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To ask neighbour to pay son more?

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SunIsOutAgain · 23/05/2026 18:53

My neighbour asked my 14 year old to do some jobs in the garden today. Cutting the lawn, taking back some hedges, tidying etc.

He is fairly competent at these things and it took him 2.5 hours. I would expect an adult could do it in 2, but it wasn't an especially small job.

She gave him £15 and he was a bit disappointed as he was hoping for 20. He said he didn't clarify the pay before starting (obviously an error that we've now discussed for next time).

It was very hot here today, which doesn't change the value of the work but does affect how he felt when he had finished!

Is this a reasonable amount of money? Should i speak to her?

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HalfasleepChrisintheMorning · 24/05/2026 07:39

DS14 is going to do garden jobs for his Grandma today and we have said £10 an hour
However IME my mum (78) always underestimates how much things should cost, perhaps this lady is the same.

oblada · 24/05/2026 07:33

Some of you are living in fantasy land and encouraging your children to do the same. Real life may come as a shock.
My child would have been happy with any amount of money at that age as she would have done it first to genuinely help and second for pocket money, no matter how small the amount. She helps coach the younger cohort at her club and gets a tenner a week. She probably spends well in excess of 3 hours a week coaching but she loves it, it gives her fantastic life skills and she's at the club loads in any event to practice herself. She's happy and I'm happy. She is 14 so below the NMW (and the age of being able to legally work!). When she babysits her siblings she does it because she enjoys it and will be happy with any amount of money I give her (or none at all if it came to that).
15 quids for a child to do some gardening is fine to me. Not sure what I would have done in the neighbours shoes (probably asked my own children and not pay them) but it's not worth falling over on. Yes good life lesson re outlining expectations in advance.
But anyone who thinks a child should get 15 quids an hour is setting their child up for a huge shock when real life kicks in.
And i say that as i do know i am bringing up my kids in a very privileged way so I have to consciously make efforts to ensure they don't take it all for granted. I don't think they do.

FaceIt · 24/05/2026 07:28

If he did a really good job and it took him 2.5 hours, personally I would have given him £20 and that would have been well worth it in my opinion.

If she asks again, say his rate is £20

TallSturdyGirl · 24/05/2026 07:27

MissMoneyFairy · 23/05/2026 19:18

How much do you think is fair, it's not easy especially when it's hot, and if you have to keep emptying the box or rake up the cuttings. An adult would probably change £60 an hour where I live.

Its not hard to cut a lawn with an electric mower! £60 an hour is bonkers. I need to change profession.

LoftyCoralBird · 24/05/2026 07:22

Just tell her his rate is £8 per hour next time she requests work

Sartre · 24/05/2026 07:19

I think £15 is really mean. Two young kids turned up at our door one day asking if he wanted our car cleaning for a fiver. I let them do it and paid them a tenner. £15 for a teenager who spent 2.5 hours sorting someone’s garden out is tight, I would have paid double.

BananaPeels · 24/05/2026 07:12

If it were a one off, I’d have given at least £20, probably £30. I had some kids offer to wash my car for a tenner but I gave them a tenner each. I love to see young teens trying to earn a bit of money.

i would be my son the extra £5 myself

tommyhoundmum · 24/05/2026 07:10

MissMoneyFairy · 23/05/2026 19:18

How much do you think is fair, it's not easy especially when it's hot, and if you have to keep emptying the box or rake up the cuttings. An adult would probably change £60 an hour where I live.

I'm in central London and our gardener charges £20 an hour.

SeeYouThroughACameraFlash · 24/05/2026 03:44

Your neighbour is a tight bastard. I’d definitely mention it and advise your son to be upfront about what he charges in future. Too many people will take advantage.

OutOfSynnc · 24/05/2026 01:34

They have underpaid.

I think it's too late now, but if they ask again your son could say, he will do it for X amount.

Brokentoes85 · 24/05/2026 01:23

Well she's ripped him off hasn't she. I would expect it to be about 30 quid. However I don't think you can say anything now its done.

Brokentoes85 · 24/05/2026 01:21

CeciliaMars · 23/05/2026 19:18

The minimum wage for under 16s is £8 an hour, so really he should have early £20. But I’d not say anything this time and sort it out in advance next time. I think the parent paying their kid £30 for 60-90 minutes of mowing the lawn is setting their child up for huge wage disappointment when they actually get a job!

There is no min wage for under 16s. Minimum wage starts at 16.

ReadingSoManyThreads · 24/05/2026 01:19

"a man's job"?? @TheyGrewUp oh wow, I best stop doing 'men's work' then and pay a man to do all the gardening work that I've always done 🙄

Friendlygingercat · 24/05/2026 01:05

Yes, chalk it up to experience this time. Next time your son will need to get his big boy pants on. If he feels a bit blindsided at the time of the request he can always delay by asking "what exactly do you want me to do so I can give you a price thats fair for my time." This is a polite and business way to do things and gives him time to think.

