Accidentally made dh think his dm had died but is his reaction too much?

You cant not hear stuff that in being said within your earshot. Especially if it something like this.

Your dh sounds like a complete bellend. Find someone who understands you, not someone who is going to make you feel terrible for being who you are

Failing to understand your closest person sounds like something he needs to address
yep, poor guy, how can he address his partner being so insensitive and when called on it doing the “I’m the victim here! You’re mean!!” ?

To this day we have no idea what she misunderstood

Perhaps it was her friend's other grandmother?

I think it was deliberate too if it happened at all

Say what? Ear wigging? Should be block his ears whenever OP has a call?

It’s giving David’s dead, eventually one day he’ll chuckle about it.

One time DD misunderstood that her friend’s grandmother had died so she was extra nice for a while, bringing treats, food, presents, checking in, etc. The works. Then a couple years later the grandmother actually died.

To this day we have no idea what she misunderstood or what her friend thought of her sudden extreme thoughtfulness.

I don't think it is normal. If the OP had left him in that state for a few minutes, yes. But it was clarified immediately.

This was an unintentional but careless thing to say, particularly considering your MIL is very unwell. It’s odd to refer to a celebrity by their first name unless it’s someone like Madonna or Beyoncé. I can see how your DH has found the situation extremely upsetting and thoughtless even if unintentional, particularly as it’s a pattern of behaviour according to him.

A sincere apology and genuine reflection on how you understand your words could have been misinterpreted and some sort of action to help stop this going forward (the blurting out without thinking) will be a good first step.

This was a truly insensitive thing for you to do.

Unless you personally knew Judith Chalmers, your comment makes no sense. She was never that big a star.

You have hurt your husband and now you are crying ‘oh, but ADHD’

Nasty.

I've never watched Big Brother so just looked up David's Dead and I'm weak hahahaha.

I think your husband's response is not normal.

What is a normal response to thinking your mother has died?

Your OH is being a twit. Everything is not about him.

But some things are about him, and his mother dying is one of them.

And it sounds like the status quo is that is always about OP

You were unreasonable to say that and you are unreasonable not understanding how upset your husband is. I can understand that this was a strong straw that broke the camel's back if you have a form for blurting things out. It is annoying longterm. Not being able to help it is one thing but not owning it and not understanding the effect it can have is another.

I think you just acted like a tool on the internet.

Thinking from his point of view it was a split second of awful fear. Immediately corrected.

Unless his Mum is somewhere too far away, he could have just said that was awful and gone to see her. No need for the extra drama, the extra reaction is out of proportion to what happened.

Failing to understand your closest person sounds like something he needs to address

Easy to realise when you’re relaxed and not connected. Less so if your waiting on that phone call

He thought his mother had died … I’d be absolutely furious with you so no his reaction isn’t too much!

Except his mum is very ill. So yes it is about him.

I've lost almost my entire family over the last two years, and I've never acted like a tool.
As TS Eliot said, goodnight,sweet ladies, and best wishes to you,OP.

I agree, very doubtful the op would get a notification but he is stressed, not thinking clearly and on edge.

If he's worried about his mum. I'd say his reaction was very normal.

Surely you would have realised what it sounded like?

Your OH is being a twit. Everything is not about him.

He’s being a DQ
Does anyone remember the episode of Celeb Big Brother when they thought David Gest who was a contestant, had died and Tiffany went into meltdown?