Accidentally made dh think his dm had died but is his reaction too much?

I don’t think you sound very compatible, OP. Maybe break up…enjoy being single or meet someone else!

Ok @childpassporthell

what are bots?

Sorry I misread your posts @cherrytree86

Ask the poster who I responded to.

@Monty36

what are you even on about? What are ‘bots’?

You both need to apologise and move on- blurting like that was stupid and overreacting was stupid.

Nope.
I am always reminded of a TV show I watched- think it was House - and the advice to a warring couple was: sometimes two people just don't get on.

She can't change but he shouldn't be expected to tolerate it, either.

The enormous stress of living with her will probably send him to an early grave if he continues to do so.
This was probably an 'enough!' moment.
(Interesting how his relatives's just taken him in. They must be aware of how it is for him.)

Constant chaos and misunderstandings.

A day that goes as planned is a rare event.
Peace is a rarity. Simple pleasures impossible in their presence.
No just settling down to watch TV feet up in peace.

And the unsympathetic response to the male of the situation!

Sounds like there’s more to it from this and this is the straw that broke the camel’s back for him.

I see the usual advice to ADHD people is doing the rounds. In essence: "Have you tried NOT having ADHD?".

You're not alone OP. I did a similar thing with "Andrew's been arrested".

@Sassylovesbooks that's a lovely and humane post. I learn a lot from Mumsnetters like you - I hope your recovery is going well 💗💐

Assumptions. We often refer to celebrities in our household just by their first name. For instance recently it hs been katie -price, venezuela, Paris, tyson -fury, val-kilmer, jack- black. And anyone who was very "big" in our family would be Alan-Davies, Michael-Jaclson, David- Tenant.

Oh FFS this bot thing again. 🙄

At no point did she say hes waiting to hear if she's died.

It sounds as if this incident is the 'nail in the coffin', to what is a long line of incidents of a similar nature. Yes, your husband may have over-reacted but it's because he's upset about his Mum being poorly and the fact you say things without thinking, it's made that reaction worse.

I've had a brain injury OP, and it means I simply say what I am thinking on occasions. I would never deliberately upset someone. However, I know I can do this, and therefore it means I have to make myself think before I open my mouth. Yes, it can be emotionally draining at times, because I have to work out if what I want to say, might upset someone. I have social awareness though, and perhaps that makes a difference, is that something you struggle with? You need to seek some professional help, from someone who may be able to help you with strategies. I absolutely appreciate it must be difficult for you, but you have to understand the impact of your behaviour too.

All you can do is profoundly apologise. You need to actively seek some help though too, to at least try and help yourself.

@PoppinjayPolly It's not about whether the majority of posts are supportive or critical.

There's a flattening of tone - with different posters making the same points in similar ways, without the variation in phrasing and tone within positions that we used to see even three or four years ago.

And it means the thread as a whole lacks texture, provides a flatter overall perspective, and the conversation doesn't feel as if it's moving forward.

There were 2 in my class at school. It was a fairly usual name in that era.
It's become less popular over the past decades

Google tells me it was in the top 30 in the 50/60s so there were a lot about.
Many shortened to Judy I expect.

Bots? Why because those responses aren’t “what a bastard he is you poor love!!”
confused by the need to “rebalance the thread” do you mean, “why should people be able to have a different opinion than mine!!”

Yeah. I think it's really odd that you would say Judith has died when your partners mum is called Judith and currently really ill in HDU.
That sounds like you are extremely insensitive and unthinking at best, and I'd be suspecting that it was malicious

How many Judiths do you know? I only of Judith Chalmers

There were 2 in my class at school. It was a fairly usual name in that era.
It's become less popular over the past decades.

Totally agree.

The man needs peace, quiet and calm.

Probably the straw that broke the camel's back.

For both their sakes, he should probably stay away for good.

I agree. I got the notification too and said to my husband Judith Chalmers has died. She was well known when we were young but always known by her full name.Nevrr just Judith. I'm not surprised your husband was upset

@Monty36 That's reasonable of course. I was just trying to rebalance the thread. I suspect some of the posts are from bots, which would tend to raise the overall temperature.

This ND people don't have to change just to suit NT people.
but bet you don’t agree the reverse!