MIL let DD aged 5 get sunburned but DH thinks we should just be grateful she had her and gave her a nice time.

I agree, sounds like his first loyalty is to mummy.

@TomatoSandwiches There was plenty of information about the dangers of not wearing sunscreen in the 90s there was a song about it fgs.

Again, not to the same extent as today.

Long-Term Consequences

Skin Cancer Risk: One blistering sunburn in childhood can nearly double a person's lifetime risk of developing melanoma.

Multiple childhood sunburns further elevate this risk.

Mole Development: Early UV exposure is strongly linked to an increased number of moles and atypical mole changes, which are direct risk factors for melanoma.

Premature Aging: UV damage breaks down collagen early and reduces skin elasticity, leading to premature wrinkles, fine lines, and sunspots in later life.

Suppressed Immunity: Because a child’s immune system is still developing, fighting off persistent UV exposure can weaken it, making them generally more susceptible to illnesses.

Because children have thinner skin and less melanin than adults, they burn easily

I’m fully aware of that, it doesn’t change it. Calm down. Back away from the thread if you find yourself becoming aggressive

Op yoire going to habe to quantify how bad this is, as people are getting more and more hysterical , now she’s to go to a&e, she won’t be able to sleep, she will be very sickly and she will get hear stroke. It’s because you said she’s in pain.

howver from your husbands reaction I’m hazarding a guess it’s not that bad, and that’s why he doesn’t want to guilt trip his mother.

There was plenty of information about the dangers of not wearing sunscreen in the 90s there was a song about it fgs.

Definitely put children in rash vests for this type of play - and if it’s no planned then you definitely either have to consistently be reapplying sunscreen or you don’t do that type of play. Sunburn is not okay in this day and age. However - don’t trash your relationship with your mother in law over this, it’s all about how you approach it.

Read OPs posts. Swimming / being in water was not the plan

I grew up in the nineties and my parents were very sun aware. I always wore Factor 50 and never got burned.
That's unusual. Back then, there was not nearly the same awareness about sun burn as today.

I was born in '76 my mother was borderline obsessive about sumscreen

That's absolutely awful. Sun burn is cumulative and your MIL has really caused a harm
I'd speak to her...take the photos in case she reacts as if it's nothing. It isn’t

I think your H needs to talk to his mum.

If your daughter is really badly burned, this is serious.

We can't see her so it could be mild redness or it could be deeper burns.

Your MIL is incredibly stupid. The temp is around 28-30C today and no way should a child of 5 be exposed to that for any time at all.

DH says no, it will just make her feel bad and make us seem ungrateful and what's done is done now

He sounds awful, worse than MIL.

You need to keep an eye on her.

This could be serious and if there is any sign of blisters you need to go to A&E.

Wow.

This could have happened so quickly op and she could have been lathered up. I was out for about 30 mins and I started to burn, and a child’s skin is very sensitive. There is every chance she was re applying the sun cream

she should have been in a rash vest.

How grateful should you be that she just put your kid at risk for skin cancer? That's stupid. Your MIL fucked up big time, neglected to do a basic task, and your daughter is hurt.

She needs to be told your daughter is badly sunburned because she didn't do something as basic as reapply sunscreen to a young kid out in the sun and water all day.

Your husband is afraid to hurt his mother's feelings but she physically hurt your daughter through neglect. It can't happen again.

Don't send a photo and message. If there's a next time just a verbal reminder with the fact she was burnt this time

Was MIL on her own? How many kids was MIL looking after and what are the others ages?
We are quite active and my husband is very hands on but quite frankly we would find it quite difficult to look after 3 young kids all day around water. We would have to apply suncream and check the kids didn’t slip/drown. Young children often don’t like suncream being put on and you have to spend ages persuading them. One of us would have to leave for a while to get lunch.
We regularly look after 2 but 3 is too much unless they are inside playing with toys.
OP, you really cannot let your kid get sunburnt. Get one of those cover up UV resistant swimsuits and a big hat if you intend to let your MIL look after your child again in the sun.

@tiramisugelato The risk isn't actually low at all.

Half of the UK population gets sun burned each year. Every time there's a heat wave, every twat in the country goes outside and deliberately lies underneath the sun. I have no idea why they do it, but they do. The point is that sun burn is common, and yet, few people get skin cancer. So a single instance of sun burn would not be cause for concern.

DD is far more likely to experience illness later in life as a result of exposure to air pollution, because every twat in the UK buys an excessively large car and deliberately leaves their engine running in supermarket car parks. Why is that not an issue?

There's a reason so many people in their 50's are having skin cancers removed.

Numbers are still low overall, and those people in their 50s would have been sun burned many times during their lives.

I grew up in the nineties and my parents were very sun aware. I always wore Factor 50 and never got burned.

That's unusual. Back then, there was not nearly the same awareness about sun burn as today.

I'm not sure why the fact that some people use sunbeds is relevant, either?

That's not a question.

You don't understand the connection between UV from a sun bed and UV from the sun? Strange.

I would be furious

Your DH needs to stop prioritising his mum's 'feelings' over your daughter's pain

I’ve said YANBU because you didn’t know paddling pool was a plan.
If you had known I’m sure you wouldn’t have relied on sunscreen and instead would have sent long sleeved rash vest and hat.

I mean I’m an adult and I’ve burnt myself from not reapplying sun cream enough when in and out of water.

these days I weat a rash vest myself.

isn’t the guideline something like reapplysvery 30 mins if in water?

I also remember a time when I took my children and one friend out to an outdoor pool and was very careful about sunscreen for all of them. Except somehow the friend still got burned even with the sunscreen his mother provided and I put on. My children were fine.

For gods sake.

The water reflects it as well. I’d have hee in a rash vest.