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SunIsOutAgain · 23/05/2026 18:53

My neighbour asked my 14 year old to do some jobs in the garden today. Cutting the lawn, taking back some hedges, tidying etc.

He is fairly competent at these things and it took him 2.5 hours. I would expect an adult could do it in 2, but it wasn't an especially small job.

She gave him £15 and he was a bit disappointed as he was hoping for 20. He said he didn't clarify the pay before starting (obviously an error that we've now discussed for next time).

It was very hot here today, which doesn't change the value of the work but does affect how he felt when he had finished!

Is this a reasonable amount of money? Should i speak to her?

OP posts:
GreenWheat · 24/05/2026 09:13

You can't go back and ask for more now. The key is to be clear upfront. Is he doing it as a favour for free, or expecting payment, and if so, how much? You can't really expect other people to know this. As long as everyone knows the score before he starts, you'll be fine.

Offherrockingchair · 24/05/2026 09:11

What a tightwad! I wouldn’t work for the neighbour again and if they ask why, say you were disappointed at how mean she was when paying him. He’d have been better off doing a bit of reselling on Vinted for the time and effort involved.

Lovingapeacefulgarden · 24/05/2026 09:10

My 14 year old cuts our grass ( i strip it as we have loads of chips near our windows). It takes about an hour and I give him £10. I hate cutting grass, dh gets awful hay-fever and ds wants to earn some money so it works for us all)

Nightingalemoonshine · 24/05/2026 09:09

I don’t think it’s that bad - teens don’t have any living costs - and they don’t do things as well as adults do. My son was cutting lawns for £7.50 a go when he was 15, 2 years ago. Now he’s large no one blinks at paying him more. He gets £20 but he does the job properly!

BananaPeels · 24/05/2026 09:07

WeatherOrNothing · 24/05/2026 07:52

Why on earth are you paying your child to cut the lawn in his own house? I completely disagree with paying for chores though. In our home, everyone contributes - for the kids it’s their time. I have a 10yo ds who is now able to see something needed to be done and does it regardless of whose ‘chore’ it should be.
Teaches them to do something not only for a benefit!

What a joke paying £30 to someone for doing something in his own house!

How do they earn pocket money then? I pay my children for jobs such as this otherwise how would they get money to go out with their mates?

BananaPeels · 24/05/2026 09:05

Backpain2026 · 24/05/2026 08:40

There's no minimum wage for under 16, but 16 is £8 an hour.

You said an adult should be able to do it in two hours, so two hours pay seems fair. So would expect £16.

So £15 is not far off.

But a good lesson for him to agree pay before next time and say he will do it again but wants £20.

By it the point of the minimum wage for younger people is you are paying less as they are less experienced. This was a manual labour job which the child did to same standard as an adult. It just took him a bit longer. I would have paid the teen the same as if I had paid an adult to do it. If it was a big clearing job in heat, somewhere between £20-30 for the whole job (regardless of how long it took) would seen reasonable in my view.

Viviennemary · 24/05/2026 09:04

It was mean. But I wouldn't say anything. But dont let him do any more jobs for her.

PepsiBook · 24/05/2026 09:00

The neighbour has taken the piss paying him so little, but, as he didn't agree a price beforehand I don't think you should ask for more.
Let him learn how you must negotiate a price before you do any work.

coolcahuna · 24/05/2026 08:56

My son is 17 and charges £10 an hour for gardening etc for a nice neighbour. She rounds it up so he's never had less than £20. Also provides food, cakes and drinks so he's happy with that. The key is to set the rate.

SalmonOnFinnCrisp · 24/05/2026 08:44

Awwww good for him!
In this heat i think your neighbour was stingey!!!!

I'd give him the fiver.

Next time explain he needs to be clear upfront and say "its £10 pr hour charged by the quarter hour.".or send them to you BEFORE doing anything.

Bitzee · 24/05/2026 08:41

OP there isn’t actually a minimum wage for under 16s. £8 per hour is for 16-18YOs. I’d still think £6 an hour wasn’t really enough for physical labour in the hot sun but minimum wage doesn’t come into it. Hopefully he’s learned a valuable lesson from this: agree a set price or an hourly rate up front before starting work. That’s really on him so no don’t go and speak to the neighbour or cause and awkward situation. It might not even be a malicious attempt to stiff so much as just being oblivious to how expensive everything is these days!

Backpain2026 · 24/05/2026 08:40

There's no minimum wage for under 16, but 16 is £8 an hour.

You said an adult should be able to do it in two hours, so two hours pay seems fair. So would expect £16.

So £15 is not far off.

But a good lesson for him to agree pay before next time and say he will do it again but wants £20.

