Accidentally made dh think his dm had died but is his reaction too much?

Wouldnt your husband be notified first if his Mum passed away? The whole thing is weird

Overreaction from your husband. You made a mistake. You clarified immediately and apologised. I think most peoples response would be something "FFS you nearly gave me a heart attack" and move on. I think your husband's response is not normal.

It reminds me of something that happened years ago. My sister has a son called let’s call him trevor. She called and was seemingly in massive panic and distress ‘Trevor has hanged himself’. It was not her son. It was a very distant relation called Trevor that we didn’t know. She was always a drama queen wanting attention

This. You can’t always blame your ADHD. You still need to take personal responsibility for your actions and what you say to people.

Ditto the wives who 'discover' things about their other halves when they 'accidentally' scroll through his phone?

You were speaking to your sister, not him, so he is being unreasonable.

The only Judith I know is Judith Chalmers (RIP).

Also, am I the only one who thinks of Mingogue rather than Jenner when hearing the name Kylie?

No, I think Minogue too.

Is this one of those ‘are you old’ questions?

Well on 'Someone's dead' I think Grace Archer in 1955. 'Grace is dead' the evening newspaper headlines said.

I'm not old enough to remember it, but it was much talked about at the time.

I'd give him some grace. You haven't done anything wrong really but I can understand his upset, even though his mum isn't dead, he still had to go through the emotions of thinking she was, even if it was only for a very short period, he will need to process that emotion.

It was thoughtless and it sounds like it's not the first time, he's obviously and understandably upset, just leave him alone for now, apologise if he reaches out. I don't understand why you said Judith though, you didn't know the woman and you knew it is his mums name. If this is a true story you have to be more careful in future.

OH so the ' mean girl' pile on has started. Bless your little hearts for not being able to understand a basic concept 😂😂😂

Presumably there is no one in your family called Fiona or your first thought would be of them. If your mother in law was called Fiona the she wouldn't have just said Fiona would she. I can't see how you think it's even remotely similar?

I think he needs to learn not to eavesdrop on other people's phone calls, if you'd been talking to him, fair enough but you weren't. Obviously give him some leaway as he's worried about his Mum, but it's in no way your fault.
We also referred to Judith Chalmers as just Judith. Think it's growing up with Wish You Were Here, sort of joke familiarity.

He’s massively overreacted

His Mum is seriously unwell in a HDU.

Because some people can become so attached to favourite celebrities that they refer to them by their first name! Do you understand now?!

That could not be less relevant to this situation. You might as well have said ‘I like cheese’.

Which is rather different from saying the name of somebody who has died in earshot of someone who knows it could be his Mum soon

How is that even remotely the same?

Your parent dying is a life-defining Big Deal.
He was expecting you to understand the significance of his situation. But you dont. You didnt just "speak without thinking" you showed him that his life events are not at the front if your mind.
In his shoes, Im not sure I would get over that.

He's massively overreacted. My mum once excitedly told me that 'Fiona'had had a baby boy and I was like, who the heck is Fiona? She meant Fiona Phillips. She really liked her.

So he needs to be rational at all times or you will judge him harshly, but you have a get out of jail card.

How very handy for you.

He's obviously not thinking straight is he as why would Op know & not him?

Why would she say it in the middle of a conversation as if she had just been informed?

I don't think you need to beg for forgiveness from him.

I mean if you've always been like this he can't be surprised that one time you might say something that upsets him or he misunderstands.

Nope.

If I said to any single person I know that 'Judith is dead' they'd have zero idea who I was talking about unless they or I had a close relative by that name.
I absolutely refuse to believe that you referred to Judith Chalmers as 'Judith' and you seriously cannot blame that on ADHD or any other condition.

I also think just using her first name is weird. Makes me not really believe this story. I also thought of “David’s Dead” 🤣

My best friend and I were obsessed with X factor in our teens and still enjoy BGT now. We probably talked about Simon Cowell way too much, and love him a little bit too much. But even now, if he died, I still can’t imagine saying “oh my, Simon is dead”… it would be “oh my, Simon Cowell is dead.”

I think his reaction is understandable given what he heard and what his gut reaction would have been. You may not have meant harm but you inadvertently caused it.

My exact thoughts.