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I'll get the salmon

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wand3rer · 23/05/2026 15:55

Any tiny little habits that make you feel a bit more “put together”?

For example, in a restaurant I’ll just say “I’ll get the salmon” instead of reading out the whole dish name exactly as it’s written on the menu (“salmon with roasted potatoes and vegetables”).

It’s such a ridiculously small thing but it makes me feel smoother 😎😂

What else?

OP posts:
wavestofind · 23/05/2026 17:22

'Please can I have the salmon en croute'. With proper French pronunciation oc.

wavestofind · 23/05/2026 17:21

SharonBe · 23/05/2026 17:03

"May I have the salmon, please?" or "May I have the salmon with x, please?" if more than one choice. No one reads the whole description. If the waitstaff need further clarification they'll ask.

Now this is odd.
'May'? You are not a child asking permission.

Splooterer · 23/05/2026 17:20

wand3rer · 23/05/2026 15:55

Any tiny little habits that make you feel a bit more “put together”?

For example, in a restaurant I’ll just say “I’ll get the salmon” instead of reading out the whole dish name exactly as it’s written on the menu (“salmon with roasted potatoes and vegetables”).

It’s such a ridiculously small thing but it makes me feel smoother 😎😂

What else?

@wand3rer "I'll get the salmon" sounds like you are going out to catch it.

No one ever reads the complete description of a dish do they?

wavestofind · 23/05/2026 17:19

Please can I have the Salmon, if anything. Much better to read out the dish name imo. Just saying I get the chicken, salmon, lamb sounds unrefined to me.

I opened this thread thinking it was a husband that had been sent to the supermarket and either didn't return for hours or bought the worn thing.

disappointed

UhOhRatPoo · 23/05/2026 17:18

JFYI OP, there is one context in which “get” is a very good thing to say in a restaurant- saying “I’ll get this” - because it means you are paying for everyone!

CoralOP · 23/05/2026 17:18

PleasantPedant · 23/05/2026 17:14

Who rattled your cage?

Most of us read the OP then posted.

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I would say the' lovely' people on this thread did. I don't know how so many people can see a question then think to themselves oh I must correct this person, how dare they use incorrect grammar.

It's so wierd when as a generally happy go lucky person you come across so many people who see the negative in life, how they rush to tell someone they are wrong over something that wasn't even what the post was about, baffling! But back to it people, bitch away, whatever floats your boat!

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 23/05/2026 17:16

I’ll have the salmon, please.

‘Get’ is all wrong here!

Mithral · 23/05/2026 17:15

Can everyone telling OP it sounded like she was fetching the salmon herself explain to me what they think when someone asks them what they got for Christmas?

Contrary to the midwits' understanding there is a not a built in reflexive in the verb to get.

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Who rattled your cage?

Most of us read the OP then posted.

MyAutumnCrow · 23/05/2026 17:14

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Maybe they like the misery?

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Russiandollsaresofullofthemselves · 23/05/2026 17:10

Whoever told you “i’ll get” was correct was wrong. it’s rude. “May I have” would be preferred or even “I would like”

You don't sound put together at all and I would purposely give you the bare minimum customer service if you ordered like that.

UhOhRatPoo · 23/05/2026 17:09

wand3rer · 23/05/2026 16:11

Oh, that's interesting! I'm not British. Until recently, I would have used 'I'll have the salmon'. But I was told that 'I'll get' is actually the right phrasing in the UK

@PoppieCock @likelysuspect @BeardySchnauzer

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It is not. Who told you, AI?

BeardySchnauzer · 23/05/2026 17:09

That reminds me of a friend who ordered the Caesar salad with no chicken, Parmesan, dressing or anchovies. The waiter said ‘why are you coming to a restaurant if you just want lettuce leaves - order a proper meal’

and she did! We all had pizzas!

eggandonion · 23/05/2026 17:06

Like @Terriblytwee my husband will want a burger with no cheese and no onions and replace the skinny fries with chunky fries. His orders take ages.

W0tnow · 23/05/2026 17:05

Terriblytwee · 23/05/2026 16:51

My husband could be ordering a cheese sandwich and he’d still hold up the menu and point to it whilst reading out cheese sandwich from the menu. I judge hard.

I feel seen. ❤️

SharonBe · 23/05/2026 17:03

"May I have the salmon, please?" or "May I have the salmon with x, please?" if more than one choice. No one reads the whole description. If the waitstaff need further clarification they'll ask.

Pancakeflipper · 23/05/2026 17:03

Get the salmon. ????
But you aren't getting the salmon. You'd like the salmon, but the restaurant has done the stuff to get it so it can be served to customers.

PumpkinsAndCoconuts · 23/05/2026 17:02

Taking the time to properly coordinate an outfit when there is no particular event or occasion.
Which probably makes me sound like an absolute mess. 😅

But when I have time and energy to truly consider all outfit options, coordinate bag, shoes, hairstyle etc. when I’m not going to a particular event? Simply for running errands, going shopping, meeting an old friend?
It’s such a lovely and “put together” feeling.

hellogoodbyeandseeyou · 23/05/2026 17:02

I thought this would be a fashion thread. Confusing.

BeardySchnauzer · 23/05/2026 17:01

Well I just asked my teen and she said she would say ‘please can I get’ and countered that the waiter says ‘what can I get you?’ - I thought the answer should then be ‘please can you get..’ and she told me I was embarrassing and went back to whatever she was doing

Lifeomars · 23/05/2026 17:01

It's grammatically incorrect. To "get the salmon," you would have to enter the kitchen, put the salmon on a plate, and take it to your table. I would say "Please may I have the salmon" polite, concise and to the point

Yellowpapersun · 23/05/2026 17:01

I assumed your post was going to be about someone offering to go to the fishmonger or supermarket.
I'd say 'I'll have the salmon please".

Daffodilsinthespring · 23/05/2026 16:59

You won’t get the salmon, you would like the salmon. The waiter will get you the salmon

Bulbsbulbsbulbs · 23/05/2026 16:59

Unless you are the waiter in this scenario you aren't getting the salmon. Saying "I'll get the salmon" sounds the very opposite of put together to me as it's not correct grammar