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For not calling DH to congratulate him on Arsenal winning the Premiership?

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FierceForester90 · 23/05/2026 15:35

Hubby is an Arsenal fan, has been as long as Ive known him but doesn't got to many matches. DS1 supports a local team, has a season ticket and is rather more passionate about his team.

This week I worked away and while I wasn't here Arsenal won the league. They didn't win it as a result of a match they were in they won it as a result of another team losing meaning they couldn't be caught.

Hubby has had a proper moan that all his mates messaged him to say congratulations and I didn't even ring. Im a bit miffed because if there had been an Arsenal game on that determined it id have kept track of the score.

He works as a Driving Instructor and every single time he has a student pass I text or call. I am always supportive of the things he achieves personally.

If he was at the level of supporting DH1 is I'd understand his annoyance. AIBU to think its a bit much?

OP posts:
Hassell · 23/05/2026 18:11

How can this otherwise be a happy relationship if something like this causes tension and disagreement??

chocolateaddictions · 23/05/2026 18:10

Seriously I don’t get this at all about football. My DH was congratulating his Arsenal mates and our DN who is a fan. I accept that I will never understand it.

ScotiaLass · 23/05/2026 18:07

Does he play for Arsenal? If not you are fine. Tell him he needs to grow up.

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FierceForester90 · 23/05/2026 18:06

Changingplace · 23/05/2026 16:01

What an idiot he is!

My ex once complained during an argument that I didn’t message/call him when Hulk Hogan died and other people did so I was clearly a heartless bitch, this amongst other reasons contributed to him becoming my ex.

I only wish I was joking here.

This has honestly made my day 🤣

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NConthe · 23/05/2026 18:06

Can’t believe you congratulate him every time a client passes their test 😂😂

AnnieBond · 23/05/2026 18:02

Thistooshallpsss · 23/05/2026 17:17

I’m not a football fan don’t get it really but was so made up for my husband when they won the premiership it makes him so happy that it makes me happy to see him. He’s been a fan for 70 years he’s not well so such a tonic for him. I love him so of course I’m pleased he’s happy. You can be pleased for someone you love if something nice happens even if they didn’t do anything to make it happen

Exactly ❤️

AnnieBond · 23/05/2026 17:56

Uptightmumma · 23/05/2026 16:28

When Liverpool won the league last year I didn’t speak to my husband for 24 hours and was 10
minutes from locking him and my then 8 year old out the house cos I couldn’t be bothered listening to them!! I am an Everton fan 😂😂😂😂

🤣🤣🤣well, that's fair enough!!

AnnieBond · 23/05/2026 17:55

Bunnyofhope · 23/05/2026 16:27

I think you are all mean spirited. If I knew something good had happened in someones life I'd phone to share their excitement if I remembered.
Id congratulate on a birthday, a pregnancy, someone's grandkids 11+ results, getting a place in the London marathon, someone's cat recovering.
How difficult is it to say 'Wow that's fantastic news, you must be thrilled, I'm so happy for you '
He's meant to be your friend fgs. Someone you want to make extra happy, especially when it would cost you so little!

I'm with you!!

I messaged an old friend who is a lifelong Arsenal Supporter because I knew how much the win would mean to him.

people are being ridiculous saying he isn't a player/manager.

its acknowledging his excitement of his team achieving something monumental.

@FierceForester90 I would have messsged him to acknowledge how pleased he must have been!!

MyArtfulGreySloth · 23/05/2026 17:54

This is probably the dumbest thing I’ve read online today 😂 of course you’re not being unreasonable. What a knob.

Youhadrambledonfor18pages · 23/05/2026 17:52

“all his mates messaged him to say congratulations”
but it’s not his achievement, how did he contribute to their success?! Why would you congratulate him? How strange, Yanbu.

PleaseAccepyMyUserNames · 23/05/2026 17:44

Why would you congratulate him; was he playing?! 😂

AnnieBond · 23/05/2026 17:43

Hassell · 23/05/2026 15:38

Is this spat still festering on this beautiful bank holiday weekend?

how do you know he moaned to all his mates?

actually - irrelevant, sounds all sounds a bit shit to me

She didn't say he moaned to all his mates.

C8H10N4O2 · 23/05/2026 17:39

FierceForester90 · 23/05/2026 16:41

Thanks all for your responses - I think its settled my point that it's not HIS achievement and so why would I? Hes not laboured the point si ce it eas said but it did make me wonder if I was being iu reasonable by not making a big deal out of it!

He’s an idiot but how often does he make the effort to congratulate your achievements and work?

I find the idea that you have to congratulate him for standard expected achievements in his job quite weird. A big promotion or special case possibly but every time someone passes a test seems fantastically needy.

Nevs · 23/05/2026 17:21

He works as a Driving Instructor and every single time he has a student pass I text or call.

What? 😂😂😂

Whyherewego · 23/05/2026 17:19

Congratulating him seems quite odd unless he was involved in the squad in some way !
I mean i have a bunch of friends who support Arsenal and I'd certainly make a comment to them next time I see them "bet you are happy" sort of thing but congratulations seems downright odd !

hypnovic · 23/05/2026 17:19

Was he playing? What a baby

Thistooshallpsss · 23/05/2026 17:17

I’m not a football fan don’t get it really but was so made up for my husband when they won the premiership it makes him so happy that it makes me happy to see him. He’s been a fan for 70 years he’s not well so such a tonic for him. I love him so of course I’m pleased he’s happy. You can be pleased for someone you love if something nice happens even if they didn’t do anything to make it happen

TomatoSandwiches · 23/05/2026 17:12

Changingplace · 23/05/2026 16:01

What an idiot he is!

My ex once complained during an argument that I didn’t message/call him when Hulk Hogan died and other people did so I was clearly a heartless bitch, this amongst other reasons contributed to him becoming my ex.

I only wish I was joking here.

😂😂😂😂

MyDeftDuck · 23/05/2026 17:11

So, you married a man child! FFS, tell the poor boy to get over himself!

Nonnim · 23/05/2026 17:11

Yabu, you should send him a special card

To My Dearest Darling Most Super Smashing Husband
I am so incredibly proud of you and your unswerving support for the best football team in the world, [insert team name here]. Thanks to this they have now won [insert name of tournament]!

Bigcat25 · 23/05/2026 17:07

Sounds childish. It's not like he personally was involved in the win so I'm not sure why he expects this.

Blueper · 23/05/2026 17:02

My DP is an Arsenal supporter, I'm not. He messaged me to say they'd won and I called and celebrated with him because it's something he loves and is fun, but he wouldn't expect me to know about it without him telling me!

ThisCandidMintGoose · 23/05/2026 17:01

TheTecknician · 23/05/2026 16:59

He'll be expecting a ripple of applause the next time he defecates coz he's such a big, clever grown-up boy. He might even point to it.

that would be more deserved, at least he would have been involved in it, and actually DONE something

ThisCandidMintGoose · 23/05/2026 16:59

Zanatdy · 23/05/2026 15:41

If he was a player or manager, fair enough but he is being ridiculous

I came to say this

It's not "a bit much" it's ridiculous to stay polite.

If you support Kate Middleton, do you get a phone call to congratulate you every time she looks good in an official engagement?

TheTecknician · 23/05/2026 16:59

He'll be expecting a ripple of applause the next time he defecates coz he's such a big, clever grown-up boy. He might even point to it.