MIL let DD aged 5 get sunburned but DH thinks we should just be grateful she had her and gave her a nice time.

Whether the chance is low or not is not the point, there is still a chance and you just never know. Melanoma is no joke and isn't something to be blasé about.

My husband's family were never very attentive with this sort of thing when he was a child and he developed melanoma aged 29.

message her thank you but dd is quite badly sunburnt, did she reapply? Old suncreams can go off. Important she knows for next time.

Get your husband to send the photo!! saying please Mum next time you have daughter Please keep applying sunscreen she’s fairer than we thought…. I don’t see a problem with sending that

Idc if it’s harsh, I wouldn’t leave my child with someone who didn’t know they have to reapply sunscreen to a child. It’s not like it’s new info. A little burn where you’ve missed a bit is one thing, but if she’s come back with a lot of burn that’s not great.

@LeopardPants What ridiculous logic (or lack of) is this? We all burned to a crisp and idiots pay to get burned to a crisp in salons, so your daughter can too?

It's ridiculous logic because it's not what I said. My stance is that tanning is for twats, deliberately getting sun burned is for twats, and everyone who goes outside to lie on the ground every time it's sunny is a twat.

My perspective is that no one needs to lose their shit, or lose any sleep, over a single instance of sunburn. As I already said, there are other things that are far more harmful such as twats who idle their cars in supermarket car parks, but no one says anything about that.

The correct course of action is to ensure that sun cream is always applied in future and certainly not to worry about it.

Its also entirely possible your MIL did put cream on her but her own cream which may have been years old and out of date. So many people don't realise they become far less effective over time.

Might be better to ask if she reapplied and if yes, how often and what cream she used. Then you can have the appropriate conversation about expiry, reapplication etc.

30c if my weather app is to believed. Definitely hot enough to burn.

Not unreasonable that’s neglect.

WildMauveReader · Today 16:44
If your child is in pain then your mil feelings take second place. Send the message.

It's not about the pain. It's about the fact that we've known for years that one single episode of sunburn as a child can lead to skin cancer in the future. I'm amazed how cavalier Northern Europeans are about the dangers...we in the Antipodes have been putting our school kids in hats, have sunsails in the playgrounds, compulsory sunscreen, for eons. My DC are in their late 40s now, and wore a hat and sunscreen every single day. Even then, my DD has had a solar keratosis removed from her eyebrow. Give MIL a bloody good lecture about her carelessness in regard to her DGC's health.

Hope your daughter is OK @Sophiehoney

If she's in a lot of pain then Calpol will help, or children's ibuprofen is even better.

You must be trolling.

It was 28°c today where I am, from the look of the adults in the Co-Op this evening, it definitely was enough to get very burnt.

It’s May! 🤦🏻‍♀️
Shes possibly in the UK!!
God knows what people are going to do if they ever go abroad in July & August if they’re this dramatic about the crappy weather in the UK 🤣🤦🏻‍♀️

Are they in the UK?
The sun is not strong if they are!

Expecting a young child to prevent sunburn.

Teaching responsibilities is not the same as allowing them to get hurt.

The fact you think it is ok for a young child to get sunburn, and that you think it is their fault, is all I need to know about you.

I’d be furious. I’m very particular about sun cream/protection, I lost my sibling to skin cancer at a young age. I don’t think many people take the risks seriously enough in the UK.

But don’t send the passive aggressive message. I would ask DH to mention that you were both concerned DD was burnt, and you really want to make sure it doesn’t happen again.

i find Ultrasun a good once a day one. More expensive, but it doesn’t need applied so frequently and it’s served me well in some very hot holidays (I’m very pale and can start to burn in 10 minutes in hot sun).

Is she very fair skinned? Even adults can misjudged how much sun cream they need on themselves particularly if it is the first time out in the sun that year, so i wouldn't get too upset over a single incident. What spf did she have on?

OP has said the swimming was spontaneous. You can’t pack a rash vest for something you didn’t know was happening.

I’m sure I saw on the news that skin cancer is now the most common cancer in the UK 🤷‍♀️

I would be really pissed off too, but as others have said she should have been in a rash vest. Nest thing to help prevent sun burn. I would be mentioning it to mother in law though in case it happens in future.

I can't use the once a day sunscreen, DD is allergic to all but one. She has rash vest/shorts when we're outside the UK and, depending on the weather here too. If we're in the shade then occasionally regular costume/pants. I'm picking up a paddling pool tomorrow, it's rash vest or not going in as I haven't got a parasol yet! XH would be speaking to XMIL or I would. I'd speak to my own mum but would be amazed if it happened for either of them.

No excuses is there really? The basic care of dc when it's sunny. Apply suncream.
What other basics doesn't she do? I'd be livid. And dh needs to be tending to dc if he won't call his dm out he can deal with her consequences.. When he realises how poorly dd is he might just send a message to her himself..

What ridiculous logic (or lack of) is this? We all burned to a crisp and idiots pay to get burned to a crisp in salons, so your daughter can too?

ETA I would be pissed off and something should be said. It’s irrelevant that she may or may not have known that suncream should be reapplied (but agree with a PP that would have had to live under a rock in recent years to miss that memo) but she’s damaged your daughter’s skin.

I would mention that she needs to top up sunscreen especially on the back of the neck and shoulders, there is nothing fun above sunburn, it’s very painful.
She should have known better.

Skin damage is very bad at any age. I'm quite old now but my back has large black raised moles from sun damage when I was young (there wasn't any type of sun cream then). Please make sure all the children have at least a top on (even a very thin one) and ask for the paddling pool to be kept in the shade all of the time for everyone's good. It's a good idea for everyone to have the sun cream available all the time, i.e. on the table. Teach your young ones how to put it on: It's fun to have it on your face, arms, legs really thick.

Do not send that message. It needs to be a face to face conversation in the first instance. I take sun protection really seriously and it’s for that reason I’d want a face to face.

Not because I’d be dramatic but because I would want to be sure that I had made my concerns/wishes around it really clear.