike?

they need to get you a new bike

Namesuggestion101 · 24/05/2026 05:58

Just seen it is a reverse. I'd be calling 101

Namesuggestion101 · 24/05/2026 05:56

So you daughter took property that didn't belong to her, broke it & you think you shouldn't replace it. Are you quite sane? A grovelling apology, a new bike and a long sit down with your daughter regarding, nicking stuff and taking responsibility for her actions. What exactly are you teaching her? What next a car into a wall?

You are an appalling neighbour.

JustJoinedRightNow · 24/05/2026 03:27

IsThatAHedgehog · 24/05/2026 00:32

I am so confused.

You originally said it was your daughter who broke the bike, indicating it was a girl who did it. But it being a reverse, it was actually someone else's daughter that did it. Unless you were inserting your own daughter into the original post, and posing her as the perpetrator. Which, if you were pretending to be the neighbour, doesn't really make sense (do you see how ridiculous this is sounding).

However you then say "he came over and apologised", "I don't know how he did it" and "he" is 8.

Right, ok. So you have the daughter, and it was the neighbours BOY who broke the bike.

But NOW you're saying - when asked about it breaking so easily - "he" outgrew "his" last bike fast, that's why you didn't buy an expensive one? Who is "he"? You're the mother of the DAUGHTER aren't you?

This is why reverses are fucking stupid. Stop being so convoluted and just ask things outright as yourself, and tell the truth.

Cos I'm honestly not sure this story is even real. It seems utter bullshit where you are forgetting which gender the characters are supposed to be 🙄

Edited

I noticed the slip up in gender of her child too and just assumed OP is changing details to try to avoid being outing and has gotten herself all confused

canuckup · 24/05/2026 02:15

She broke it. You pay.

Simples.

Brokentoes85 · 24/05/2026 01:25

Eugh reverse 🙄🙄🙄

ForeverTheOptomist · 24/05/2026 01:21

It's entirely possible that I'm being slightly dipsy here, but why would anyone do a 'reverse"?

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