Accidentally made dh think his dm had died but is his reaction too much?

It comes across as an outsider you sort of deliberately played it that way. Otherwise who refers to Judith Chalmers as just Judith. Very disrespectful and childish.

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Are both of your parents still alive? Try to put yourself in his shoes. Being ND is not an excuse to be hurtful. Have you blurted out hurtful comments before (from his comment of saying he was fed up).

Yeah, but that's your ADHD answering, so you don't really mean it.

Good, I think, to have the viewpoint and experience of someone with ADHD posting on this thread

you were having a contextually relevant convo with someone else

No she wasn't. She was having a conversation about something else, and exclaimed 'Judith's dead!' when the notification came up on her phone. (Though I'm not sure how she could have been talking on her phone and looking at it at the same time.)

Another man child.

In what circumstances is a man allowed to have an emotional reaction to something, if his own mother dying isn't a good enough reason?

And I wish some of the judgmental posters on this thread cheerleading on the OP could live just one day with a dying parent. Oh hold on, no, I don't, because I'm not a dick

‘Apologies’ made then an instant “waahhh I’m the true victim mn thread!”

😂
Sorry ! Yes , I’ve missed that.

Still , if I may say, the OP wasn’t talking to him.
And the name confusion would have lasted seconds.
As traumatic as it seems to have been for the OP’s DH , it was cleared straight away, apologies made.

Stupid comment.

So, in the same room, should he have a magical forcefield that stops him hearing his mum's name?

Came here to say this. Similar story but far less entertaining. Sorry @accidentallyUpsetHim ‘s husband if this is is true, angie Bowie did it way better

.....do you really not see the difference here?

OP, do you have speech cluttering? It's associated with ADHD.

People with speech cluttering get their words mangled, word order mixed up, speech comes out too fast. It's a bit like stammering, though a different condition.

I believe you when you say it wasn't intentional. It's unfortunate but not your fault.

Sorry , you are right.
Somehow I’ve missed that.

Still an overreaction.
The OP wasn’t talking to him, and also : how long would have the confusion caused by the name lasted? We’re talking minutes, if not seconds.
It was immediately corrected.
It is not like he had been grieving his mother for hours, before the OP explained the unfortunate coincidence, and her error .

We all make mistakes. Yes it was an unfortunate one , but the OP is clearly remorseful , and has apologised.
And is willing to apologise again.

What more does he want?
Another man child.

Agree with all this. As another poster has said, this ain't the OP's first rodeo. Sounds like he needs space to reevaluate the relationship and whether to LTB

This, wonder how those who say “tosh tosh it’s adhd blurt! You can say whatever you want and he has to accept!! He’s NOT allowed to be upset or have feelings!!”
does it work both ways? Can he blurt out “god you’re an insensitive nightmare!”

"Just because you've said sorry doesn't mean it doesn't hurt anymore"

Spot on

This

I can imagine this thread the other way round with the husband trying to blame it on ND

Learn new strategies OP

He misunderstood and overreacted. You didnt really do anything wrong. It wasnt an ADHD blurt, you were having a contextually relevant convo with someone else

But DH is likely terrified for his mum and over sensitive and panicked and now full flight mode.

So while I dont think you did something wrong, I would grovel a little just because I think hes vulnerable and worried

This
I believe he will come to realise that it was a misunderstanding.

It sound innocent but sounds suspicious - Judith charmers is not known colloquially in the public realm
as “Judith”

she isn’t that well known

only you know if you meant something else

H e w a s i n t h e s a m e r o o m

That's you. However, as OP herself has said, even her own sister thought OP was saying that her MIL had died