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To think some people never heal because being the victim gives them identity?

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TraumaAsPersonality · 23/05/2026 16:29

If healing means losing the story, some cling to the wound.

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Upsetbetty · 23/05/2026 16:30

Yep I know someone who is always the victim, loves the victims and everything about victim stories etc…it’s fucking tiring. Impossible to have an actual good conversation with them!

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