Im always saddened that the likes of neighbours and relatives seek to take advantage (particularly of young people) by trying to pay mates rates. Or even get things done for free. I have always found that offering to "give you a price" is a good way to be rid of neighbours/relatives trying to scrounge a freebie when they would pay £££ for a professional service.

TheyGrewUp · 24/05/2026 00:44

ShetlandishMum · 23/05/2026 22:12

It's not an adult.

He doesn't pay any taxes I suppose.

Yes, I have paid him a bit more for 2.5 hours work and I would have been upfront about pay - but quite often young people expect too much of moonlighting.

"It". I think you meant he. How rude.

I pay our gardener £30ph which is v gkod value here.

The lad should have been paid £30 for the job. He may be 14 but he's still done a man's job and heavy labour is heavy labour.

It's highly unlikely he'll meet the threshold for tax.

Besafeeatcake · 24/05/2026 00:41

SunIsOutAgain · 23/05/2026 22:17

Now i know the min wage for teenagers is £8 i have a sensible guide. I don't think he should overcharge of course.

He definately doesnt pay tax as he is a long way below the earnings threshold😀

Edited

OP the minimum wage is for over 16 as there isn’t an official minimum wage for a 14 year old.

Yeah it can be a guide but the only person at fault here is your son for not agreeing the money in the first place. A good lesson to learn.

What if she had paid him £5?

Meadowfinch · 24/05/2026 00:37

A 16-17yo could have done the work in two hours, and NMW for that age group is £8 an hour, or £16 for the whole job. Your ds14 was paid £15.

If you intervene, she may not ask him to do any jobs again and you'll likely damage the NDN relationship.

I'd leave it this time, but encourage your ds to set a price before starting work in future.

BooneyBeautiful · 24/05/2026 00:36

NDN's 17 year old DS did three hours work for me last year (just odd jobs). I paid him £10 an hour which was more than NMW for his age. She rang me afterwards and told me off for giving him too much money, but I thought it was a fair amount and he seemed to be happy.

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 24/05/2026 00:30

Pelvicpaininthebum · 23/05/2026 19:19

Minimum wage for 16 year olds is £8 per hour, so £6 for a 14 year old sounds about right. Though definitely clarify the pay next time!!

I agree. A valuable lessons learned about contracting work!

NameChangeScot · 24/05/2026 00:25

tripleginandtonic · 23/05/2026 21:22

£15 an hour is more than minimum wage.

Who says it's only worth minimum wage?

I don't believe minimum wage should be based on age, if we're prepared to pay someone for a job that rate should stand regardless of their age. It should be based on skill and expirence and the job being completed to a good standard. Paying young people less just because they are young is unjust and exploitative.

The real living wage is £13.45ph outside of London.

CoverLikelyZebra · 23/05/2026 23:11

Don't ask for more money for the work already done. Your son should treat this as a valuable learning experience to agree a price beforehand that he will be happy with and don't start working till the price is agreed

SunIsOutAgain · 23/05/2026 22:17

ShetlandishMum · 23/05/2026 22:12

It's not an adult.

He doesn't pay any taxes I suppose.

Yes, I have paid him a bit more for 2.5 hours work and I would have been upfront about pay - but quite often young people expect too much of moonlighting.

Now i know the min wage for teenagers is £8 i have a sensible guide. I don't think he should overcharge of course.

He definately doesnt pay tax as he is a long way below the earnings threshold😀

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ShetlandishMum · 23/05/2026 22:12

Mistymaglets · 23/05/2026 21:57

15 quid for two and a half hours work?????
She is a tight arse cheeky fucker.
6 quid per hour in the sun?
There's no way any adult would work for that so she has taken massive advantage of your son.
Doesn't matter whether or not you agreed the price beforehand, no self respecting adult should take the piss out of a kid this way.

It's not an adult.

He doesn't pay any taxes I suppose.

Yes, I have paid him a bit more for 2.5 hours work and I would have been upfront about pay - but quite often young people expect too much of moonlighting.

Mistymaglets · 23/05/2026 21:57

15 quid for two and a half hours work?????
She is a tight arse cheeky fucker.
6 quid per hour in the sun?
There's no way any adult would work for that so she has taken massive advantage of your son.
Doesn't matter whether or not you agreed the price beforehand, no self respecting adult should take the piss out of a kid this way.

Theoldwrinkley · 23/05/2026 21:53

Can he come and cut my hedge? I had gardener in today. I agreed price beforehand, thought it a bit steep but he quoted £200. It needed to be done definitely by Friday, preferably by Tuesday. I thought it would take about 4 hours. He was finished within 90 mins. Good job, all tidied etc, and I know he has to pay for vehicle, equipment, insurance, his workers tax and NI etc, but what a rate per hour!