LiveLuvLaugh · 24/05/2026 08:39

If your neighbour asked him because she cannot do these or easily do jobs herself because she is older or disabled, I think your son did a kind and neighbourly thing for a token of her appreciation and I can see that asking ahead would be awkward. If she asked him because she wants to employ someone to do something she does not choose to do herself then £15 for 2.5 hours work is unfair and taking advantage.

ElleShapiro · 24/05/2026 08:31

I think the price sounds fine. But next time maybe just tell him to state price first

hididdlyho · 24/05/2026 08:30

Can you afford to give him the extra fiver? It's a bit awkward to ask the neighbour now if a price wasn't agreed before the work started. It could be the neighbour is out of touch with minimum wage, rather than being deliberately tight.

It's good that he's being resourceful, if he's wanting to do more odd jobs for people, I would coach him how to go about politely agreeing the price first. I imagine a lot of people would be happy to tip him a bit extra.

Esmeraldathe3rd · 24/05/2026 08:25

NameChangeScot · 23/05/2026 19:10

Yeah that's shit, but he should have agreed the price beforehand. You can't go asking for more money now it's done.

My ds15 is going to cut our (very small) lawn tomorrow for £30. It'll probably take him an hour, or 90mins max. That's probably quite a lot for his age and experience but he wants a particular item so this was the way to help him earn it.

I'd say £15 an hour would be going rate for a teen, or £20-£25 for a an adult.

Edited

25 quid an hour? You got any jobs going?

Notmyreality · 24/05/2026 08:22

Some of these responses. Shows how many people haven’t got a clue as to the value of work and expect something for nothing.

OP write it off to experience and he has learned something today.

Owly11 · 24/05/2026 08:19

SunIsOutAgain · 23/05/2026 19:24

Oh i didn't know there were minimum wages for kids, that is extremely helpful!

I agree that the amount needs agreeing in advance but I wasnt there. I will definately make sure I am with him next to to help manage the situation.

Thanks for the input!

No, don't be with him next time that would be undermining and communicate that he needs you and can't manage it himself. He has learnt a lesson this time so let him manage it himself next time. That's the start of learning independence, motivation and self directedness. There's no reason why he should have known to ask for money in advance this time but his disappointment will help him know how he wants to manage it next time.

BatFinkk · 24/05/2026 08:14

I’d chuck him an extra tenner myself and learn for next time

ChocolateCinderToffee · 24/05/2026 08:12

MargaretThursday · 23/05/2026 19:30

And 60-90 minutes to cut a "small lawn". Either we have different ideas as to what small is or he's doing it with nail scissors! 🤣

Indeed! I have a small lawn and it takes me 20 minutes to cut it.

Bushmillsbabe · 24/05/2026 08:00

I would probably expect him to be paid £20 for that- 2.5 x £8

I wouldn't be with him next time he talks to her though, but enable him to calmly and politely discuss with neighbour himself

WeatherOrNothing · 24/05/2026 07:52

NameChangeScot · 23/05/2026 19:10

Yeah that's shit, but he should have agreed the price beforehand. You can't go asking for more money now it's done.

My ds15 is going to cut our (very small) lawn tomorrow for £30. It'll probably take him an hour, or 90mins max. That's probably quite a lot for his age and experience but he wants a particular item so this was the way to help him earn it.

I'd say £15 an hour would be going rate for a teen, or £20-£25 for a an adult.

Edited

Why on earth are you paying your child to cut the lawn in his own house? I completely disagree with paying for chores though. In our home, everyone contributes - for the kids it’s their time. I have a 10yo ds who is now able to see something needed to be done and does it regardless of whose ‘chore’ it should be.
Teaches them to do something not only for a benefit!

What a joke paying £30 to someone for doing something in his own house!

PotatoBreadForTheWin · 24/05/2026 07:47

Astonished at all the people who think she has underpaid or taken the piss, it sounds about right to me. My 16 year old works coaching sports and gets £15 for 1.5-2 hours work which he’s very happy with.

OhBettyCalmDown · 24/05/2026 07:47

I don’t think you should say anything this time but chalk it up to a lesson learnt and next time he’s asked he will know to agree to a rate upfront.

Thechaseison71 · 24/05/2026 07:39

NameChangeScot · 23/05/2026 19:10

Yeah that's shit, but he should have agreed the price beforehand. You can't go asking for more money now it's done.

My ds15 is going to cut our (very small) lawn tomorrow for £30. It'll probably take him an hour, or 90mins max. That's probably quite a lot for his age and experience but he wants a particular item so this was the way to help him earn it.

I'd say £15 an hour would be going rate for a teen, or £20-£25 for a an adult.

Edited

Really? Many adults on minimum wage don't get near £15anhpir ne er mond a school kid

But £15 for the amount of work on such a hot day is a pisstake. £25 would've been more acceptable